Gay Issues
Dear Em & Lo
Where Can We Swing with Other Grownups (Minus the A-Holes)?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Some days, we simply don’t have the time, and others — like today — we don’t have a clue. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Yay for crowd-sourcing grownup swinging! […]

Pop Culture
Our Song of Summer: “Everyone Is Gay”

We’re guessing the official Song of Summer this year is going to be Ariana Grande’s “Problem” featuring Iggy Azalea (though it could be Ed Sheeran’s “Sing,” or the adorable “Rude” by Magic!, or maybe Lana Del Rey’s “West Coast”, though Sia’s Chandelier would be a nice surprise, hopefully not the panderingly named “Summer” by Calvin […]

Pop Culture
Erotica: Spying on Your Neighbors Is Hotter Than Porn

The two of us often struggle with erotica. On the one hand, we think it’s an awesome resource (and by resource, we do of course mean wank material) for women who are easily squicked by porn –by  its cheesy dialogue, its fake boobs, and its even more fake orgasms. On the other hand, we are […]

Personal Essays
Confession: The Problem with Bisexuality

Yesterday, Nathaniel Frank gave us a male perspective on bisexuality; today, we’re getting a female perspective. In honor of the culmination of Bisexual Awareness Month yesterday, our long-time contributor Ariel E.M. Servadio wrote the following article on her recently relaunched Cephaloblog about her own bisexuality, which she’s graciously allowing us to reprint here today.    Make up […]

Personal Essays
Confession: (My) Bisexuality Is Really Not That Complicated

In honor of the last day of Bisexuality Awareness Month (it’s sort of ironically fitting, given how overlooked bisexuality so often is, that we only just realized March was Bisexual Awareness Month), we’re publishing an essay by our friend Nathaniel Frank, originally posted on Slate. He is best known as the author of the book […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Had a MFF Threeway with My Husband

photo via flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had a dream last night about […]

Research
Infographic: How Sexual Norms Have Evolved in 50 Years

Just when your blood is about to boil over all the reproductive rights rollbacks that have taken place in recent years, when you’re about to puke if you hear one more Fox pundit talk about “family values,” and when when your head is about to explode at the idea that “Dancing with the Stars” is a […]

Confessions
Comment: My Neighbors Judge Me But This Site Doesn’t

The following letter broke our hearts a little, while also making our week. In the spirit of the new year, we have both been attempting to catalog the things we are grateful for, and this letter made us grateful for the following things: 1) Readers who like us, who really like us! 2) Husbands and […]

Dream Interpretation
I Dreamed I Had a Hot Threesome with an Ex and Her Ex

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: My dream is about a threesome. It starts off with me (female femme lesbian) […]

Confessions
This Site Is Better Than Therapy (Also: Yay, Strap-Ons)

Reader P warmed the cockles of our hearts when she said the following, in response to our post, “Strap-on Sex Won’t Turn You Gay (If You Aren’t Already)”: The reason I found this site is because I was watching different types of porn to see if I could be stimulated and I found very few […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Straight Husband Received Gay Oral

photo via flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: My husband, two nights in a row, has dreamed of oral […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Liked My Bi Dream, Does That Mean I’m Bi?

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had a dream last night where my best friend (a girl, like me) […]

Say Amything
Confession: My Husband Has No Penis

Amy Bronwen Zemser — “writer, squirrel hunter, breastfeeder, homosexual” — just launched her new, provocative blog, AmyBronwenZemser.com. We have the honor of publishing an abridged version of one of her recent hilarious posts about coming out, homophilia, and cases of mistaken sexual identity (read the unabridged version here). Enjoy! *** I’ll tell you a secret. I […]

Pop Culture
A New Book That Some People Don’t Want You to Read (Part 2)

a still from the video trailer of Happyland Last week, we posted a provocative excerpt from HAPPYLAND, written by one of the coolest authors we know, J. ROBERT LENNON. The excerpt was from his new novel, the one that W. W. Norton pulled from production in 2005 over fears of libel, that Harper’s Magazine ran in serial […]

Pop Culture
A New Book That Some People Don’t Want You to Read (Part 1)

a still from the video trailer of Happyland HAPPYLAND — by one of the coolest authors we know, J. ROBERT LENNON — is finally out! This is the novel that W. W. Norton pulled from production in 2005 over fears of libel, that Harper’s Magazine ran in serial (though heavily abridged)in the fall of 2006, […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Dreams Are Always Lesbian (But I’m Not)

photo via flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: My dream is usually about people who don’t really exist but […]