How To
Redefining Foreplay

photo via Flickr Foreplay is not an obligatory two minutes of making out, it’s not purely physical, it’s not a routine that automatically earns you intercourse, it’s not just for women, and it doesn’t always have to be candle-lit (though florescent overhead lights are never seductive). The idea is to free foreplay it’s traditionally narrow definition. […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Hates Kissing

Dear Em & Lo, My man, who I love and adore, blah blah blah, does not like to kiss. This is not to say we don’t peck: we do, as after bringing up the lack of kissing to him earlier in our relationship (around year one of three), he did up the level of G-rated […]

How To
Top 10 Do’s and Don’ts of Sensual Massage

Massage as foreplay is one of those sex tips that “everyone knows” — but few people know well. Be honest, how many times have you actually massaged your partner for longer than a few minutes of shoulder squeezing in front of the TV, or a half-hearted swish over their back with your palms? Anything more […]

5 Ways to Practice Mindfulness in the Bedroom

photo by Daniel Sandoval We met Wendy Strgar, founder of the company Good Clean Love, at a conference in Vegas (as one does) a few years back and were instant fans. Good Clean Love makes organic love products — for example, lubes that actually smell good, and aren’t packed with nasty artificial sugars (which can […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Do Men Feel About Watching Porn with a Partner?

Advice from three of’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How do men feel about watching porn with a partner? Is it sexy? High pressure? Awkward? Distracting?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (David Jacobs): Can’t say I watch it much… with the ol’ lady, that […]

Comment of the Week: You Can Leave Your Socks On

photo by David_and_Katarina Re: Your advice to remove your socks before sex: Not if you’re doing me! I looove it when he leaves his socks on: It’s intimate, sweet cute and kinda says: “I want you so bad I can’t really care about my stupid socks!” Yeah, definitely keep your socks on. — matbo, responding […]

Pop Culture
What’s Your Favorite Music to Screw to?

Our Top 100 Breakup Songs post continues to be such a favorite on our site that we decided to call on you for more musical suggestions: This time your favorite songs and/or albums to have sex to. Leave your suggestions in the comments section below, and be sure to tell us what kind of sex […]

Truth or Dare for Grownups — Really Lazy Grownups

Truth or Dare has sadly bitten the dust, but you can find lots of other fun adult games at There’s a reason why Truth or Dare is mostly played by high school kids — because they’re the only ones who are willing to spend hours coming up with creative truths or dares to get […]

Study: Housework Increases Sex No Matter Who Mops

photo from Porn for Women It’s long been a given in the sex advice biz that dudes who break out the vacuum cleaner every once in a while are more likely to get laid. We typically fight such Men-are-from-Mars-Women-are-from-Venus stereotypes, but we’ve heard too much anecdotal evidence to ignore this one. It’s not that watching […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! Clean Your Room

photo by jinkazamah Your bedroom should be a sacred space for rest, relaxation, and rolling in the hay. Any reminders of everyday stresses — CNN on the television, files you brought home from the office, stacks of unpaid bills, your cellphone — can fill your room with negative energy. If you look over your honey’s […]