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Top 10 Ways to Make Oral Sex More Fun for Both Partners

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studied Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz. She has some words of wisdom to share about oral sex… Going down on someone is no easy task. And letting someone go down on you can be quite nerve-racking. Despite these potential oral sex setbacks, the experience can be, well, […]

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How to Bridge the Erotic Chasm in a Sexless Marriage

by Dr. Margaret Paul for YourTango Don’t give up. Research indicates that over 55 percent of married women are not interested in having sex with their husbands. I’ve worked with many men who also are not interested in sex with their wives. The problem is generally not a lack of sexual desire in the marriage […]

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How to (TRY TO) Female Ejaculate

Okay, before we tell you how to ejaculate, we have to set a couple things straight: First, yes, women can ejaculate. Next: no, not all women ejaculate. So if it doesn’t happen for you, please don’t stress about it or feel like your parts aren’t working properly. The last thing we mean to do is […]

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10 Absolute MUSTS for Being a Great Lover

by Judith Orloff for YourTango Want to learn how to manifest your full sexual power, even if you are out of touch with it now? First, you must learn to completely inhabit your body and the moment. If not now, when? Holding back, fixating on performance, or letting your mind chatter and drift is the […]

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10 Steps to Surving a Holiday Dinner with Family Who Voted for Trump

This post was updated from the original: “#Trumpsgiving” Chances are you’ll have to spend this holiday break with a few family members who voted for the human candied yam. You could always just cancel holiday plans all together, hole up in your house, and binge watch some light fare like “The Walking Dead.” But if for some […]

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10 “Sexy” Gifts That Will Get You Dumped This Xmas

And 10 That Won’t! You want  to give the object of your affection a gift that expresses your genuine love and sincere lust? Wonderful! But please understand there’s a fine line between sexy and stupid, and that line often moves depending on the couple and each partner’s level of kinkiness, their sense of humor, and their, well, stupidity. […]

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13 Tips for Surviving the Holidays Single

Feeling down in the dumps because you’re going to be single for the holidays this year? You’re not alone. Well, sure, you’re alone in the sense that you don’t have a cutie to go ice-skating with while clad in matching striped scarves from the Gap. But you’re not alone alone. Despite the onslaught of trailers for […]

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How to Make Massage the Perfect Holiday Gift

Learning to massage is the perfect romantic holiday gift for your partner. After a long year, who wouldn’t want to relax together and get extra close with a little back rub? You both deserve this! But a five minute neckrub isn’t going to cut it for Xmas. So below, we’ve outlined our 3-step suggestion for elevating massage […]

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5 Quick Ways to Make Quickies More Satisfying

Sometimes with sex, you’ve just got to get the job done fast. But just because you’re short on time doesn’t mean you have to be short on pleasure. So here are 5 ways not to skimp. Let’s make this quick! 1. Use lube. It’s not cheating, it’s just helping along the arousal process! 2. Accessorize […]

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10 Novel Ways to Ignite Your Relationship (from Readers!)

We asked readers to give us their single best tip for lighting up their love life, and we got a lot of inspiring answers. So many in fact, that we’re not just going to publish the 5 big winners of the 5  Wildfire Pleasure Oil Prize Packages, we’re going to publish the top 7 runners up […]

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#TRUMPSGIVING: How to Survive Thanksgiving with Family Members Who Voted for Trump

Chances are you’ll have to spend Thanksgiving with a few family members who voted for the human candied yam. You could always just cancel holiday plans all together; after all, what the pluck is there to be thankful for? But if for some reason you’d like to remain on speaking terms with the relatives who helped […]

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8 Ways to Be a More Touchy-Feely (and Therefore Healthy & Happy) Couple

Did you know that “touch deprivation” is a legitimate psychological condition? Matthew Hertenstein, who is the director of the Touch and Emotion Lab at DePauw University, states that not only is it a real thing but compared to other cultures, Americans are perhaps the most touch deprived culture on the planet. “Most of us, whatever our […]

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8 Ways to Spice Up Date Night!

Getting some quality time with your partner, let alone making time for sex, is not always easy. So, when you do get some precious hours to yourselves, you want to make the most of it, right? It’s easy to fall into a dinner-&-a-movie rut. So use these tips to take a ho-hum date night to a love […]

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In Defense of the Quickie, Especially for Women

Have you ever glanced over at the alarm clock on your night-stand during sex and calculated exactly how many hours are left until it rings? An extended 69 or a slow and sensual love-making session is suddenly much less appealing when every minute of pleasure is a minute less of shut-eye. In fact, sometimes just […]

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Study Shows the #1 Way to Keep Sex Hot in Long-Term Relationships

By Rebecca Jane Stokes for YourTango When you first meet someone, start dating, and fall in love, sex is a normal part of the dating equation. The first few months I was with my boyfriend I think I had a hard time finishing sentences because I had to stop everything I was doing and so we could […]

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The 10 Best Couples Costumes to Repurpose for Roleplaying

What is forbidden in the real world can sometimes make for a fun romp between consenting adults (who’ve explicitly outlined their boundaries and agreed on a safe word). It’s called roleplaying, and there are two components that can really help you get into character: 1) the right outfits, and 2) a backstory with emotional tension, […]