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Guys, Crawl Out of Your Man Caves

We like the image of Plato’s allegorical cave, but adult sex educator Charlie Glickman calls it the Man Box, or more specifically, the Act-Like-A-Man Box. In a series of blog posts earlier this month, Glickman explained how, in order to be perceived as “real men,” heterosexual guys have to live in a box of strict […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Gagging During Oral — Hot or Not?

photo by Public Domain Photos Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do men think about a woman gagging while giving oral sex? How does the fact that it’s a porn trope affect your real life experiences? Is it a turn on or do most men just feel […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Get a Girl Pregnant (But I’m a Woman!)

photo by karindaiziel Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had a dream that I was a man and I’ve somehow gotten some girl pregnant. I started freaking out […]

Research
Women Have Casual Sex for…Pleasure?

photo by e.esders It may not be news to any of you ladies out there who’ve enjoyed the thrill of a no-strings-attached hook-up, but for those who buy into the evo-psych pop notion that women are only interested in high-status resource providers rather than hotties (i.e. the opposite of men’s supposed eternal motivations) there’s a […]

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Wise Guys – What Are Men’s Biggest Insecurities During Sex?

photo by Ecnerwal Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What are guys’ biggest insecurities during sex?“ Straight Committed Guy (Johnny): I think many guys are afraid of their own inexperience early on in their sex lives, or later on too if they don’t get laid as much as […]

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Wise Guys – What’s the Male Consensus on Period Sex?

photo by greenchartreuse Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,”What’s the general male consensus on period sex?“ Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Period sex, like most forms of sex, falls into the category of sure, why not. The truth is we are generally happy to be having sex, even […]

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Wise Guys – Is Painful Sex an Issue for Some Guys (Like It Is for Some Gals)?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Considering all the questions the doctors on this site get about women experiencing painful intercourse, I was wondering: do guys ever experience pain during sex?” Straight Single Guy (Max): While the good normally outweighs the bad, I would say that yes, sex […]

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Wise Guys – If Oral Feels So Good, Why Does It Take So Long?

photo by zoutedrop Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “My guy says getting a BJ is one of the best feeling things I can do for him, but it still takes forever to get him off. That seems like a total paradox….?“ Straight Single Guy (Chris): That may […]

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Wise Guys – What Do Men Wish They Could Change About Their Sexuality?

photo by nick johnson Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,“If you could change one thing about male sexuality, what would it be?” Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Male sexuality is not always as simple as it seems. Sure, we love sex, but so do women. In fact, I […]

News
Valerie Jarrett on Gender Parity

photo by burningkarma Rahim Kanani, a Research Associate for the Justice and Human Rights domain of practice at the Hauser Center for Nonprofit Organizations at Harvard University, recently conducted an in-depth interview in the West Wing with Valerie Jarrett, Senior Advisor to President Obama and Chair of the White House Council on Women and Girls. […]

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Wise Guys – What’s a Man’s Ideal New Year’s Eve? (Part 1)

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “What’s the ideal New Year’s Eve for a single straight guy/straight married guy/gay committed or single guy?” Straight Single Guy (Max): New Years, much like birthdays, should be fool-proof fun. Good friends, tasty beverages, and maybe something cuddly to look forward to. […]

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Wise Guys – Do Men Suffer More from Heartbreak Than Women?

photo by KellyB Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “People always assume that women are the emotional ones in relationships. However, one fairly recent study showed that the male broken heart may be worse off. What do you think?” Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos): The results of this […]

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Wise Guys – Do Men Fantasize About Their Future Ideal Love?

photo by clever cupcakes Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,”Do any guys have future children’s names picked out? How about a dream house? Wedding plans? In other words, do men fantasize about a future with love in it, just more secretly than women do?“ Gay Single Guy (Jay […]

Pop Culture
The Flaws in the Science of Sex Differences

One of our biggest pet peeves is our society’s automatic acceptance — the giddy embrace, even — of the theory that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, with nary a space shuttle between them. We’ve written before on the lazy scientists who are suckers for a sexy headline about the “innate” differences […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I'm the Energizer Bunny of Sex

photo by Beverly & Pack Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: It is 2:22 AM. I am eating peanut butter from the jar. This is the perfect remedy to calm the excitement of post-coital euphoria. I just had great sex. My bones are […]

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Wise Guys – Why Are Men So Abrupt on the Phone and in Emails?

photo by SYD_Rahim Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why are guys always so abrupt when it comes to email and phone communication?“ Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos): I dnt know what ur talkn about. Straight Committed Guy (Johnny): Because they’re booooooriiiiiiiing. Communication is cheap in this day […]