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Strap-Ons Are the Great Gender Equalizer

Discussions on pegging usually go in one of two directions: 1) Straight into the ugly past where men who enjoy anal play automatically means they’re either girly or gay [sic], OR 2) towards thoughtful discussions about the nuances of sex and the politics of gender. We obviously prefer to highlight the latter, so today we give you Jon’s recent […]

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3 Key Things to Do When Your Guy Can’t Get It Up

By David Wignat for YourTango   You’re in bed with your man. You’ve done all your sexiest moves. You smell great. You look fantastic. He hasn’t reached middle age yet and he hasn’t been drinking, so his machinery should be in working order. But when you head down south, you suddenly realize his penis is […]

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Top 10 Unsexy Things That Can Improve Your Sex Life

Improving your sex life isn’t always about switching positions or adding more lube or reading erotica (though those things can certainly help, too). Here are ten everyday things you can do to improve your sex life. 1. Get a good night’s sleep. When you’re tired or stressed you feel unsexy and irritable. And have you ever […]

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Top 10 Tips for Erotic Spanking

Hand-to-bum contact, if you can pull it off without cracking up (heh, we said crack), is a great way to add some kinky flavor to your next sesh. It’s intimate, it’s saucy, and — when compared to, say, a whip or a flogger — it’s safe for newbies to try out. Also, one study found […]

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5 Sensual Massage No-No’s

Denis and Emma Merkas are the founding couple of Melt: Massage for Couples. As a massage therapist since 2000, Denis has taught more than 15,000 couples the art of a great back rub: 1. Don’t Heat the oil in a microwave. I’ve heard stories of people warming up their massage oil in the microwave. *facepalm* Don’t ever be one of […]

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4 Key Health Factors That Majorly Affect Sex

Good sex isn’t just about putting your right hand in and taking your left foot out — a more holistic approach may be just what it takes to make the earth move for you. There are numerous aspects of your daily life that can affect your sex life, from stress levels to sleep habits, and […]

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7 Rules of Attraction Backed by Science That You Can Exploit

By TheAnatomyOfLove.com for YourTango   Turns out there is a formula for attracting love … Love and attraction are arguably the most confusing of all human emotions. Poets write about them, philosophers ponder them, and virtually all humans actively seek them. Self-help guides and magazines are filled with tips, tricks, and suggestions to help you find […]

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When Someone You Love Sucks in Bed: How to Improve Your Partner’s Sexual Style

It’s happened to all of us: You meet someone charming, intelligent, miraculously modest, well-off, and, most importantly, smokin’ hot. The evening finally comes when you will seal your budding relationship with a full-body kiss. You’re eager with anticipation and expect nothing less than sheer bliss. But then your new partner’s tongue attacks you like a […]

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12 Bedroom DON’Ts Men & Women Are STILL Committing

We’re not big fans of exiling men and women to their own separate planets — Mars and Venus, respectively — with nary a shuttle between them. There’s a lot more that we have in common than we don’t. That said, when you grow up in a culture committed to putting everyone into two neat gender boxes […]

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For a Healthy Vulva, Wear This (NOT That)!

by Rebecca Jane Stokes for YourTango Get to your dresser and start throwing out your short-shorts ASAP. During the summer months, we all do our bests to look good. For me, looking good comes second to keeping my vagina nice and cool. That’s right, I said it. Hot vagina is a problem. If I don’t want to scare away […]

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Sexless VS. Loveless Marriages: There Are 9 Crucial Differences Between Them!

by Ossiana Tepfenhart for YourTango   It’s hard to imagine a happy relationship between romantic partners without sex involved. If you look at just about romantic comedy out there, there’s going to be a certain level of sexual tension involved. There’s that beautiful spark that seems to ignite between both characters in these kinds of movies, and […]

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Guys Dish on What Makes a Woman Good in Bed (Their Answers Might Surprise You!)

by Rebecca Jane Stokes for YourTango We asked a group of men to tell us what makes a woman good in bed. Is someone’s sex skill level a thing you can clock? Aside from a big ol’ orgasm, what to surprises and delights you in bed with the right partner? These guys were maybe far too happy […]

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Dear Em & Lo: How Do I Deflower a Nice Young Man?

Hey Em & Lo! I’m in a tricky situation and don’t know where to look.  I’ve been dating this guy for about a month and found out that he’s a virgin. I’m not. By far. I’m looking for tips and tricks on how to train him and introduce him to this in a good way […]

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Talking to Your Daughters About Comfort and Consent

A friend just wrote us about her real world application of some of the advice Lo recently gave in “How to Prevent a Brock: 10 Practical Ways Parents Can Fight Rape Culture.” We couldn’t be more delighted! Raising conscientious kids with agency — especially girls — is possible in small, everyday ways like this: I wanted to share […]