Dear Em & Lo
Knowing When to Talk to Your Partner… Or Your Therapist

The following letter from a reader is really long. Like, really long. (And this is the abridged version!) But we’re publishing it here because we think it raises a really interesting, important question about relationships: How can you tell when you’re talking too much? And how can you tell when you need a therapist as […]

Comment of the Week: How to Pay for Dinner, and How to Let Someone Else Pay

MVP commenter Johnny weighs in on our post “Who Do Men Think Should Pay On a Date?” We would say that his final line, “Two drinks buys you nothing but a chance,” should be put on T-shirts and handed out to college guys across the country. Except that certain fraternity members would probably take this to […]

Wise Guys
Who Do Men Think Should Pay on a Date?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Who should pay on a first date? Gay Committed Guy (Terence): A general rule that you can’t go wrong with: whoever asked their date out should pay. Real simple, eh? Now if you want  to be real smooth, then if A asked […]

How To
6 Tips for How to Date Without Drinking (Plus Tips for Drinkers Dating Teetotalers)

by Laura Barcella for YourTango  |  photo via flickr Single and sober? Stay healthy with advice and tips on dating without alcohol. You don’t want to know the ludicrous number of possible love connections I’ve squashed by getting sloshed on a first or second date. The things that have come out of my mouth—both figuratively and literally—on […]

Wise Guys
What Men Really Think About Dating Older Women

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “What do men in general think about dating older women, or cougars?” Straight Married Guy (Jim): The cougar seems like a largely positive stereotype and I’m all for it.  However, the importance of not dressing like you just chalked your first ID cannot […]

How To
Why You Should Ditch Tinder and Give Out Your Number Instead

photo via flickr We’re normally pretty skeptical of the click-baity headlines in Men’s Health magazine. 4 Week Fat Shredder! 12 Scientific Ways to Look Smarter! How Listening to Your Mom Can Make You Fat! But we really loved the recent article by David Amsden, called “Give Her Your Number.” (Amsden is the author of the […]

Wise Guys
Can You Sleep Over If You Just Want to Cuddle on an Early Date?

 photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “What do you guys think of a new date who wants to sleep over but doesn’t want to have sex?” Straight Single Guy (Max): Personally, I say bravo. The longer you make me work for it, the better everything […]

Dear Em & Lo
What to Do When You Say “I Love You” Too Soon

Hi Em & Lo, I just started dating this guy and recently we were making out, it was going well, he started to go down on me. I wanted to tell him “I love it when you go down on me” but it came out as ” I love you..when you do that.” He paused […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Do You Know If It’s Settling or Being Smart

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Leave your suggestions in the comments section below.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, […]

Pop Culture
LELO’s First Movie Explores Modern Intimacy… Without Sex Toys

You may know LELO as the creator of some of your favorite pleasure objects, but now they would also like you to think of them as movie people… though it’s all still in the interest of intimacy. Sex toy skeptics like to claim that bedside accessories reduce intimacy, inserting a piece of high-end silicone where […]