Casual Sex
Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Is Casual Sex Really That Great?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I haven’t […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What Makes for a Memorable One-Night Stand?

photo by Helga Weber Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What makes for a memorable (in a good way) one night stand?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Colin Adamo): Often the fun part of a one-night stand is in the spontaneity, […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Oops! I Forgot to Use Condoms

photo by trec_lit Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been sleeping with this guy for about three weeks, and our semi-non-relationship began the night after he broke up with his girlfriend of 8 months. We used a condom the first couple times, but then we stopped. I’m on the Pill and while I’m not worried about […]

Research
Women Have Casual Sex for…Pleasure?

photo by e.esders It may not be news to any of you ladies out there who’ve enjoyed the thrill of a no-strings-attached hook-up, but for those who buy into the evo-psych pop notion that women are only interested in high-status resource providers rather than hotties (i.e. the opposite of men’s supposed eternal motivations) there’s a […]

Research
Social Networking Leads to Oscar Nominations, Casual Sex

The movie The Social Network scored eight Oscar nominations last week, but that’s not the only way in which social networking, lower case, is scoring. According to a poll conducted by Men’s Fitness and Shape magazines (not exactly the ivory towers, we know, but the sex and dating research coming out of there is often just […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys – Would You Accept a Free Pass for a One-Night Stand?

photo by balinto Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “If a guy’s partner told him that he could have a one-night stand with a stranger, no questions asked, and it was guaranteed that his partner wouldn’t freak out about it later — would most guys take their partner […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys – When Can I Expect (or Make) the Post-Sex Call?

photo by SYD_Rahim Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “If I sleep with a new guy and everything went great — long talk beforehand, great chemistry, lots in common, orgasms all around — when can I reasonably expect a call from him? And will the number of days […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, Did I Put Out Prematurely?

photo by Frank H Dear Em and Lo, OK, here’s a complicated question, but I’m not fond of roadside psychics, so you guys are my best bet. I’ve been carrying on a flirtation with a local bartender for about a month now. The other night, the flirtation led to drinks at a neighboring bar, and […]

Research
One-Night Stands Can So Lead to Beautiful Relationships

photo by e.esders Before we started writing about sex, we had no idea that so many scientists and researchers spent time so much time studying our sexual proclivities. These days we have trouble thinking of anything sexual that hasn’t been qualified and quantified and written up in a science journal. Take the age-old issue of […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: You, Em & Lo, Owe Us All an Apology

We received the following in response to our Metro article on negotiating a night of casual sex. Sometimes, it’s the hate mail that brings us the most joy: I read your “article” in Metro this morning. Ironically I NEVER read that rag but for some reason I did this morning and I’m glad…it is critical […]

Research
The Power of Teenage Love

photo by Pink Sherbet Photography A study by Bill McCarthy of the University of California and Eric Grodsky of the University of Minnesota found that teens in romantic sexual relationships have similar school experiences to virgins. Meanwhile, students who engage in NON-romantic sexual activity (hook-ups, friends with benefits, etc) were found to be more likely […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, Is Physical Attraction in Friendship a Gift or a Curse?

photo by Vivian Chen Dear Em & Lo, Is physical attraction a gift or a curse? I’m writing this because a friend and I have been friends for a year. Let’s just say we’ve had our share of up and downs. From us being friends with benefits to helping him deal with his crazy ex-girlfriend. I […]

How To
10 Simple Steps to Hosting a Sexy Sleepover

photo by SFBNess If you’re planning on having a new guest over to “look at your etchings” for the first time, follow these 10 rules to ensure there’s a next time: Only invite a guest over when you won’t have to rush out the door the next morning. Warn any roommates that you will be […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo – How Can I Dump Him If He Won't See Me?

photo by faster_panda_kill_kill Dear Em & Lo, So I have this guy friend who I met my freshmen year at college. We used to hang out a lot together and, well, I ended up liking him. The only problem was that he sometimes did not seem to feel the same way towards me. He would flirt back and […]

How To
Overnight Handbag Redux

photo by dunikowski A few weeks ago we did a post on the ideal contents of a woman’s purse, should she find herself suddenly having a casual sleepover. Well, you guys reamed us. Deservedly so in a few cases (we phoned some of it in); undeservedly, we thought, in a few others (especially considering we […]

Celebrities
Sex Degrees of Separation

We, Em & Lo, worked with and are friends with (and Lo was apt-mates with) Jessica Baumgardner, who married Irad Eyal, which is our connection to the new book “Sex Degrees of Separation.” Irad has just turned his unhealthy obsession with celebrity hook-ups into an exhaustive encyclopedia that combines the idea of “six degrees of […]