Communication
Dear Em & Lo
What to Do When You Say “I Love You” Too Soon

Hi Em & Lo, I just started dating this guy and recently we were making out, it was going well, he started to go down on me. I wanted to tell him “I love it when you go down on me” but it came out as ” I love you..when you do that.” He paused […]

How To
8 Easy Ways to Tell If It’s Love… Or Lust

by Caithlin Pena for YourTango  | photo via Flickr Love, lust: it’s easy to confuse the two, especially in the early stages of a relationship. Both emotions make you feel a kind of bliss that you’ve never experienced before – which is wonderful and joyous and something to celebrate – but make sure you know […]

Confessions
How to Have Kinky Sex with Your Vanilla Husband

photo via Wikimedia Commons Reader subgirl said the following in response to our post, “He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?”  Heads up, everyone in a mixed-cone, chocolate-swirl-slash-vanilla relationship, there is hope! I am a submissive woman and I have a wonderful vanill-ish husband who plays along with me. We communicate our needs to one […]

How To
36 Questions to Ask a Date Instead of Playing Mind Games

photo via flickr Dating is so mired in game-playing and pickup moves these days that it’s amazing anyone ever ends up finding lasting love. So we’re huge fans of any approach that manages to cut through all that B.S. For example, many years ago — before we each found lasting love, against those game-playing odds […]

Dear Em & Lo
Once More with Feeling: Why He Didn’t Call

photo via flickr Dear Em & Lo, I am interested in this man and I think he is interested in me.  I will call him if I am in his area and ask him to grab a drink with me and my friends.  This is usually last minute.  The past two times he was busy […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: DTMFA!

Reader Inness channeled her inner Dan Savage this week (DTMFA — look it up) with a heartfelt response to the post, “Help: My Inability to Orgasm Is Ruining My Relationship.” Now what we want to know is: How can we ensure that our snappy acronyms make it into the Urban Dictionary? DTMFA. This guy is shaming […]

Dear Em & Lo
4 Ways to Tell a Guy You’ve Been Faking

Are you a liar, liar, whose pants, unfortunately, are not on fire at all? If you’ve been faking orgasms with your boyfriend or husband, you need to fess up — after all, the only way to get orgasms is to be honest about what does and doesn’t work for you. You know all this, right? […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Do I Tell Him I Don’t Like His Weight Gain?

photo via IMDB We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader.   Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear Em & Lo, My husband and […]

Wise Guys
What It Means When a Man Won’t Cuddle or Hold Hands

photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “If the guy I’ve started dating recently isn’t into cuddling or hand-holding, is that automatically a sign that he’s just not that into me, or are some guys just not into private or public displays of affection, no matter […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Should She Stay or Should She Go?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. We seem to be getting a lot of bad boyfriend letters lately — maybe these women just need to hear […]