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Comment of the Week: 6 Rules of the Pre-Relationship Fuck-Buddy Couple

Reader Arielle wrote a nice response to the post How Often Do Fuck Buddies Become Girlfriends?, basically outlining the 6 rules of having a fuck buddy who you might want to turn into a partner some day: All of my relationships have been fuck buddies that turned into relationships.  Twice I’ve gotten my heart broken because the guy was […]

In Defense of Sex Toys, Feminism and Trolls

For the most part, we tend to ignore the trolls. But every once in a while, outlandish claims need to be addressed to ensure that reality-based facts win over fear, insecurity and hate. In response to a post about a woman whose inability to orgasm without a sex toy was hurting her boyfriend’s feelings, one […]

Comments of the Week: Sexuality Is Fluid

photo via flickr We loved these two responses this week to our post, “Your Call: I Was Bi, But Now I’m Not Attracted to Men. What Happened?” The first is from reader (and frequent Comment-of-the-Weeker!) Nikki: You should look up “fluid.” That might be you. Some people’s sexual orientation shifts over time. In fact, some […]

Comments of the Week: The Sexual Satisfaction & Compatibility Quiz

photo via Wiki Commons This week, in response to our Your Call question “My Husband and I Don’t Care That We Don’t Have Much Sex. Should We?“, two of our MVPs were quick on the draw with spot-on answers. First, Nikki wrote: This sounds like more of the tyranny of “normal.” If you have a […]

A Better Vocabulary for Bisexuality

Reader David wrote the following in response to our post, “Confession: The Problem with Bisexuality”: I prefer ‘birelational’ over ‘bisexual’. It is not just about sex. ‘Biromantic’ fits as well. Of course there is always the ‘pansexual’ or ‘panrelational’ or ‘panromantic’ terminology. I don’t think the whole homosexual, heterosexual or bisexual thing is much good […]

Comment of the Week: You Just Cracked Us Up!

We recently received a Facebook message that warmed the cockles of our hearts, and since we’re totally shameless when it comes to self-promotion, we thought we’d share it with you. Gerry, you made our month! Dear Em & Lo, I’m writing to tell you that I just finished laughing so hard, I’m pretty sure it […]

How to Have Kinky Sex with Your Vanilla Husband

photo via Wikimedia Commons Reader subgirl said the following in response to our post, “He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?”  Heads up, everyone in a mixed-cone, chocolate-swirl-slash-vanilla relationship, there is hope! I am a submissive woman and I have a wonderful vanill-ish husband who plays along with me. We communicate our needs to one […]

Comment of the Month: Do NOT Try This at Home!

We’ve gotten some outrageous letters over the years: one from the guy asking us if he could get STDs from the corpses he was having sex with at the morgue; another from a couple inquiring how they could get their German Shepard to have consensual sex with the woman while the man watched. We try […]

Why I Told My Boyfriend He Could Marry My Daughter

Something’s Gotta Give: Jack Nicholson chooses mother over daughter Reader Momma wrote the following in response to our post, “Your Call: When Your Partner’s Fantasies Are Seriously Disturbing.” Before leaping to judgment, dear readers, consider this: The couple below can talk about anything. They trust each other completely, and this has led to them being completely […]

You Don’t Have to Like Men and Women Equally to Be Bi

Reader Peet wrote the following in response to a personal essay on our site, “(My) Bisexuality Is Really Not That Complicated.” Note: The line quoted by Peet was not stated as a fact by the original author, but rather as an example of the “sloppy stereotypes” about bisexuality. “Bisexuals must desire both genders equally or they’re not […]