College
Personal Essays
Confession: Withdrawal Is Not an Option

A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: “I thought you said you were going to pull out.” In the dark, I could still see his expression, startled yet a little defiant, as if the fact that he had just come inside me without the safety barrier […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Buddhism, the New Tactic of Players

photo by Chi King Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: Twenty-first century men are stuck between the macho and the metrosexual. They are told to be tough yet sensitive, strong yet vulnerable, careless yet compassionate. The manifestations of this straight man’s limbo differ […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Don't Do Drunken Hookups

photo by nayrb7 A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: I woke up one morning after an evening chugging most of a jug of $3 wine and several cups of that uniquely collegiate concoction “jungle juice.” Head pounding, eyes squinting, and stomach lurching, I realized there […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I’m an Expert Sexter

photo by CoreForce Our contributor is a junior in college. And that’s all she’s willing to say. Except this… Sexting, for the uninitiated, involves sending texts that are sexual in nature. These can range from straightforward (e.g. “I want to fuck you right now”) to graphically descriptive (use your imagination). And, if you’re brave — or, […]

Your Call
Your Call: Is 19 Too Young to Relocate for Love?

Dear Em & Lo, I’m 19 years old, and have been dating my boyfriend for eight months. However, we live 3 hours away from each other.  This hasn’t caused any problems yet, we get to see each other most weekends and the relationship is going great.  We fit together perfectly in all aspects of our […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Need More Hot Sweaty . . . Cuddling

photo by Leeni Speaking of casual cuddling: Our contributor Abby Spector, who is double-majoring in English and Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: It has been exactly a year since I last had sex. I didn’t intend on taking a vow of celibacy. Like belly button lint and shocking celebrity deaths […]

Personal Essays
The Virgin Diaries: “Becoming a Woman” Sucked

photo by krossbow Our contributor Katherine Chen, who is a sophomore English major at Princeton University (check out her personal site here), is penning a series of confessions for EMandLO.com collectively called “The Virgin Diaries.” Here’s her first installment: At ten years old, I was an early receiver of Mother Nature’s red-ribbon gift for women. […]

News
Tufts University Creates a Campus of Sexiles

photo by methTICALman Ah, college. The beer pong, the all-nighters, the walks of shame, the pillow over your head so you can’t hear your roommate’s drunken hook-up… Well, Tufts University has gone and ruined the last of these fond memories. A new campus policy is meant to deal with an issue that was previously managed […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Weight Gain Killed My Sex Life

Our contributor is a student at an East coast university. And that’s all she’s willing to say. Except this… There’s something about the heat of the summer sun that makes everyone a little more frisky, a little more excited, a little more promiscuous — it’s the season of bathing suits, little clothing, late-night dates, sex on […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I’m Gonna Keep My (Hypothetical) Baby

Our contributor Abby Spector, who is double-majoring in English and Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: “If you got pregnant, you’d have an abortion — right?” Max asked during our customary post-coital cuddle a few months back. My mind began to spin. For the seventeen years I had been a virgin, […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Alcohol Saved My Sex Life…But Hurt It Too

photo via freeparking Our contributor Abby Spector, who is double-majoring in English and Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: All my sex life, I’ve had a love-hate relationship with alcohol. Not because it provokes the desire but takes away the performance, as Shakespeare once said. No, my problem is that it […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Had a Friend with Benefits…and Drawbacks

photo by rileyroxx Our contributor Ryan, who blogs at Student Loans for Beer Money, has a confession to make: I learned a lot of tough lessons my first year of college. For instance, cucumbers aren’t the only things that can be pickled (thanks to maniacal levels of on-campus alcohol consumption). And, more importantly, having a […]

Advice
10 Things a Grown Woman Should Never Have

Poster of Robert Doisneau’s “Le baiser de l’hôtel de ville” via Art.com The Men’s Health article “18 Things a Grown Man Should Never Have” made us think we should have dated more Men’s Health readers back in our single days. (“10. A name for his penis. Even if it’s a really clever name. … 13. […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: He Says He Just Wants to Hook Up But Doesn't Act That Way

photo by jeroen_bennink Dear Em & Lo, I met this guy who is really sweet and nice.  He is 20 and I am 21.  We’ve hung out a few times and I am starting to like him.  Then, I saw him at a fraternity party the other night (although he does not go to my […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Porn Makes My Heart Grow Fonder

photo by TheNaughtyAmerican.com One of our female friends currently in college, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: I watch porn. That’s right, I said it: Porn. It’s a word that, among females especially, can be pretty taboo. Watching porn is simply not the ladylike thing to do; it’s for ball-scratching, horny […]

Personal Essays
Confession: My Boyf and I Are Going on a Break

photo by Matt Seppings Our contributor Kristine deGuzman, a junior at UC Berkeley, has a confession to make: I’m studying abroad in Spain over the summer, and my boyfriend and I have decided to go on a break, because, as he puts it, “This is a once in a lifetime opportunity. When else are you […]