Confessions
Personal Essays
An Everywoman’s Visceral Reaction to the Election of Trump

A few days after November 8th, I was talking to a friend, a progressive everywoman, who said she couldn’t stop crying or throwing up. I wasn’t sure if she was kidding. “Are you really throwing up?” She said yes, that she could only manage the occasional piece of chocolate and cup of tea, even though […]

Personal Essays
Considering the 30-Day Sex Challenge in a 16-Year Marriage

by Jennifer Munn My husband just suggested to me that we have sex every day for thirty days. Seriously. SERIOUSLY? When it comes to sex, while I definitely like it (and have even been known to love it on occasion),  I don’t frequently seek it out. In fact, sometimes I pointedly dodge it. Why do I avoid thee? Let me […]

Personal Essays
On the 10th Anniversary of Our DIY Wedding

Ten years ago today, Joey and I were married — untraditionally, feministically, fantastically. By the spring of 2006, we knew we were going to be together, but we weren’t sure we were going to exchange vows. As a little girl, I had never dreamed of my big day with a big white dress and a big white […]

Confessions
The Great Strap-On Debate: Can a Woman Pressure Her Boyfriend to Get Pegged?

Every few months, a new debate pops up in the comments section of one of our most popular, evergreen posts — “Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-On” — written by an anonymous female contributor a few years ago. The standard fare is usually something tired about how “it’s gay and feminizing […]

Confessions
“Stop Relying on Your Dick to Please a Woman”

Apologies if we seem to be beating off a dead horse here: our last Comment of the Week was related to penis size, as well. But we can’t help it! This topic gets some of the best, most thoughtful and helpful responses from our amazingly enlightened readers. Behold,  RodR‘s smart reconceptualization of sex: I think […]

Confessions
A Straight Man’s Take on Rape Culture

As usual, Johnny had something thoughtful to say. This past week it was about rape culture, thanks to the Stanford rape case in the news: You know… as a straight man you think “rape culture” is bullshit when you learn about it. You believe that a tiny percentage of men are rapists, and since they’re sociopaths, there’s no […]

Advice
37 Signs Your Relationship Is About to End

We once asked our readers, “How do you know when a relationship is about to end?” Looking back over the replies, we realized that, as a whole, their answers make a pretty good guide to impending doom. Here are our 37 favorite responses: 1. “When I hate to see the man eat, I know things […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I’m a White-Picket-Fence Feminist

Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: My armpits are hairy. I study gender and sexuality. The Birkenstocks in my closet are held together by duct tape. If it were the sixties, my bra would probably be burning in the town square (if women had actually […]

Personal Essays
The Virgin Diaries – How Video Games Taught Me What Sexy Is

Our contributor Katherine Chen, who is a sophomore English major at Princeton University (check out her personal site here), is penning a series of confessions for EMandLO.com collectively called “The Virgin Diaries.” Here’s her fourth installment: From the moment I spotted her sitting on a shelf at a local Best Buy, I knew I wanted […]