Cheaters
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Dear Em & Lo: In Defense of Cheating on My Husband

Dear Em & Lo, I’ve read your books and love your website, but I notice you are against any infidelity and look down on those who have affairs, but you’re okay with swinging and group sex and anal sex probes and bisexuals and all kinds of things that normal folks (who occasionally stray) find disgusting. […]

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BDSM Saved My Life, But Is Ruining My Near Perfect Marriage

Okay, so this letter below from one of our readers is super long, and it’s not nearly as memerific as Kickstarter potato salad or photos of celebrities without makeup. But trust us, it’s worth the read. It’s from a man who is married to the woman of his dreams — they love each other’s company, […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: Are My Dreams Telling Me He’s Cheating Again?

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I am in a relationship of 4 years and […]

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Your Call: Is Intellectual Inequality a Deal Breaker?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

Confessions
Extra-Marital Sex: Ask for Permission, Not Forgiveness

Reader Vixen told the following cautionary tale in response to our post, “Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?” Remember, dear readers: Most people find it easier to get over infidelity than dishonesty in their spouse. The sooner you say something — preferably before you actually cheat — the better. My […]

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Your Call: Revenge on My Ex Didn’t Work, I Feel Worse Than Ever

image via Wiki Media We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments […]

Vids
I F’ed Up Royal: A Tale of Infidelity, Told in Stock Photography

Our friend Ben Weber just added a second series to I F’ED UP ROYAL, his hilarious and strange webseries about marriage and infidelity, told entirely via stock photography and “repurposed” photos. Don’t worry if you’re not caught up — you can watch an entire season in less time than it takes you to do a 7-minute workout. Episode […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Boyfriend and I Both Dreamed I Cheated

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: What does it mean if I dream I cheated on […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My “Friend” Tried to Get Frisky with Me

photo via Flickr Every week or so we answer queries from you, dear readers, about your love lives. You can submit your own question — anonymously! — via our contact form here. Dear Em & Lo I believed that I had met a wonderful man who became a friend. About a year ago, he was […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: How to Fall In Love with Your Wife Again

Reader John wrote the following in response to the post, “Comment of the Week: I’m Jealous of My Wife’s Friends.” It’s a long one, but stick ’til the end (just as he did, sorta) — you’ll be glad that you did! About two years ago, I had mentally drifted away from my wife of over twenty […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New […]

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Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Uses Dating Sites for “Conversation”

photo via flickr Dear Em & Lo I’m in a different city from my boyfriend of 3+ years, studying for a degree. On my last visit home I discovered he has profiles on several dating websites, and his inbox is full of messages with attractive strangers. I confronted him about it twice, and both times […]

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Dear Em & Lo: Should I Stay with a Cheat for My Newborn Baby?

Dear Em & Lo, I am engaged to the father of my child. Since I met him, it has been one problem after another. He has brought debt into my life; there is a rumor that goes around that he is sleeping with my co-workers; I just found out that any time he goes on […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: I Forgave Husband His Affair, Now I Can’t Enjoy Sex with Him

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. Submit Your Own Question to […]

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Dear Em & Lo: I Cheated on My Boyfriend And Don’t Regret It

Dear Em & Lo, So I am currently in a relationship with my boyfriend of 8 years, going on 9. We have been together since high school and are now in our mid twenties. I love him very much and used to see myself spending the rest of my life with him up until just a […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: 9 Reasons Why Women Cheat

Long-time reader (and unofficial EMandLO.com sage!) Johnny said the following in response to our post “Blog Snog: Why Women Cheat — A Married Man Goes Undercover”: Women cheat because:  They are no longer sexually excited by their partners. They are no longer emotionally excited by their partners. Their partners are no longer sexually or emotionally […]