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Why No Blowjobs Can Be a Dealbreaker for Men

photo via flickr Last week we published reader Sara’s impassioned comment about blowjobs, and how they are not an inalienable right. This week, we are publishing two responses to her by two of our equally thoughtful, passionate, intelligent male readers, Derek and Steve. Can we just say how much we love that a debate like […]

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Comment of the Week: Blow Jobs Aren’t an Inalienable Right

In an impassioned response to our post, “Your Call: She Doesn’t Like Going Down,” reader Sara doesn’t pull any punches when discussing those who prioritize sex acts over actual people. She really gets going in the fourth paragraph!: You know what makes it easier to like something? Being able to choose freely whether to do it […]

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Comment of the Week: Your Breakup Advice Sucks!

This week, reader Ultraviolet took us to task for our “ten easy steps” break-up advice in response to a post, “Your Call: How Do You Get Over Long-Term Heartbreak?” Consider her words a cautionary tale about holding onto bitterness and regret, living in the past… and not listening to yours truly, Em & Lo! Yeah, three years […]

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Comment of the Week: Communicate or Cut Him Loose!

photo via Flickr This week,  our favorite comment came from TK in response to the “Your Call: The Relationship Is Great, the Sex Not So Much.” We love it when our readers deliver tough love so eloquently!: Most people who write in to advice columnists “know” the answer already. You may love this guy to […]

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Telling People Not to Get Married Young Makes Them Narcissistic

Reader Joseph recently took us to task for our advice to a twenty-four-year-old woman who said she likes her co-worker more than her boyfriend, but feels like maybe she should stay with her boyfriend because they have a “solid” relationship and her friends and family adore him. Our advice, in a nutshell, was, “Be twenty-four.” Have […]

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Comment of the Week: An Easy Trick to Avoid Ruining Your Relationship Forever

photo via flickr One reader emailed us their best relationship advice, not in response to a specific post, but just ’cause. So we wanted to share: Me and my girl broke up after 8 years together. She was wonderful and I was a fool. I did everything wrong. So my advice is:  if you’re thinking […]

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Comment of the Week: Give Your Spouse More Credit

photo via Flickr When a reader asked “Is Intellectual Inequality a Deal Breaker?“, Henry’s response concisely showed how having a better attitude — i.e. being more generous, looking at things from a more positive perspective — can make all the difference in a relationship:  I’ve been married 14 years. I’ve always thought my non-college educated woman a […]

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Comment of the Week: How to Really Talk About Sex with Your Spouse

photo via Wikimedia Reader Nikki dropped some serious wisdom this week in response to our post, “BDSM Saved My Life, But Is Ruining My Near Perfect Marriage” (we’re thinking we may have to start a Kinksters Anonymous support group to help out all these kink-stressed marriages): Oh, damn. This is a tough situation. It sounds […]

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Comment: It’s Not Appropriate to Teach Your Kids About Oral

A reader calling themselves “Normal Person” (as opposed to the rest of you perverts, we suppose?) took us to task for our list of “10 Things We Will Tell Our Sons About Sex.” For the record, our sons are both three, so our Serious Conversations with them are currently limited to the importance of sharing toys, […]

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Comment(s) of the Week: Be Smart About Respect

It’s a tie between two responses to our Your Call post Is Intellectual Inequality a Deal Breaker? — both of which are great advice for any relationship. First, Dannie said:  This is a question that ultimately only you can answer, because only you know your priorities.  Is intelligence the most important thing to you?  On the flip […]

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Comment of the Week: What Porn Gets Wrong About Female Pleasure

photo via flickr Reader grainne said the following in response to our post, “Comment of the Week: How to Get Past His Porn Habit”. We found this point really interesting — that many women are bothered by porn not because they find it offensive, per se, but because they think it misleads men regarding what […]

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Extra-Marital Sex: Ask for Permission, Not Forgiveness

Reader Vixen told the following cautionary tale in response to our post, “Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?” Remember, dear readers: Most people find it easier to get over infidelity than dishonesty in their spouse. The sooner you say something — preferably before you actually cheat — the better. My […]

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Comment of the Week: Top 4 Reasons Why Guys Turn Down Casual Sex

Our MVP, reader & contributor Johnny, does it again — this time in response to our post “Wise Guys: Do Men Ever Turn Down Casual Sex?” What we really like is how the genders in this comment could be switched and the points would still be relevant (just switch “prove our manhood” to “prove our […]

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Comment of the Week: How to Know If Porn Is a Deal Breaker

Reader misspiggy said the following in response to our post, Wise Guys: My Girlfriend Says Porn Is a Dealbreaker, Is She Right? I think the guy should talk it through with his girlfriend and find out if her issue is with the ethics of porn production, or the whole concept of porn itself. If it’s […]

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Comment of the Week: Porn Is No Biggie

photo via Flickr Reader Jessica wrote the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: He Looks at Other Women But Gets Jealous If I Ogle Men“: I used to be one of those women, when I was younger, who would fly off the handle if I saw my boyfriend looking at another woman. After going through […]

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Comment of the Week: Missing My Wife Is Not “Immature”

photo via flickr Reader Stephen wrote the following in response to our post, “Your Call – Why Is My Husband Jealous of My Female Friendships?” I struggle with this as well. I too am over the age of 50, and don’t consider it “acting like a 3 year old”. After 20 years of marriage and […]