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Comment of the Week: Communicate or Cut Him Loose!

photo via Flickr This week,  our favorite comment came from TK in response to the “Your Call: The Relationship Is Great, the Sex Not So Much.” We love it when our readers deliver tough love so eloquently!: Most people who write in to advice columnists “know” the answer already. You may love this guy to […]

How To
10 Worst Things About Married Sex

Before all the married people out there take offense, we should note that we are both married, and happily so. We’re not curmudgeons; we already listed the 10 Best Things About Married Sex — and for the record, those ten things were way easier to come up with! — but we believe firmly in looking at both sides […]

How To
5 Ways the Meyer Briggs Test Can Improve Your Relationship

Having different personality types affects your relationship more than you realize. Are you like me? In a relationship with someone vastly different from you? Whenever I am planning a trip, I start thinking about what I am going to pack at least three weeks ahead of time. I have created a master packing list of […]

Wise Guys
Do Guys Really Care If Their Girlfriend Has a Higher Body Count?

photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Does the average hetero guy really care if his girlfriend/wife has had sex with more people than he has? And if so, why? Straight Married Guy (Jamie): I may be somewhat in the minority here in that, while I […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Missing My Wife Is Not “Immature”

photo via flickr Reader Stephen wrote the following in response to our post, “Your Call – Why Is My Husband Jealous of My Female Friendships?” I struggle with this as well. I too am over the age of 50, and don’t consider it “acting like a 3 year old”. After 20 years of marriage and […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: How Great Should First-Time Sex with a New Partner Be?

photo via Flickr Dear Em and Lo, I was married for 20 years and now I am not.  I’m not crying in my soup (is that the term?). I’ve learned a lot about what makes for a crappy relationship and bad sex. And I have gained a sense of humor, sexual confidence and a pretty […]

Confessions
The Three Make-or-Break Issues In Every Relationship

Reader Blah Blah Blacksheep (best username ever, by the way!) said the following in response to our post Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed? Money, sex, and kids are the three make-or-break things in every relationship. A spender will have a hard time being with a saver. Two dominants or […]

Dear Em & Lo
Is “I Love You, But…” Always a Dealbreaker?

Dear Em & Lo, What do I do when a guy says he loves me, but he won’t commit to being my boyfriend? Does he really love me? — Miss Interpreted Dear M.I., Here’s your short answer: Run away! No, he doesn’t really love you! Here’s your long answer: Run away! Run away! Run away! Run away! Run away! Run […]

Pop Culture
The Whisper App Will Make You Despair for Humanity

photo via flickr All the buzz right now about anonymous secret-sharing apps like Whisper, Secret, and Yik Yak makes us feel really old — after all, PostSecret has been doing this for almost a decade already. The main difference, of course, is that PostSecret requires you to put some thought into your secret: You mail […]

How To
That Pesky C-Word

“The ultimate sexist put-down: the prick which lies down on the job. The ultimate weapon in the war between the sexes: the limp prick. The banner of the enemy’s encampment: the prick at half-mast. The symbol of the apocalypse: the atomic warhead prick which self-destructs. That was the basic inequity which could never be righted: […]

Dear Em & Lo
When Do I Tell a New Partner I Want an Open Relationship?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. You can leave your advice in the comments section below.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear […]

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Dear Em & Lo: My Husband Photoshopped My Nude Photos

photo by cogdogblog Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear Em & Lo, While on our honeymoon, we took advantage of a rainy day to stay lazily in our beautiful hotel room all day. We crossed a boundary we hadn’t crossed before: nude photography! We’d been playing with the […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My “Friend” Tried to Get Frisky with Me

photo via Flickr Every week or so we answer queries from you, dear readers, about your love lives. You can submit your own question — anonymously! — via our contact form here. Dear Em & Lo I believed that I had met a wonderful man who became a friend. About a year ago, he was […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: How to Fall In Love with Your Wife Again

Reader John wrote the following in response to the post, “Comment of the Week: I’m Jealous of My Wife’s Friends.” It’s a long one, but stick ’til the end (just as he did, sorta) — you’ll be glad that you did! About two years ago, I had mentally drifted away from my wife of over twenty […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Doesn’t Want to Go On Dates Anymore

If only all couch potatoes looked like this Dear Em & Lo, I have been married and divorced and only just started to date again. Been with this guy for 8 months now. No problems with him lying, cheating, etc. Started off great. Going out, spending time with each other. But of recent months the […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: BDSM Is More About Trust Than Ropes & Chains

Sutra Chainlink Cuffs by LELO Reader sex_is_weird_thats_all said the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies, Too?” Despite the people who end up in the news, there is usually in any metropolitan area a very legit BDSM community. I have a group of friends that includes a sizable chunk […]