What “Intelligent Design” Has to Say About Strap-On Sex

We love a good burn — and a good burn that overturns gender-based stereotypes about sex is even better. Which is why we couldn’t resist featuring MVP commenter Johnny’s zinger this week, which was in response to an old-school nay-sayer in our (ever popular) conversation surrounding the post, “Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with […]

The Myths of “Neat” Labia & Big Boobs in Porn

Emma P, the founder of and (both of which aim to show that body parts aren’t “better” or “worse,” just “different), took issue with a few of our points in the recent post, “10 Myths About Labia Debunked“: I do have a big problem with what you’ve written in myth #8 about porn performers: MYTH #8: […]

How to Deal with a Partner’s Bisexuality

Jessica replied to our post, Your Call: I Can’t Handle My Boyfriend’s Bisexuality with some sage advice delivered via her own personal story: Unlike a lot of people on this thread I have not had any real traumatic experiences with my relationship. My boyfriend and I had been together for 7/8 months when I found out about is […]

Watching Porn Can Make You Selfish in Bed

Reader layday had this to say in response to our post, “My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm”: I am not a psychologist of any sort, but it does make me wonder if your husband [a man who doesn’t seem to take his wife’s orgasms into account] watches pornography? When a person […]

You Don’t Have to Walk on Eggshells Around a Guy with a Small Penis

A really interesting conversation took place recently in the comments section of our post, “Is It Okay to Use a Vibrator That’s Bigger Than My Boyfriend?” In situations like this, we always tend to advise readers toward kindness, and also to letting the guy take the lead in terms of dildo size. But a reader named Jon […]

Comment of the Week
8 Ways to Get Him to Focus on YOUR Orgasm for a Change

The following excellent advice from “CaspianC” came in response to the post “My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm.” We’ve taken the liberty of editing it ever-so slightly into an easy-to-read list (our additions are in brackets).  I was in the same situation. Well, it’s an ongoing issue, but it’s getting better. […]

8 Tips for Getting Over a Breakup from the Inside Out

Reader Sam said the following in response to our post, “How to Get Over a Breakup (in 10 Easy Steps)”: I’m going through an awful breakup — years of addictive patterning, back and forth etc etc. I think tackling it as a physical, spiritual and emotional issue works best. 1) Immediately find a grief and […]

How Meditation Can Help You Achieve an Orgasm

Reader Alex said the following in response to our post, “How Do You Round the Final Bend When Sex Feels Amazing But You Don’t Orgasm?” I also have this problem. I believe that it has to do with how well you can “release” your mind. I have a really hard time just mentally letting go, […]

Bigger Doesn’t Necessarily Mean Better

Reader LuckyGirl recently responded to My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me with the kind of comment more men need to hear. One important caveat to her otherwise sound response: 5.5 inches is not small, it’s average. Ok, I’d been with my husband for 25 years before he passed away. I considered him […]

The Pros & Cons of a Wife Bonus

It’s the topic that just keeps on giving! First, we wrote about the new book, “The Primates of Park Avenue” (actually, we imagined several responses to the book about rich men giving their wives bonuses for “good performances” in poem form). Then we had to feature The Best of #WifeBonus on Twitter — because it […]