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7 Rules of Attraction Backed by Science That You Can Exploit

By TheAnatomyOfLove.com for YourTango   Turns out there is a formula for attracting love … Love and attraction are arguably the most confusing of all human emotions. Poets write about them, philosophers ponder them, and virtually all humans actively seek them. Self-help guides and magazines are filled with tips, tricks, and suggestions to help you find […]

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When Someone You Love Sucks in Bed: How to Improve Your Partner’s Sexual Style

It’s happened to all of us: You meet someone charming, intelligent, miraculously modest, well-off, and, most importantly, smokin’ hot. The evening finally comes when you will seal your budding relationship with a full-body kiss. You’re eager with anticipation and expect nothing less than sheer bliss. But then your new partner’s tongue attacks you like a […]

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12 Bedroom DON’Ts Men & Women Are STILL Committing

We’re not big fans of exiling men and women to their own separate planets — Mars and Venus, respectively — with nary a shuttle between them. There’s a lot more that we have in common than we don’t. That said, when you grow up in a culture committed to putting everyone into two neat gender boxes […]

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For a Healthy Vulva, Wear This (NOT That)!

by Rebecca Jane Stokes for YourTango Get to your dresser and start throwing out your short-shorts ASAP. During the summer months, we all do our bests to look good. For me, looking good comes second to keeping my vagina nice and cool. That’s right, I said it. Hot vagina is a problem. If I don’t want to scare away […]

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Sexless VS. Loveless Marriages: There Are 9 Crucial Differences Between Them!

by Ossiana Tepfenhart for YourTango   It’s hard to imagine a happy relationship between romantic partners without sex involved. If you look at just about romantic comedy out there, there’s going to be a certain level of sexual tension involved. There’s that beautiful spark that seems to ignite between both characters in these kinds of movies, and […]

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Guys Dish on What Makes a Woman Good in Bed (Their Answers Might Surprise You!)

by Rebecca Jane Stokes for YourTango We asked a group of men to tell us what makes a woman good in bed. Is someone’s sex skill level a thing you can clock? Aside from a big ol’ orgasm, what to surprises and delights you in bed with the right partner? These guys were maybe far too happy […]

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Dear Em & Lo: How Do I Deflower a Nice Young Man?

Hey Em & Lo! I’m in a tricky situation and don’t know where to look.  I’ve been dating this guy for about a month and found out that he’s a virgin. I’m not. By far. I’m looking for tips and tricks on how to train him and introduce him to this in a good way […]

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Talking to Your Daughters About Comfort and Consent

A friend just wrote us about her real world application of some of the advice Lo recently gave in “How to Prevent a Brock: 10 Practical Ways Parents Can Fight Rape Culture.” We couldn’t be more delighted! Raising conscientious kids with agency — especially girls — is possible in small, everyday ways like this: I wanted to share […]

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5 Ways to Get More “Us Time”

Emma Merkas is the co-founder of Melt: Massage for Couples along with her husband Denis, a massage therapist who’s taught more than 15,000 couples over the past 15 years the art of a great back rub: “US TIME” often falls by the wayside in long term relationships. It’s very easy to let all our other responsibilities creep in. We push our marriages […]

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How to Prevent a Brock: 10 Practical Ways Parents Can Fight Rape Culture

The powerful, unapologetic, detailed statement of Brock Turner’s rape victim made public recently touched a collective nerve, resulting in a huge outcry on social media about the rape culture that left him convicted of three sexual assault felonies but only serving 6 months in jail. The outcry, which has already begun to fade, has often narrowly focused on […]

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5 Easy Steps for Making Father’s Day Amazing

Denis and Emma Merkas are the founding couple of Melt: Massage for Couples. As a massage therapist, Denis has taught more than 15,000 couples over the past 15 years the art of a great back rub:   Don’t think just because your partner is a man he doesn’t want to feel special. We’re all human, we all have the same basic […]

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The 4 Best Online Dating Sites, Hands Down

This post was originally featured on Reviews.com: The 30-Second Review To find the needle in the haystack, you want lots of needles and not too much hay. After analyzing web-traffic data and talking to dating experts, we tried our luck and tracked the results to find which algorithms actually work and which site led to […]

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“Unbundling” — A Great Example of How to Divorce Amicably

A friend of ours on Facebook, whom we’ll call E, recently announced in a status update that he and his wife are divorcing. We were so impressed with the tone and spirit of the message and the approach to uncoupling they seem to be taking, we asked if we could reprint his posts here. They graciously agreed. […]

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What Your Wife Really Wants for Mother’s Day (Or ANY Day)

Denis Merkas, a massage therapist with over 15 years experience and founder of Melt, has taught taught over 15,000 couples the art of a great back rub: My wife Emma and I surveyed thousands of wives and asked them what they want from their husbands when it comes to special occasions – with Mother’s Day approaching, […]

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8 Signs You’re Ready for REAL Love Instead of Fantasy Fairytales

by Gemma Hartley for YourTango Once upon a time, I was really into Nicholas Sparks novels and romantic movies, and couldn’t figure out why I wasn’t happy in relationships. Or rather, I knew exactly why I was unhappy: no one was living up to the fairytale I had fashioned for myself in my head. I […]

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10 Ways to Have More FUN in Bed!

1. Turn your bedroom into a boudoir. Paint the walls a deep red (or just on the sheets or pillows if red walls is too much of a commitment!). Add mood lighting with dimmers. Load up on lots of pillows. Install long curtains (would any boudoir be caught dead with short curatins, or worse, shades?). You […]