Personal Essays
I Fell for an Online Con Artist…And It Still Feels Like Love

by Dori Hartley for YourTango I fell so deeply in love with the character she pretended to be that I lost myself. Once upon a time there was a lonely woman named Teresa Carter who lived in a small town in Southeastern Kentucky. She was an imaginative person and not without a brain; however, she […]

Dear Em & Lo
Why You Should Dump Someone Who’s Perfect for You

Dear Em & Lo, I am 23 years old and A, my boyfriend of four years, and I are currently four months into a long-distance relationship until I graduate from my university this summer and move across the country to be with him. I recently connected with J, a guy that I was seeing five […]

Your Call
Your Call: Why Did He Break Up with Me?

The “beyond my control” breakup scene in the film Dangerous Liasons We get a lot of questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to respond to a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your thoughts in […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Can I Downgrade a Booty Call to Friend (No Benefits)?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I have been reading […]

How To
10 Journal Prompts to Help You Get Over a Breakup

photo via flickr Two recent articles in the New York Times (here and here) discussed the benefits of writing things down to help you move on from a difficult situation. An aversion to exercise, for example, or trouble fitting in at a new job, or — the situation we hear about most often at — […]

How To
How to Organize Your Ex Out of Your Life

The two of us basically share a brain when it comes to this blog, and we are one hundred percent united on all the important issues in life, love, and dating: safe sex, orgasms for everyone, the superiority of flat-front pants, etc. But every now and then we have to resort to the first-person singular […]

Comment of the Week: DTMFA!

Reader Inness channeled her inner Dan Savage this week (DTMFA — look it up) with a heartfelt response to the post, “Help: My Inability to Orgasm Is Ruining My Relationship.” Now what we want to know is: How can we ensure that our snappy acronyms make it into the Urban Dictionary? DTMFA. This guy is shaming […]

Comment of the Week: Your Breakup Advice Sucks!

This week, reader Ultraviolet took us to task for our “ten easy steps” break-up advice in response to a post, “Your Call: How Do You Get Over Long-Term Heartbreak?” Consider her words a cautionary tale about holding onto bitterness and regret, living in the past… and not listening to yours truly, Em & Lo! Yeah, three years […]

Comment of the Week: Communicate or Cut Him Loose!

photo via Flickr This week,  our favorite comment came from TK in response to the “Your Call: The Relationship Is Great, the Sex Not So Much.” We love it when our readers deliver tough love so eloquently!: Most people who write in to advice columnists “know” the answer already. You may love this guy to […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: An Easy Trick to Avoid Ruining Your Relationship Forever

photo via flickr One reader emailed us their best relationship advice, not in response to a specific post, but just ’cause. So we wanted to share: Me and my girl broke up after 8 years together. She was wonderful and I was a fool. I did everything wrong. So my advice is:  if you’re thinking […]