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“I Fought For Your Freedom to Hate Me” — A Trans Veteran Speaks Out

Thanks to President Trump, trans veteran Carla Lewis must endure a tragic case of déjà vu: Each morning when I wake, I hit social media and the news. Sharing something profound or humorous is how I like to start my day. Believe me when I tell you, I was in complete shock when I read a […]

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Why Men Ask You About Their Size (& How You Should Answer)

Pete had some interesting (and some potentially controversial) thoughts in response to our post “If He Asks About Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?“: When a guy asks this question, there could be a lot of reasons for asking: 1. He might want to compete against other guys (“Am I better than other guys?”) […]

Personal Essays
Learning to Love Your Body Is a Life-Long Endeavor

Learning to love your body? It’s a marathon, not a sprint. I took off my shirt and my confidence plummeted. I was at home, staring at my naked stomach in the mirror, but I felt like I’d just been punched in the gut.  On either side of my belly, 3 inches (give or take) of […]

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Comment of the Week: Lazy Lovers Should Be Left, Period

Truthserum had some tough love for all the women with lazy lovers like the letter writer of “My Husband, a Selfish Lover, Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm.” (We edited down her response for clarity): Lazy Lovers Should Be Left I’m sorry, but a lot of you women on here sound really pathetic. […]

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Can You Guess Which of These Cats Is Female?

A choose your own gender-venture! Our family recently adopted two kittens. We had our pick of the litter, so we figured we’d get a girl and a boy, just like our two kids. They decided to name the girl Rey and the boy Po. (Star Wars fans relax: for whatever reason — let’s call it artistic license — […]

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Comment of the Week: When Tab A Doesn’t Fit into Slot B

Lily had this to say in response to the post “What Position Should Little Ol’ Me Use with My Big Boyfriend?“: Sex can be extremely complicated, especially if you are a heady, nervous and insecure type (like me). I have yet to sleep with someone I am 100% comfortable around and assume it must have some […]

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Comment of the Week: Not ALL Men Like Getting BJs

Nordica recently responded to the post “Dear Em & Lo, I HATE Receiving Blowjobs,” with a comment that might be music to some givers’ ears: Anyone who thinks ALL men like BJs is believing a false-narrative. I’m a dude, and I hate, I mean, HATE getting BJs. Not due to religious reasons, teeth, trust, insecurities, history […]

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The Incredible Shrinking Millennial Marriage

Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge.  I may be a member of a new endangered species: The millennial who wants to get married young — or even just the millennial who wants to get […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Saying “Yes”and Finally Meaning It

KERRY NEVILLE — author of the award-winning short story collection, Necessary Lies, and the forthcoming collection, Remember To Forget Me — writes of the long road toward true consent.   Natalie and I played boyfriend and girlfriend: She was “Michael” and I was “Rebecca.”  We would walk around the block holding hands and when we reached […]

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Comment of the Week: How Important Is Penis Size? Not Much!

Reader Dave went on an epic rant in response to several posts on penis size, here, here, and here. He had a lot of wise, insightful things to say on the topic, so we took the liberty of editing them together (and throwing in a few more synonyms for “cock,” you know, just to mix […]

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Confession: I Dated a Trump Supporter

Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge.    When I met my ex-boyfriend as a freshman in college, he was tall, funny, and bought me a taco. We did improv together and laughed at the […]

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Comment of the Week: Why Monogamy, Not Polygamy, Is the Norm

Reader Charles recently posted his theory as to why monogamy rules in the comments section of our post “Top 10 Reasons to Be — and Stay — Non-Monogamous.” Jump into the debate in the comments below: To be blunt, the most effective method of doing something dominates. As a central economic tenant states “A firm that […]

Personal Essays
Why You Can Be a Feminist and Still Like It Rough

Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge.  “Just because you like to be tied up, spanked, and called ‘bitch,’ doesn’t mean you’re a bad feminist.” — Em & Lo, “The Big Bang” The first time […]

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An Everywoman’s Visceral Reaction to the Election of Trump

A few days after November 8th, I was talking to a friend, a progressive everywoman, who said she couldn’t stop crying or throwing up. I wasn’t sure if she was kidding. “Are you really throwing up?” She said yes, that she could only manage the occasional piece of chocolate and cup of tea, even though […]

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Considering the 30-Day Sex Challenge in a 16-Year Marriage

by Jennifer Munn My husband just suggested to me that we have sex every day for thirty days. Seriously. SERIOUSLY? When it comes to sex, while I definitely like it (and have even been known to love it on occasion),  I don’t frequently seek it out. In fact, sometimes I pointedly dodge it. Why do I avoid thee? Let me […]