Gender Issues
Wise Guys: Why Do Men Get in Touch with Past Flames?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,”Why do guys get back in touch with old flames? Booty call? Rekindle the romance? To prove they’re over the woman? Just to say hi? Just got dumped and need an ego boost?” Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): At the risk of talking […]

Wise Guys: How Can I Get My Man to Cuddle More?

photo by Leeni Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “How can I get a guy to cuddle more?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Two ways really. One — I find I’m at my cuddliest immediately post-orgasm, especially if it’s a really big one that comes from an especially intense […]

Guys, Crawl Out of Your Man Caves

We like the image of Plato’s allegorical cave, but adult sex educator Charlie Glickman calls it the Man Box, or more specifically, the Act-Like-A-Man Box. In a series of blog posts earlier this month, Glickman explained how, in order to be perceived as “real men,” heterosexual guys have to live in a box of strict […]

Wise Guys: Gagging During Oral — Hot or Not?

photo by Public Domain Photos Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do men think about a woman gagging while giving oral sex? How does the fact that it’s a porn trope affect your real life experiences? Is it a turn on or do most men just feel […]

Dream Interpretation: I Get a Girl Pregnant (But I’m a Woman!)

photo by karindaiziel Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had a dream that I was a man and I’ve somehow gotten some girl pregnant. I started freaking out […]

Women Have Casual Sex for…Pleasure?

photo by e.esders It may not be news to any of you ladies out there who’ve enjoyed the thrill of a no-strings-attached hook-up, but for those who buy into the evo-psych pop notion that women are only interested in high-status resource providers rather than hotties (i.e. the opposite of men’s supposed eternal motivations) there’s a […]

Wise Guys – What Are Men’s Biggest Insecurities During Sex?

photo by Ecnerwal Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What are guys’ biggest insecurities during sex?“ Straight Committed Guy (Johnny): I think many guys are afraid of their own inexperience early on in their sex lives, or later on too if they don’t get laid as much as […]

Wise Guys – What’s the Male Consensus on Period Sex?

photo by greenchartreuse Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,”What’s the general male consensus on period sex?“ Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Period sex, like most forms of sex, falls into the category of sure, why not. The truth is we are generally happy to be having sex, even […]

Wise Guys – Is Painful Sex an Issue for Some Guys (Like It Is for Some Gals)?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Considering all the questions the doctors on this site get about women experiencing painful intercourse, I was wondering: do guys ever experience pain during sex?” Straight Single Guy (Max): While the good normally outweighs the bad, I would say that yes, sex […]

Wise Guys – If Oral Feels So Good, Why Does It Take So Long?

photo by zoutedrop Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “My guy says getting a BJ is one of the best feeling things I can do for him, but it still takes forever to get him off. That seems like a total paradox….?“ Straight Single Guy (Chris): That may […]