Etiquette
How To
7 Tips for Determining Who Pays on a Date

photo via Flickr Dates may be cheap but they ain’t never free. So who coughs up? Whoever did the asking pays for the date. This is 2014, people, it’s so last century to assume the man always gets it. However, if you’ve been asked out, you should always assume you’ll be going dutch to avoid […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Blow Jobs Aren’t an Inalienable Right

In an impassioned response to our post, “Your Call: She Doesn’t Like Going Down,” reader Sara doesn’t pull any punches when discussing those who prioritize sex acts over actual people. She really gets going in the fourth paragraph!: You know what makes it easier to like something? Being able to choose freely whether to do it […]

Wise Guys
What Guys Really Think When a Woman Has Sex on the First Date

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Does sleeping with a guy on a first date really ruin my chances for a future relationship with him? What if it’s obvious we really like each other, the chemistry’s great, we have a lot in common, and we’re both horny?” Straight […]

Wise Guys
Why He Didn’t Call or Text When He Said He Would

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Why didn’t he call  (or text/email/Gchat/et al) when he said he would? Straight Married Guy (Matt): There’s a simple answer to this one: it doesn’t matter. Most women I know get very worked up over this, and it never helps anything. It […]

How To
Straight Guys: How to Respond to Being Hit On by a Woman

photo via Flickr A note to straight men: We’re constantly hearing you guys complain that you still have to do almost all of the pick-up leg-work. But then when a woman does attempt to hit on you in a bar, a lot of you turn around and call her “desperate” — even in 2014! (Er, […]

TV
The Bachelorette: What Happens in the Fantasy Suite Stays in the Fantasy Suite?

screen shot of ABC’s “After the Final Rose” Last night’s “After the Final Rose” was the most dramatic ever! Not because the Bachelorette (Andi Dorfman) got engaged to a guy (Josh “I Can’t Put My Arms Down” Murray) after only knowing him for two and a half months and only going on, like, three dates […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: Porn Is No Biggie

photo via Flickr Reader Jessica wrote the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: He Looks at Other Women But Gets Jealous If I Ogle Men“: I used to be one of those women, when I was younger, who would fly off the handle if I saw my boyfriend looking at another woman. After going through […]

Polls
Poll: Is the Gym Off-Limits as a Pick-Up Spot?

photo via Flickr Recently, Johnny, one of our most loyal commenters, posted the following in response to our Blog Snog partner’s article “Guys of Reddit share the cheesy pickup lines that actually kind of work“: The lesson behind those corny pickup lines is that women like an outgoing guy. It’s not the lines that worked […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: How to Talk About Penis Size with Your Man

photo via Flickr Reader Tony offers the following answer to the post question “If He Asks About Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?” : I would try as much as possible to stay with a response that is both kind and honest.  As a man, if my partner is trying to stick to those two principles I […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Won’t Go Down on Me

photo via Flickr Dear Em and Lo, When my boyfriend and I started seeing each other he made it clear he had a problem with performing oral sex and so I’ve never asked him to do it as, after all, I wouldn’t want to do something I wasn’t comfortable with or wouldn’t enjoy. However, after […]

TV
Top 5 Love Lessons Learned from The Bachelorette (S 9, Ep 6)

photo via ABC.com There are no imperfect places to fall in love in the entire resort world. None. Yes, yes, do take your date by the hand in the middle of some boring event, run out into a nearby secluded corridor, press them up against the wall and kiss them passionately, please, yes, do that. […]

Websites
People “Lean In” to Facebook’s Policies on Gender-Based Hate Speech

This is an update of last week’s post (see below): Our book group just read “Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead” by Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg. According to its Amazon descrip, she (and let’s be honest, her writing and research team) examine “why women’s progress in achieving leadership roles has stalled, explains the […]

Dear Em & Lo
Should I Take My Boyfriend to an Orgy?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, Last night, while watching […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: No Slut-Shaming, Please

It’s not the length of the comment, but it’s content. This week, we loved Nikki’s short and to-the-point comment on this week’s “Your Call”:  How Do I Get Over All the Sex She’s Had Before Me? Ugh. “Slutty?” What exactly makes her slutty? Having had sex before you came around? Enjoying sex too much? If you have […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, I Secretly Used My Wife’s Sex Toy…Up My Butt

Billy, LELO’s male massager Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Hello Ladies, I am a married guy who occasionally reads your site for some ideas to share with my wife.  It seems like anal play both for him and her is a popular topic. My wife enjoys some occasional backside […]