Communication
How To
How to Have More Sex Without It Feeling Like a Chore

According to new research, having more sex may actually make couples less happy — if they feel like they’re being told to have more sex. The Carnegie Mellon study, published in the Journal of Economic Behavior & Organization, studied 64 heterosexual married couples between 35 and 65 years old. Group one was told to have […]

Wise Guys
Do Guys Really Hate Talking on the Phone?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following:  Why do guys seem to hate talking on the phone? Gay Single Guy (Daniel): My suspicion is that it has to do with how most straight guys talk, or rather, don’t talk. Straight men seem to not indulge in gossip and tangential […]

Dear Em & Lo
Knowing When to Talk to Your Partner… Or Your Therapist

The following letter from a reader is really long. Like, really long. (And this is the abridged version!) But we’re publishing it here because we think it raises a really interesting, important question about relationships: How can you tell when you’re talking too much? And how can you tell when you need a therapist as […]

How To
5 Good Reasons Not to Fake Your Orgasm

by Amanda Chatel for YourTango You’re really not as good at it as you may think you are. It has long been one of those discussions that comes up both in and out of the bedroom: are you faking it or not? Faking an orgasm, that is. Sadly there are actually those out there who end […]

How To
10 Questions to Ask Each Other Before Getting Married

We’re not talking here about the kinds of questions everyone should ask each other before deciding to get married — things that could be actual deal-breakers, like, Do you want kids? And, Are you a member of the Republican party? No, these ten questions are things you should ask each other in order to have […]

Dear Em & Lo
What to Do When You Say “I Love You” Too Soon

Hi Em & Lo, I just started dating this guy and recently we were making out, it was going well, he started to go down on me. I wanted to tell him “I love it when you go down on me” but it came out as ” I love you..when you do that.” He paused […]

How To
8 Easy Ways to Tell If It’s Love… Or Lust

by Caithlin Pena for YourTango  | photo via Flickr Love, lust: it’s easy to confuse the two, especially in the early stages of a relationship. Both emotions make you feel a kind of bliss that you’ve never experienced before – which is wonderful and joyous and something to celebrate – but make sure you know […]

Confessions
How to Have Kinky Sex with Your Vanilla Husband

photo via Wikimedia Commons Reader subgirl said the following in response to our post, “He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?”  Heads up, everyone in a mixed-cone, chocolate-swirl-slash-vanilla relationship, there is hope! I am a submissive woman and I have a wonderful vanill-ish husband who plays along with me. We communicate our needs to one […]

How To
36 Questions to Ask a Date Instead of Playing Mind Games

photo via flickr Dating is so mired in game-playing and pickup moves these days that it’s amazing anyone ever ends up finding lasting love. So we’re huge fans of any approach that manages to cut through all that B.S. For example, many years ago — before we each found lasting love, against those game-playing odds […]

Dear Em & Lo
Once More with Feeling: Why He Didn’t Call

photo via flickr Dear Em & Lo, I am interested in this man and I think he is interested in me.  I will call him if I am in his area and ask him to grab a drink with me and my friends.  This is usually last minute.  The past two times he was busy […]