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“150 Shades of Play” Is on Kindle for Valentine’s Day!

Our latest book, now available in a discreet Kindle edition We get it: 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink is not necessarily the book you want to be caught reading on the bus, or during your lunch break, and it’s definitely not the book you want sitting on your nightstand when your […]

10 Ways Blizzards Are Good for Your Love Life

photo via Flickr It’s Snowmegeddon! Batten down the hatches! Get the gas for the generators! Scratch the eyes out of the mom at the grocery store grabbing the last of the organic milk! And then take a deep breath, relax, and look at the beautiful snow from another perspective: namely, from a place of love. […]

10 Journal Prompts to Help You Get Over a Breakup

photo via flickr Two recent articles in the New York Times (here and here) discussed the benefits of writing things down to help you move on from a difficult situation. An aversion to exercise, for example, or trouble fitting in at a new job, or — the situation we hear about most often at EMandLO.com — […]

4 Ways to Make Your Marriage Last in the 21st Century

by Gwendolyn Bond-Upson for YourTango | photo via flickr Did you know that the rate of infidelity in American marriages has not increased in 20 years, even though attitudes toward adultery have loosened in the past 40? More facts, in addition to tips for success are included in the University of Virginia’s National Marriage Project’s annual report “The State of […]

How to Organize Your Ex Out of Your Life

The two of us basically share a brain when it comes to this blog, and we are one hundred percent united on all the important issues in life, love, and dating: safe sex, orgasms for everyone, the superiority of flat-front pants, etc. But every now and then we have to resort to the first-person singular […]

How to Write a Love Letter Like Georgia O’Keeffe

“Blue Flower,” 1918 We’re not surprised in the slightest to discover that Georgia A-Flower-Is-Never-Just-a-Flower O’Keeffe was quite the steamy letter writer. Her love letters to the (ahem, married-at-the-time) photographer and modern art promoter Alfred Stieglitz were published as part of an exhibit at the Whitney Museum of American Art  a few years back. The two married eventually, and Stieglitz […]

Four Things You Need to Know About Casual, Anonymous, Tinder-esque Sex

by Aaron Kaplan for YourTango  |  photo via Flickr Just as people were becoming more cautious about casual sexual encounters like anonymous sex and one-night stands, Tinder blew up on the “dating” scene, and people stopped being quite as cautious about risky rendezvous. No one is saying you have to be a total prude when dating these days. Just […]

9 No-Duh Sex Moves Men Should Brush Up On

by Eden Strong for YourTango  |  photo via WeHeartIt Your sex life might be good but aren’t there always a few things that could make it, well, better? Quick answer: YES. How do I know? Over a glass of wine (or several), I flat out asked my friends if their sex life was everything they wanted it […]

7 Key Rules for Buying a Quality Sex Toy

There are countless toys out there to choose from — unfortunately, not all of them will get you to your happy place effectively, or even safely. The sex toy industry, which is largely unregulated, is littered with manufacturers and distributors who are more interested in quantity than quality. Fortunately that’s changing, as consumers become more […]

5 Phrases Women Need to Say More

by Ms Brenda Della Casa for YourTango  |  photo via Wikimedia Commons Never walk away muttering to yourself again. Anyone who has ever walked away from an exchange mumbling the things they “should have said” knows the crushing defeat that comes with not reaching deep into one’s vocabulary and putting together that one punchline phrase […]