Etiquette
Confessions
Comment of the Week: Buzzkills Are Poopyheads

photo via Flickr A good comment of the week doesn’t have to be Shakespeare or even Dr. Ruth. Exhibit A: This response by Dave W. to the post “How to Determine Whether Your Dating Age Gap Is Embarrassing“: Sure, large age gaps have only a small chance of making it long term, but it’s a […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: When, If Ever, Is Cleavage Unsexy?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: We know that men love boobs, but is there such a thing as too much cleavage? At what point — if any — does it become tacky to guys? Is it all about the situation and context? Straight Married […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Do I HAVE to Go to My Partner’s Family Thanksgiving?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Hi, My boyfriend of eight months invited me […]

How To
7 Tips for Determining Who Pays on a Date

photo via Flickr Dates may be cheap but they ain’t never free. So who coughs up? Whoever did the asking pays for the date. This is 2014, people, it’s so last century to assume the man always gets it. However, if you’ve been asked out, you should always assume you’ll be going dutch to avoid […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Blow Jobs Aren’t an Inalienable Right

In an impassioned response to our post, “Your Call: She Doesn’t Like Going Down,” reader Sara doesn’t pull any punches when discussing those who prioritize sex acts over actual people. She really gets going in the fourth paragraph!: You know what makes it easier to like something? Being able to choose freely whether to do it […]

Wise Guys
What Guys Really Think When a Woman Has Sex on the First Date

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Does sleeping with a guy on a first date really ruin my chances for a future relationship with him? What if it’s obvious we really like each other, the chemistry’s great, we have a lot in common, and we’re both horny?” Straight […]

Wise Guys
Why He Didn’t Call or Text When He Said He Would

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Why didn’t he call  (or text/email/Gchat/et al) when he said he would? Straight Married Guy (Matt): There’s a simple answer to this one: it doesn’t matter. Most women I know get very worked up over this, and it never helps anything. It […]

How To
Straight Guys: How to Respond to Being Hit On by a Woman

photo via Flickr A note to straight men: We’re constantly hearing you guys complain that you still have to do almost all of the pick-up leg-work. But then when a woman does attempt to hit on you in a bar, a lot of you turn around and call her “desperate” — even in 2014! (Er, […]

TV
The Bachelorette: What Happens in the Fantasy Suite Stays in the Fantasy Suite?

screen shot of ABC’s “After the Final Rose” Last night’s “After the Final Rose” was the most dramatic ever! Not because the Bachelorette (Andi Dorfman) got engaged to a guy (Josh “I Can’t Put My Arms Down” Murray) after only knowing him for two and a half months and only going on, like, three dates […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: Porn Is No Biggie

photo via Flickr Reader Jessica wrote the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: He Looks at Other Women But Gets Jealous If I Ogle Men“: I used to be one of those women, when I was younger, who would fly off the handle if I saw my boyfriend looking at another woman. After going through […]