Communication
Dear Em & Lo
4 Ways to Tell a Guy You’ve Been Faking

Are you a liar, liar, whose pants, unfortunately, are not on fire at all? If you’ve been faking orgasms with your boyfriend or husband, you need to fess up — after all, the only way to get orgasms is to be honest about what does and doesn’t work for you. You know all this, right? […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Do I Tell Him I Don’t Like His Weight Gain?

photo via IMDB We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader.   Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear Em & Lo, My husband and […]

Wise Guys
What It Means When a Man Won’t Cuddle or Hold Hands

photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “If the guy I’ve started dating recently isn’t into cuddling or hand-holding, is that automatically a sign that he’s just not that into me, or are some guys just not into private or public displays of affection, no matter […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Should She Stay or Should She Go?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. We seem to be getting a lot of bad boyfriend letters lately — maybe these women just need to hear […]

How To
How to Tell If Your Partner Is Emotionally Abusing You

by YourTango  |  photo via flickr Is it possible that you are being abused and not even know it? Abuse is not always as obvious as being hit or shoved, called degrading names or cussed out. In fact, it can very well be underhanded or subtle. You may find yourself feeling confused about the relationship, […]

Uncategorized
Comment of the Week: Communicate or Cut Him Loose!

photo via Flickr This week,  our favorite comment came from TK in response to the “Your Call: The Relationship Is Great, the Sex Not So Much.” We love it when our readers deliver tough love so eloquently!: Most people who write in to advice columnists “know” the answer already. You may love this guy to […]

How To
10 Worst Things About Married Sex

Before all the married people out there take offense, we should note that we are both married, and happily so. We’re not curmudgeons; we already listed the 10 Best Things About Married Sex — and for the record, those ten things were way easier to come up with! — but we believe firmly in looking at both sides […]

How To
5 Ways the Meyer Briggs Test Can Improve Your Relationship

Having different personality types affects your relationship more than you realize. Are you like me? In a relationship with someone vastly different from you? Whenever I am planning a trip, I start thinking about what I am going to pack at least three weeks ahead of time. I have created a master packing list of […]

Wise Guys
Do Guys Really Care If Their Girlfriend Has a Higher Body Count?

photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Does the average hetero guy really care if his girlfriend/wife has had sex with more people than he has? And if so, why? Straight Married Guy (Jamie): I may be somewhat in the minority here in that, while I […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Missing My Wife Is Not “Immature”

photo via flickr Reader Stephen wrote the following in response to our post, “Your Call – Why Is My Husband Jealous of My Female Friendships?” I struggle with this as well. I too am over the age of 50, and don’t consider it “acting like a 3 year old”. After 20 years of marriage and […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: How Great Should First-Time Sex with a New Partner Be?

photo via Flickr Dear Em and Lo, I was married for 20 years and now I am not.  I’m not crying in my soup (is that the term?). I’ve learned a lot about what makes for a crappy relationship and bad sex. And I have gained a sense of humor, sexual confidence and a pretty […]

Confessions
The Three Make-or-Break Issues In Every Relationship

Reader Blah Blah Blacksheep (best username ever, by the way!) said the following in response to our post Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed? Money, sex, and kids are the three make-or-break things in every relationship. A spender will have a hard time being with a saver. Two dominants or […]

Dear Em & Lo
Is “I Love You, But…” Always a Dealbreaker?

Dear Em & Lo, What do I do when a guy says he loves me, but he won’t commit to being my boyfriend? Does he really love me? — Miss Interpreted Dear M.I., Here’s your short answer: Run away! No, he doesn’t really love you! Here’s your long answer: Run away! Run away! Run away! Run away! Run away! Run […]

Pop Culture
The Whisper App Will Make You Despair for Humanity

photo via flickr All the buzz right now about anonymous secret-sharing apps like Whisper, Secret, and Yik Yak makes us feel really old — after all, PostSecret has been doing this for almost a decade already. The main difference, of course, is that PostSecret requires you to put some thought into your secret: You mail […]

How To
That Pesky C-Word

“The ultimate sexist put-down: the prick which lies down on the job. The ultimate weapon in the war between the sexes: the limp prick. The banner of the enemy’s encampment: the prick at half-mast. The symbol of the apocalypse: the atomic warhead prick which self-destructs. That was the basic inequity which could never be righted: […]

Dear Em & Lo
When Do I Tell a New Partner I Want an Open Relationship?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. You can leave your advice in the comments section below.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear […]