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2016: The Year in Bad Sex

This year sucked — and not in a good, consensual, non-transactional, mutually satisfying way. Here are the top 10 worst sex- and gender-related events, trends, crimes and tragedies of 2016. Good riddance! 1. Trump Admits to Sexual Assault on Tape, Still Gets Elected:   2. The New Jared: Glee Star Indicted on Child Porn Charges:   […]

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Merry Everything!

We hope you have a great holiday! Here’s hoping there’s something saucy and battery-operated in your stocking…or at least a nice new pair of undies. Thank you for reading our humble little sex advice site. The best present you could give us is signing up for our weekly newsletter, The Em & Lo Down, if […]

How To
10 Steps to Surving a Holiday Dinner with Family Who Voted for Trump

This post was updated from the original: “#Trumpsgiving” Chances are you’ll have to spend this holiday break with a few family members who voted for the human candied yam. You could always just cancel holiday plans all together, hole up in your house, and binge watch some light fare like “The Walking Dead.” But if for some […]

Movies
Hate Actually Is All Around: An Obligatory Critique of That Infernal Holiday Movie

Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge.    It happens every year around the holidays: screenings (and awesome parodies) of the 2003 Christmas movie Love Actually, followed by impassioned rants by both the lovers and the haters. So […]

Pop Culture
The 12 Days of Kinkmas

You know what makes a great, fun, affordable stocking stuffer? Our book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink! To whet your appetite, may we present our own special sexy sacrilegious spin on a Xmas classic. Enjoy: On the 12th Day of Kinkmas my true sub gave to me…12 Crops a Cracking Disciplinary devices for horses […]

How To
10 “Sexy” Gifts That Will Get You Dumped This Xmas

And 10 That Won’t! You want  to give the object of your affection a gift that expresses your genuine love and sincere lust? Wonderful! But please understand there’s a fine line between sexy and stupid, and that line often moves depending on the couple and each partner’s level of kinkiness, their sense of humor, and their, well, stupidity. […]

Toys
10 Great Last-Minute Gift Ideas for Your Significant Other!

Here are some great last-minute gift ideas for that special someone. All items are available on Amazon Prime and have been been highly rated. And there’s something for every budget! 1. Calvin Klein Underwear Comfy undergarments meant for her, not you. $35-45 2. ONEHOPE Glitter Celebration Gift Set Ring in the New Year together with […]

How To
13 Tips for Surviving the Holidays Single

Feeling down in the dumps because you’re going to be single for the holidays this year? You’re not alone. Well, sure, you’re alone in the sense that you don’t have a cutie to go ice-skating with while clad in matching striped scarves from the Gap. But you’re not alone alone. Despite the onslaught of trailers for […]

How To
How to Make Massage the Perfect Holiday Gift

Learning to massage is the perfect romantic holiday gift for your partner. After a long year, who wouldn’t want to relax together and get extra close with a little back rub? You both deserve this! But a five minute neckrub isn’t going to cut it for Xmas. So below, we’ve outlined our 3-step suggestion for elevating massage […]

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Happy Indigenous People Day!

We’ve signed the petition to turn Columbus Day into Indigenous Peoples’ Day (and you should too!). In honor of the holiday, we’re spending this Monday rereading Eduardo Galeano’s Memory of Fire. Tune in tomorrow for new fun stuff.

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Happy Labor Day Weekend!

Writing about sex and relationships is hard work: all the Eyes Wide Shut balls we’re required to attend, all the whips and chains we need to inspect, all the pillow fights in our lingerie we have to have. It’s exhausting! So we’re taking the long weekend off (and hope you are too!). We’ll be back on […]

How To
What Your Wife Really Wants for Mother’s Day (Or ANY Day)

Denis Merkas, a massage therapist with over 15 years experience and founder of Melt, has taught taught over 15,000 couples the art of a great back rub: My wife Emma and I surveyed thousands of wives and asked them what they want from their husbands when it comes to special occasions – with Mother’s Day approaching, […]

Pop Culture
Funny Sex Photos That Are Safe (Enough) for Work

  SEX is one big cosmic joke. Just consider the placement of the genitals in regards to the exit of the digestive system! Desire often turns us into pathetic, desperate, vulnerable bonobos making funny noises and weird faces, bonking heads with elbows and other often imperfect and occasionally faulty body parts. If you don’t laugh, […]

Pop Culture
Happy Spring: Fuck Like Bunnies!

March 20th: the first day of Spring! A time of chocolates, pastels, niggling urges, and adorable rabbits fucking like bunnies. As Mark Twain said, “It’s spring fever. That is what the name of it is. And when you’ve got it, you want – oh, you don’t quite know what it is you do want, but […]

How To
In Honor of International Women’s Day: 7 Ways to Achieve Sexual Parity

Every year, March 8th is International Women’s Day, a political holiday that honors the struggles, achievements and hopes for women worldwide. Since its first observance in 1908, we’ve come along way, baby — but not nearly as far as you might think: The World Economic Forum predicted in 2014 that it would take until 2095 […]