Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo – My Boyfriend Talks to His Female Friends Way Too Much

hat from Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over a year, and we have a very honest and loving relationship. While I have struggled with jealous tendencies in the past, I have come to a point where I trust him completely and know he would not ever lie […]

Personal Essays
The Virgin Diaries: How I Became a Relationship Guru

photo by eflon Our contributor Katherine Chen, who is a sophomore English major at Princeton University (check out her personal site here), is penning a series of confessions for collectively called “The Virgin Diaries.” Here’s her fifth installment: A few months ago, I was working on a paper at home when the phone rang […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Starred in My Friend's Orgy Dream

photo by Vacasion Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: My friend had a dream about me being in an orgy with two people that I know and one of […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call – Why Is My Husband Jealous of My Female Friendships?

Dear Em & Lo, Following a year of very intensive therapy to deal with PTSD resulting from a childhood of abuse, I’ve emerged whole, happy, and healthy. My husband says I’m a changed woman; more confidant, happier, at peace with myself and my life. In the process of learning to accept and love myself, I’ve […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Girlfriends Need Friends' Approval?

seal from’s seal maker Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “How important is it to guys that his friends like/approve of the woman he’s dating?“ Straight Married Guy (Ben): It really depends on how serious the relationship is and how good your friends are. If it’s a […]

Comment of the Week – Can Married People Have Opposite-Sex Friends?

Let’s clarify that question: Can/should straight married people have opposite-sex friends? Which begs the question, can/should gay married people have same-sex friends? These questions were inspired by the following recent comment: I have found that even though I’ve been married for years, I never spend time alone with my husband’s male friends, even men who […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: My Friend Keeps Hitting On My Wife

Dear Em and Lo, I have a friend let’s call him “A”, we used to be closer, but as time has gone by, we probably see each other every other month or so, and the occasional email of non-importance (humor, etc). I’ve known for a while that “A” has had a crush on my wife. […]