Friends with Benefits
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Dear Em & Lo, I Love Him But He’s Already Got a Girlfriend

Hi, I would like advice. I am single mother and I met someone on a dating website. When we met he told me he didn’t have a girlfriend. After a while, we were emailing each other every day. After 6 months, I finally met him face to face and we liked each other. But then he started telling […]

Your Call
Your Call: Does Her Long-Time Fling Have a Future?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  So I have been talking to a guy […]

How To
3 Clear Signs You’re “Pre-Cheating”

by Samantha Burns for YourTango It’s a slippery slope… If you’ve been cheated on before, you know how earth-shattering this experience can be. Apart from a loved one’s death, infidelity is probably the most emotionally painful experience. An affair is a real threat that can destroy any relationship. The problem is, it’s not always so clear when […]

How To
10 Steps to Getting Casual Sex Right

At least half of all problems associated with casual sex can be traced back to its name: People think that “casual” means the sex takes no thought and fits as comfortably as sweatpants. But the truth is, you have to date for years before sex gets like that. (Monogamy does have a few benefits, after all!) […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Why Won’t He Get to Know Me?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. This woman asked her question in the comments section of the post How Often Do F-Buddies Become Girlfriends? Tell it […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Should I Have a Fling with My Long-Distance Boss?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: 6 Rules of the Pre-Relationship Fuck-Buddy Couple

Reader Arielle wrote a nice response to the post How Often Do Fuck Buddies Become Girlfriends?, basically outlining the 6 rules of having a fuck buddy who you might want to turn into a partner some day: All of my relationships have been fuck buddies that turned into relationships.  Twice I’ve gotten my heart broken because the guy was […]

Dear Em & Lo
When His Mouth Says “Booty Call” But His Body Says “Relationship”

photo via flickr Dear Em & Lo, I met this guy who is really sweet and nice.  He is 20 and I am 21.  We’ve hung out a few times and I am starting to like him.  Then, I saw him at a fraternity party the other night (although he does not go to my […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Can I Downgrade a Booty Call to Friend (No Benefits)?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I have been reading […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Booty Calls Require Good Communication

Another incredibly eloquent proponent of the well-negotiated booty call: Typhimurium in response to our post,  “Your Call: Will Ground Rules Scare Off My Booty Call?”  So I recently had a really successful friend-with-benefits relationship, and if it’s all right I’d love to share what was key for me in building it. My friend and I were […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Can You Downgrade 3-Year Relationship to “Casual”?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Friends with Benefits Starts with Friends

Reader Anathema said the following in response to our post, “Your Call: Is This a FWB Situation or Something More?” We’re pretty sure she’s the most well-adjusted friend-with-benefits we’ve ever heard of! I had a wonderful FWB thing with a guy for 2 1/2 years. He and I were both in open relationships (which is why […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Is This a FWB Situation or Something More?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Even Friends with Benefits Spoon

Reader Finikki said the following in response to our post, “Your Call: Is This a FWB Situation or Something More?” When someone tells you they don’t want a relationship, believe them. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that experiencing intimacy with someone (like cuddling and talking for hours) necessarily means they want a relationship. People […]

Dream Interpretation
My BDSM Relationship Is Giving Me Nightmares

“Em & Lo’s Shades of Play Kit” at GoodVibes Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I have, for lack of […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Will Ground Rules Scare Off My Booty Call?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New […]