Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Dublin)

  If you constantly have to talk about how smart/cool/deep you are to your date, then you are none of those things. As your 9th grade English teacher at Deerfield should have taught you: show, don’t tell.   PDA should have some limits. Yes, you’re out and about on an amazing date in a cool […]

Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (San Antonio)

Don’t suffer through an outdoor date if the weather is bad. We don’t care if you’ve rented out CitiField for the evening: if it’s colder than a witch’s tit outside, jog once around the bases and then get yourselves inside to a deluxe box and stay there! Adapt to the situation — it’s what helped […]

8 Ways That Dating and Therapy Are Basically the Same Thing

By Alex Alexander I’m not romancing my shrink, but it does feel a little like it. There I was for the very first time, meeting my brand new therapist. Thoughts run through my head: Will I like him/her? What will this be like? Does he or she already know my deepest, darkest thoughts? What if […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Kaitlyn’s First Dates)

The Bachelor/ette franchise may have finally been completely ruined for us last nigth after Amy Schumer’s guest appearance during one of Kaitlyn’s group dates. That’s how brilliant she was, turning the show into what it really should be, what it was meant to be. Schumer was her usual, inappropriately hilarious self, but it’s a testement […]

How To
5 Signs You’re Dating a Pickup Artist

You’re a straight woman, and you like this guy. You have fun, you have chemistry, and then you have sex. At which point, he seems to disappear. But not totally. Sound familiar? Chances are he’s read the Pick Up Artist lit and is following it to a T. Below, read up on the 5 tell-tale […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Why Won’t He Get to Know Me?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. This woman asked her question in the comments section of the post How Often Do F-Buddies Become Girlfriends? Tell it […]

Wise Guys
Do Guys Really Hate Talking on the Phone?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following:  Why do guys seem to hate talking on the phone? Gay Single Guy (Daniel): My suspicion is that it has to do with how most straight guys talk, or rather, don’t talk. Straight men seem to not indulge in gossip and tangential […]

Dear Em & Lo
Why You Should Dump Someone Who’s Perfect for You

Dear Em & Lo, I am 23 years old and A, my boyfriend of four years, and I are currently four months into a long-distance relationship until I graduate from my university this summer and move across the country to be with him. I recently connected with J, a guy that I was seeing five […]

Dear Em & Lo
Knowing When to Talk to Your Partner… Or Your Therapist

The following letter from a reader is really long. Like, really long. (And this is the abridged version!) But we’re publishing it here because we think it raises a really interesting, important question about relationships: How can you tell when you’re talking too much? And how can you tell when you need a therapist as […]

Comment of the Week: How to Pay for Dinner, and How to Let Someone Else Pay

MVP commenter Johnny weighs in on our post “Who Do Men Think Should Pay On a Date?” We would say that his final line, “Two drinks buys you nothing but a chance,” should be put on T-shirts and handed out to college guys across the country. Except that certain fraternity members would probably take this to […]