Foreplay
Advice
Wise Guys: Do You Like a Helping Handjob, Or Is Solo Better?

photo via flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “s a handjob better than nothing for most guys, or would they rather just do the job themselves in that case?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Tom Miller): This question is silly. […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What Do Men Really Think About Cuddling?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do men really think about cuddling?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): Cuddling is the most amazing thing in the world to do after you’ve come — after having a cigarette […]

Personal Essays
5 Less Obvious Places to Touch Each Other

photo via flickr EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz — you can read her blog here — has a confession to make: There are some perks to being a Human Sexuality major — and I’m not just talking about its potential as a pick-up line. […]

How To
Redefining Foreplay

Foreplay is not an obligatory two minutes of making out, it’s not purely physical, it’s not a routine that automatically earns you intercourse, it’s not just for women, and it doesn’t always have to be candle-lit (though florescent overhead lights are never seductive). The idea is to free foreplay it’s traditionally narrow definition. Think of it […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Hates Kissing

Dear Em & Lo, My man, who I love and adore, blah blah blah, does not like to kiss. This is not to say we don’t peck: we do, as after bringing up the lack of kissing to him earlier in our relationship (around year one of three), he did up the level of G-rated […]

How To
Top 10 Do’s and Don’ts of Sensual Massage

Massage as foreplay is one of those sex tips that “everyone knows” — but few people know well. Be honest, how many times have you actually massaged your partner for longer than a few minutes of shoulder squeezing in front of the TV, or a half-hearted swish over their back with your palms? Anything more […]

Books
5 Ways to Practice Mindfulness in the Bedroom

photo by Daniel Sandoval We met Wendy Strgar, founder of the company Good Clean Love, at a conference in Vegas (as one does) a few years back and were instant fans. Good Clean Love makes organic love products — for example, lubes that actually smell good, and aren’t packed with nasty artificial sugars (which can […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Do Men Feel About Watching Porn with a Partner?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How do men feel about watching porn with a partner? Is it sexy? High pressure? Awkward? Distracting?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (David Jacobs): Can’t say I watch it much… with the ol’ lady, that […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: You Can Leave Your Socks On

photo by David_and_Katarina Re: Your advice to remove your socks before sex: Not if you’re doing me! I looove it when he leaves his socks on: It’s intimate, sweet cute and kinda says: “I want you so bad I can’t really care about my stupid socks!” Yeah, definitely keep your socks on. — matbo, responding […]

Pop Culture
What’s Your Favorite Music to Screw to?

Our Top 100 Breakup Songs post continues to be such a favorite on our site that we decided to call on you for more musical suggestions: This time your favorite songs and/or albums to have sex to. Leave your suggestions in the comments section below, and be sure to tell us what kind of sex […]

Toys
Truth or Dare for Grownups — Really Lazy Grownups

Truth or Dare has sadly bitten the dust, but you can find lots of other fun adult games at GoodVibes.com. There’s a reason why Truth or Dare is mostly played by high school kids — because they’re the only ones who are willing to spend hours coming up with creative truths or dares to get […]

Research
Study: Housework Increases Sex No Matter Who Mops

photo from Porn for Women It’s long been a given in the sex advice biz that dudes who break out the vacuum cleaner every once in a while are more likely to get laid. We typically fight such Men-are-from-Mars-Women-are-from-Venus stereotypes, but we’ve heard too much anecdotal evidence to ignore this one. It’s not that watching […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! Clean Your Room

photo by jinkazamah Your bedroom should be a sacred space for rest, relaxation, and rolling in the hay. Any reminders of everyday stresses — CNN on the television, files you brought home from the office, stacks of unpaid bills, your cellphone — can fill your room with negative energy. If you look over your honey’s […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! Make Out at the Movies

photo by _StaR_DusT_ Do you want to feel that rush of first love again? Do you want to feel the tingle of a junior high crush? Do you want to “extend foreplay” like all the sexperts tell you to but you keep running out of things to do? Do you want to go on a […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! Give Your Partner a Love Bite

photo by P. Baker Yes, we’re talking about the good old-fashioned hickey — that simple little expression of unbridled passion that can immediately take you back to your first few heady times of making out (oh, to be young again!). Of course, the love bite should not be administered (or accepted) willy-nilly. Only the hidden […]