Communication
Is “I Love You, But…” Always a Dealbreaker?

Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear Em & Lo, What do I do when a guy says he loves me, but he won’t commit to being my boyfriend? Does he really love me? — Miss Interpreted Dear M.I., Here’s your short answer: Run away! No, he doesn’t really […]

The Whisper App Will Make You Despair for Humanity

photo via flickr All the buzz right now about anonymous secret-sharing apps like Whisper, Secret, and Yik Yak makes us feel really old — after all, PostSecret has been doing this for almost a decade already. The main difference, of course, is that PostSecret requires you to put some thought into your secret: You mail […]

That Pesky C-Word

“The ultimate sexist put-down: the prick which lies down on the job. The ultimate weapon in the war between the sexes: the limp prick. The banner of the enemy’s encampment: the prick at half-mast. The symbol of the apocalypse: the atomic warhead prick which self-destructs. That was the basic inequity which could never be righted: […]

When Do I Tell a New Partner I Want an Open Relationship?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. You can leave your advice in the comments section below.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear […]

Dear Em & Lo: My Husband Photoshopped My Nude Photos

photo by cogdogblog Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear Em & Lo, While on our honeymoon, we took advantage of a rainy day to stay lazily in our beautiful hotel room all day. We crossed a boundary we hadn’t crossed before: nude photography! We’d been playing with the […]

Dear Em & Lo: My “Friend” Tried to Get Frisky with Me

photo via Flickr Every week or so we answer queries from you, dear readers, about your love lives. You can submit your own question — anonymously! — via our contact form here. Dear Em & Lo I believed that I had met a wonderful man who became a friend. About a year ago, he was […]

Comment of the Week: How to Fall In Love with Your Wife Again

Reader John wrote the following in response to the post, “Comment of the Week: I’m Jealous of My Wife’s Friends.” It’s a long one, but stick ’til the end (just as he did, sorta) — you’ll be glad that you did! About two years ago, I had mentally drifted away from my wife of over twenty […]

Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Doesn’t Want to Go On Dates Anymore

If only all couch potatoes looked like this Dear Em & Lo, I have been married and divorced and only just started to date again. Been with this guy for 8 months now. No problems with him lying, cheating, etc. Started off great. Going out, spending time with each other. But of recent months the […]

Comment of the Week: BDSM Is More About Trust Than Ropes & Chains

Sutra Chainlink Cuffs by LELO Reader sex_is_weird_thats_all said the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies, Too?” Despite the people who end up in the news, there is usually in any metropolitan area a very legit BDSM community. I have a group of friends that includes a sizable chunk […]

How to Tell a Vanilla Partner About Your Kink

We frequently hear from readers who are struggling with an imbalance of kink in their relationship — one partner is vanilla while the other is decidedly chocolate-swirl-fudge. So we asked Richard Wagner, a.k.a. Dr. Dick (seriously), the author of the new book The Gospel of Kink: A Modern Guide To Asking For What You Want And […]