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Dear Em & Lo – How Can I Dump Him If He Won't See Me?

photo by faster_panda_kill_kill Dear Em & Lo, So I have this guy friend who I met my freshmen year at college. We used to hang out a lot together and, well, I ended up liking him. The only problem was that he sometimes did not seem to feel the same way towards me. He would flirt back and […]

How To
Overnight Handbag Redux

photo by dunikowski A few weeks ago we did a post on the ideal contents of a woman’s purse, should she find herself suddenly having a casual sleepover. Well, you guys reamed us. Deservedly so in a few cases (we phoned some of it in); undeservedly, we thought, in a few others (especially considering we […]

Celebrities
Sex Degrees of Separation

We, Em & Lo, worked with and are friends with (and Lo was apt-mates with) Jessica Baumgardner, who married Irad Eyal, which is our connection to the new book “Sex Degrees of Separation.” Irad has just turned his unhealthy obsession with celebrity hook-ups into an exhaustive encyclopedia that combines the idea of “six degrees of […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Withdrawal Is Not an Option

A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: “I thought you said you were going to pull out.” In the dark, I could still see his expression, startled yet a little defiant, as if the fact that he had just come inside me without the safety barrier […]

How To
The How To's of Designated Dialing

photo by sidewalk_flying Drunk dialing — we’ve all been there. For the record, not all booty calls conducted under the influence are considered drunk dialing. It’s only drunk dialing if you’re making a call that you will actually regret in the morning, whether or not that call results in booty. Typically when you drunk dial, […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys – What Do You Think After a One-Night Stand?

photo by foxtongue Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What are most guys thinking when they wake up after a one-night stand?” Gay Single Guy (Daniel): Seriously, it depends if a guy is sober and/or can remember how he got into bed with so-and-so. The alcohol factor is […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo – When Undefined Relationships Go Wrong…

photo by Katie Tegtmeyer [Note to readers: This advice letter is loooong but it was impossible to edit down without affecting the story. And also, we felt it was only right that you got to read the whole long messy debacle that we responded to!] Dear Em & Lo, I am a 26-year-old woman and […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Buddhism, the New Tactic of Players

photo by Chi King Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: Twenty-first century men are stuck between the macho and the metrosexual. They are told to be tough yet sensitive, strong yet vulnerable, careless yet compassionate. The manifestations of this straight man’s limbo differ […]

How To
Best Walk of Shame Accessory Ever

Okay, so the marketing materials for these shoes don’t specifically mention walks of shame, but we are not afraid to point out the obvious. Because the only thing worse than a walk of shame on a Sunday morning in a glittery short dress is doing that walk of shame in a pair of heels that […]

Pop Culture
One-Night Stand Wisdom from '80s Song Lyrics

When we published “How to Greet a Former One-Night Stand” on our site last week, Madamoiselle L suggested the worst way ever to do so: “Hey, how are you doing? Oh, I’d like you to meet your son.” To which Spes responded, “Wasn’t there an ’80s song about that?” Reader SS to the rescue! “Googling […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo – How Can I Connect with Someone Before Sex?

photo from Summit Entertainment Hello Ladies! I am a single thirty-year-old woman who hasn’t had sex in a year. The problem isn’t that I couldn’t be having sex, I’ve got prospects, the issue is my desire to avoid the same patterns my relationships have followed thus far. I am genuinely sexually adventurous but I have […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: When HE Puts Out Too Soon

photo by e.esders Just to prove that it’s not only women who fall hard on a first date, get swept up by their libido, and never hear from said date again… I met this beautiful gal on a dating website. We had a second date, had a great time, spent the entire day together. At […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Don't Do Drunken Hookups

photo by nayrb7 A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: I woke up one morning after an evening chugging most of a jug of $3 wine and several cups of that uniquely collegiate concoction “jungle juice.” Head pounding, eyes squinting, and stomach lurching, I realized there […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Can I Tell If He Wants More Than Sex?

photo by sinabeet Dear Em & Lo, I have a male friend whose company I enjoy very much (I’ve known him for about 3 months). He’s very much attracted to me (or he just wants sex) and we hang out when we can and talk on the phone almost everyday. We are both single at the moment and […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: I Love Sex! Does That Make Me a Slut?

Dear Em & Lo, Lately, my need for sex has been UNQUENCHABLE. It’s reached the point where I’ve roped two booty calls into alternating nights. Am I a slut for doing this? I’m worried that I’m becoming addicted to sex — and I’m only 23! I’ve always had a high sex drive but I’ve never […]

Dear Em & Lo
When Your Booty Call Wants to Spoon

Picture from our debut column in Metro For some people, casual sex is no longer the sole goal of a booty call; casual intimacy has come into (the) play. We call this The Free Trial: Some people can sample cheese in Whole Foods and keep on shopping, while others immediately purchase five pounds of super-aged […]