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Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Is Sex on a First Date a Relationship Killer?

photo by kreetube Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Does sleeping with a guy on a first date really ruin my chances for a future relationship with him? What if it’s obvious we really like each other, the chemistry’s great, we have a lot in common, […]

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Your Call: Will Ground Rules Scare Off My Booty Call?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New […]

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Dear Em & Lo: How Do I Go from “Friends” to More?

Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I’ve known this girl “Ashley” since high school band eight years ago. We instantly hit it off as friends the day we met because of our mutual liking of illegal substances. I know it’s cliche, but I’ve had a crush […]

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Wise Guys: What Turns a Hook-Up Into a Girlfriend?

Advice from three of’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What turns a hook-up into a girlfriend?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): Intimacy and laughter are what turn a hook-up into a lasting relationship. Continued intimacy and laughter will then lead to marriage […]

How To
The 25 Rules of the Booty Call

Most people don’t talk about booty calls. That’s part of their appeal: “We don’t have to endlessly com-mu-ni-cate because we’re not in a serious relationship.” People rely on a tacit understanding when it comes to casual sex with their friends and neighbors, and especially their exes. But it’s silly to assume that everyone “understands” the […]

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Dear Em & Lo: He Says It’s Just Sex, But Then He Holds My Hand

photo via flickr Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I met this guy through Facebook. We met up at a bar he goes to all the time. When I come walking in he does a double take. We hit it off right off the bat! Yeah! […]

Comment of the Week: Why First-Date Sex Isn’t a Relationship Killer

Reader Lisa said the following in response to the (oldie-but-goodie) post “Wise Guys: Is Sex on a First Date a Relationship Killer?” When you go out with a guy, he’s already decided what he wants out of that relationship, whether it be a LTR or a one night stand. You just have to learn how […]

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Can Open Relationships Cure Jealousy?

We’ve always said that if you want to be in an open relationship, it helps if you’re the kind of advanced human being who is missing the jealousy gene. (Neither of us comes even remotely close, for the record.) It just seems like, if you’re going to be cool with your one-and-only kissing someone else […]

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Top 10 Sex Tips for First Year College Students

photo from Colgate University For many young men and women, this week marks the start of a new chapter of life — one of higher learning, critical thinking, problem solving, horizon broadening, and lots and lots of casual bonking. It’s a whole new world of unchaperoned independence and freedom combined with 18-year-old hormones — which […]

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Dear Em & Lo: Did I Ruin Things By Sleeping with Him Too Soon?

photo via flickr G’day mates (yep I’m Australian), Okay, the scenario: Met a guy on a Friday at a shop. Swapped numbers and he asked me out. I couldn’t that weekend cause I was busy with my bday party. He texted me Saturday night to ask how the party was going and mentioned he was close by. […]