Etiquette
Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: Porn Is No Biggie

photo via Flickr Reader Jessica wrote the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: He Looks at Other Women But Gets Jealous If I Ogle Men“: I used to be one of those women, when I was younger, who would fly off the handle if I saw my boyfriend looking at another woman. After going through […]

Polls
Poll: Is the Gym Off-Limits as a Pick-Up Spot?

photo via Flickr Recently, Johnny, one of our most loyal commenters, posted the following in response to our Blog Snog partner’s article “Guys of Reddit share the cheesy pickup lines that actually kind of work“: The lesson behind those corny pickup lines is that women like an outgoing guy. It’s not the lines that worked […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: How to Talk About Penis Size with Your Man

photo via Flickr Reader Tony offers the following answer to the post question “If He Asks About Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?” : I would try as much as possible to stay with a response that is both kind and honest.  As a man, if my partner is trying to stick to those two principles I […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Won’t Go Down on Me

photo via Flickr Dear Em and Lo, When my boyfriend and I started seeing each other he made it clear he had a problem with performing oral sex and so I’ve never asked him to do it as, after all, I wouldn’t want to do something I wasn’t comfortable with or wouldn’t enjoy. However, after […]

TV
Top 5 Love Lessons Learned from The Bachelorette (S 9, Ep 6)

photo via ABC.com There are no imperfect places to fall in love in the entire resort world. None. Yes, yes, do take your date by the hand in the middle of some boring event, run out into a nearby secluded corridor, press them up against the wall and kiss them passionately, please, yes, do that. […]

How To
6 Rules for Outdoor Sex

photo via Flickr Now that the weather’s turning warmer, many people are overcome by two urges: to get outside and to get it on — two great tastes that taste great together! And so the season of outdoor sex has begun — is there anything more all-American worth celebrating this July 4th? But it’s not […]

Websites
People “Lean In” to Facebook’s Policies on Gender-Based Hate Speech

This is an update of last week’s post (see below): Our book group just read “Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead” by Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg. According to its Amazon descrip, she (and let’s be honest, her writing and research team) examine “why women’s progress in achieving leadership roles has stalled, explains the […]

Dear Em & Lo
Should I Take My Boyfriend to an Orgy?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, Last night, while watching […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: No Slut-Shaming, Please

It’s not the length of the comment, but it’s content. This week, we loved Nikki’s short and to-the-point comment on this week’s “Your Call”:  How Do I Get Over All the Sex She’s Had Before Me? Ugh. “Slutty?” What exactly makes her slutty? Having had sex before you came around? Enjoying sex too much? If you have […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, I Secretly Used My Wife’s Sex Toy…Up My Butt

Billy, LELO’s male massager Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Hello Ladies, I am a married guy who occasionally reads your site for some ideas to share with my wife.  It seems like anal play both for him and her is a popular topic. My wife enjoys some occasional backside […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: The Real Reason They Never Call

photo via Flickr An interesting exchange about the call that never comes occurred in the comments section of the post “Wise Guys: Why Didn’t He Call When He Said He Would?” Johnny, we’ll take your kinder, gentler pickup techniques over more aggressive, mean-spirited “attack” approaches any day: Phonecall Says: The problem is not them NOT calling, […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Learn to Work with What You’ve Got

Sweetness is a woman after our own hearts: Size does matter but it’s all relative, Insert tab A into slot B, what works for one person may not work for another… It’s like she’s transcribing right out of one of our sex manuals! Whether she’s a kindred spirit, a super fan, or a plagiarist, we’re fans […]

Pop Culture
The Valentine’s Day Issue

The Best Valentine’s Day Present Ever! The top 10 reasons why our new book 150 Shades of Play makes the best Valentine’s Day present ever! 10 Easy Ways to Be More Romantic Romance is contagious. So the best way to get your partner to be more romantic is to be more romantic with them first. How […]

How To
How to Let Someone Down Easy

photo via Real Simple Each month, Real Simple magazine runs an expertise column in which 5 experts give their best advice on a particular subject. This month, we had the honor of being one of those experts. The topic this month was how to reject someone nicely (necessary info for a lot of people during […]

How To
The Top 5 Writing Lessons of Fifty Shades of Grey

The biggest selling book of 2012 was Fifty Shades of Grey. Not only has it introduced many people to the world of kink, it’s given them a lesson in how not to write. And if a lack of literary merit isn’t going to slow down sales, well, at least people can learn about the elements of style while […]