Foreplay
Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What Do Men Really Think About Cuddling?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do men really think about cuddling?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): Cuddling is the most amazing thing in the world to do after you’ve come — after having a cigarette […]

Personal Essays
5 Less Obvious Places to Touch Each Other

photo via flickr EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz — you can read her blog here — has a confession to make: There are some perks to being a Human Sexuality major — and I’m not just talking about its potential as a pick-up line. […]

How To
Redefining Foreplay

Foreplay is not an obligatory two minutes of making out, it’s not purely physical, it’s not a routine that automatically earns you intercourse, it’s not just for women, and it doesn’t always have to be candle-lit (though florescent overhead lights are never seductive). The idea is to free foreplay it’s traditionally narrow definition. Think of it […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Hates Kissing

Dear Em & Lo, My man, who I love and adore, blah blah blah, does not like to kiss. This is not to say we don’t peck: we do, as after bringing up the lack of kissing to him earlier in our relationship (around year one of three), he did up the level of G-rated […]

How To
Top 10 Do’s and Don’ts of Sensual Massage

Massage as foreplay is one of those sex tips that “everyone knows” — but few people know well. Be honest, how many times have you actually massaged your partner for longer than a few minutes of shoulder squeezing in front of the TV, or a half-hearted swish over their back with your palms? Anything more […]

Books
5 Ways to Practice Mindfulness in the Bedroom

photo by Daniel Sandoval We met Wendy Strgar, founder of the company Good Clean Love, at a conference in Vegas (as one does) a few years back and were instant fans. Good Clean Love makes organic love products — for example, lubes that actually smell good, and aren’t packed with nasty artificial sugars (which can […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Do Men Feel About Watching Porn with a Partner?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How do men feel about watching porn with a partner? Is it sexy? High pressure? Awkward? Distracting?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (David Jacobs): Can’t say I watch it much… with the ol’ lady, that […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: You Can Leave Your Socks On

photo by David_and_Katarina Re: Your advice to remove your socks before sex: Not if you’re doing me! I looove it when he leaves his socks on: It’s intimate, sweet cute and kinda says: “I want you so bad I can’t really care about my stupid socks!” Yeah, definitely keep your socks on. — matbo, responding […]

Pop Culture
What’s Your Favorite Music to Screw to?

Our Top 100 Breakup Songs post continues to be such a favorite on our site that we decided to call on you for more musical suggestions: This time your favorite songs and/or albums to have sex to. Leave your suggestions in the comments section below, and be sure to tell us what kind of sex […]

Toys
Truth or Dare for Grownups — Really Lazy Grownups

Truth or Dare has sadly bitten the dust, but you can find lots of other fun adult games at GoodVibes.com. There’s a reason why Truth or Dare is mostly played by high school kids — because they’re the only ones who are willing to spend hours coming up with creative truths or dares to get […]