Dear Em & Lo
Should I Take My Boyfriend to an Orgy?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, Last night, while watching […]

Comment of the Week: No Slut-Shaming, Please

It’s not the length of the comment, but it’s content. This week, we loved Nikki’s short and to-the-point comment on this week’s “Your Call”:  How Do I Get Over All the Sex She’s Had Before Me? Ugh. “Slutty?” What exactly makes her slutty? Having had sex before you came around? Enjoying sex too much? If you […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, I Secretly Used My Wife’s Sex Toy…Up My Butt

Billy, LELO’s male massager Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Hello Ladies, I am a married guy who occasionally reads your site for some ideas to share with my wife.  It seems like anal play both for him and her is a popular topic. My wife enjoys some occasional backside […]

Comment of the Week: The Real Reason They Never Call

photo via Flickr An interesting exchange about the call that never comes occurred in the comments section of the post “Wise Guys: Why Didn’t He Call When He Said He Would?” Johnny, we’ll take your kinder, gentler pickup techniques over more aggressive, mean-spirited “attack” approaches any day: Phonecall Says: The problem is not them NOT calling, […]

Comment of the Week: Learn to Work with What You’ve Got

Sweetness is a woman after our own hearts: Size does matter but it’s all relative, Insert tab A into slot B, what works for one person may not work for another… It’s like she’s transcribing right out of one of our sex manuals! Whether she’s a kindred spirit, a super fan, or a plagiarist, we’re fans […]

Pop Culture
The Valentine’s Day Issue

The Best Valentine’s Day Present Ever! The top 10 reasons why our new book 150 Shades of Play makes the best Valentine’s Day present ever! 10 Easy Ways to Be More Romantic Romance is contagious. So the best way to get your partner to be more romantic is to be more romantic with them first. How […]

How To
How to Let Someone Down Easy

photo via Real Simple Each month, Real Simple magazine runs an expertise column in which 5 experts give their best advice on a particular subject. This month, we had the honor of being one of those experts. The topic this month was how to reject someone nicely (necessary info for a lot of people during […]

How To
The Top 5 Writing Lessons of Fifty Shades of Grey

The biggest selling book of 2012 was Fifty Shades of Grey. Not only has it introduced many people to the world of kink, it’s given them a lesson in how not to write. And if a lack of literary merit isn’t going to slow down sales, well, at least people can learn about the elements of style while […]

How To
The 25 Rules of the Booty Call

Most people don’t talk about booty calls. That’s part of their appeal: “We don’t have to endlessly com-mu-ni-cate because we’re not in a serious relationship.” People rely on a tacit understanding when it comes to casual sex with their friends and neighbors, and especially their exes. But it’s silly to assume that everyone “understands” the […]