Friends with Benefits
How To
The 25 Rules of the Booty Call

Most people don’t talk about booty calls. That’s part of their appeal: “We don’t have to endlessly com-mu-ni-cate because we’re not in a serious relationship.” People rely on a tacit understanding when it comes to casual sex with their friends and neighbors, and especially their exes. But it’s silly to assume that everyone “understands” the […]

Dear Em & Lo
How Often Do Booty Calls Become Girlfriends?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below. Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been […]

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Dear Em & Lo: My Booty Call Wants to Ditch the Condoms

photo by Alaskan_Dude Dear Em & Lo, I was celibate for the first 20 years of my life, so considering that, it was surprisingly easy to jump into bed with a guy who lives in my building…every few nights for the last two months. We have a nurturing and adventurous sexual relationship, I think, and […]

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Your Call: How Can I Tell If My Friend with Benefits Is Falling for Me?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I’m 24 […]

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Dear Em & Lo: Can I Give My Booty Call Some Ground Rules?

photo by Helga Weber Dear Em & Lo, I have a friend with benefits who also has other friends with benefits. One of them called me on the phone last night and was threatening me. I called him right up and he apologized and said he would talk to her about it, but should I […]

How To
8 Rules of the Booty Call

We’ve all been there: Out on the town, feeling good after a cocktail or five, you don’t want to go home but you can’t stay where you are, and no one has made you any offers you can’t refuse yet. So you fish out your phone to daringly (read: desperately) see if one of your […]

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Your Call: Is Casual Sex Really That Great?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I haven’t […]

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Dear Em & Lo, Is Physical Attraction in Friendship a Gift or a Curse?

photo by Vivian Chen Dear Em & Lo, Is physical attraction a gift or a curse? I’m writing this because a friend and I have been friends for a year. Let’s just say we’ve had our share of up and downs. From us being friends with benefits to helping him deal with his crazy ex-girlfriend. I […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Platonic Guy Friend Rubbed Me the Wrong Way

photo by islandjoe Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a straight woman asks Lauri: The other night I dreamed that I was lying down on my stomach on my couch at home watching […]