Crime
How To
Top 10 Sex Tips for College Students (Especially First-Years)

For many young women and men, the end of August marks the start of a new chapter of life — one of higher learning, critical thinking, problem solving, horizon broadening, and lots and lots of casual bonking. It’s a whole new world of unchaperoned independence and freedom combined with 18-year-old hormones — which can result […]

How To
How to Define “Classic Rape”

Last week, a UK judge proved just how real “rape culture” is: In response to a jury quickly finding a man guilty of raping a woman who was passed out on his couch, the judge offered these condolences to the criminal (i.e. not the victim): “It’s sad to see a man of generally good character […]

Websites
Highlights from #YesAllWomen

The Twitterstorm known as #YesAllWomen that’s blown up over the past week — in response to both the misogyny-fueled killing spree at UCSB last Friday and the misguided hashtag “NotAllMen” that took off shortly thereafter — has shined a bright light on how much more work needs to be done dismantling idealogical sexism. Here’s a […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Boyfriend Doesn’t Care About My Assault

photo via Flickr Each week, Lauri tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means here on EMandLO.com. Here’s this week’s: I had an odd dream. I was going to a movie with my boyfriend and they were searching people. He got searched and then walked on ahead while I took my turn. The guy searching […]

Dream Interpretation
My Meds Are Making My Dreams Sexually Terrifying

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, another reader continues the running Sapphic theme and asks Lauri: I have recently been diagnosed with depression and […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Boyfriend and I Cut Each Other with a Knife

photo via flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I’m alone in my boyfriend’s parents’ house, all of a sudden […]

Pop Culture
Top 10 Sexual Extremes in Film

Some things to keep in mind about our list: To make the cut, the films actually had to have some redeeming qualities (so, sorry BOXING HELENA and HUMAN CENTIPEDE!). We tried to pick films that represented ten different extremes — after all, variety is the spice of (sex) life! And while some of the “extremes” in this list are […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, Are Rape Fantasies Normal…If I’m a Rape Survivor?

Dear Em & Lo, I’m not sure if I’m going to word this correctly, but here it goes. I’m 20 years old and am engaged to a wonderful man who has blessed me with a son. Before I met him I had a bad life and I had been raped 3 times. Lately during sex […]

News
Top 5 Kinds of Illegitimate Rape

photo by DonkeyHotey on Flickr A big thank you to Missouri Republican Senate candidate and House Committee Member on “Science, Space and Technology,” Todd Akin (pictured above), for finally saying what no one else has had courage to say publicly: that there’s legitimate rape (you know the type: big, scary, minority stranger breaks into your house in the […]