Comment of the Week: What Porn Gets Wrong About Female Pleasure

photo via flickr Reader grainne said the following in response to our post, “Comment of the Week: How to Get Past His Porn Habit”. We found this point really interesting — that many women are bothered by porn not because they find it offensive, per se, but because they think it misleads men regarding what […]

Wise Guys: Which Would You Choose, Intercourse or Oral?

photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “If guys had to choose between only intercourse or only blowjobs for the rest of their life, which do you think most guys would choose?” Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): I think most guys would choose blowjobs, but they […]

10 Steps to Crossing the Finishing Line in Bed Tonight

One of the most common questions we receive from women is, “How can I orgasm in bed with my partner?” We hear some version of this question at least once a week. The really demanding women want to know how to orgasm simultaneously during penetration, every time. If this is you, then sorry, you’re out […]

Dear Em & Lo: How Great Should First-Time Sex with a New Partner Be?

photo via Flickr Dear Em and Lo, I was married for 20 years and now I am not.  I’m not crying in my soup (is that the term?). I’ve learned a lot about what makes for a crappy relationship and bad sex. And I have gained a sense of humor, sexual confidence and a pretty […]

Dear Em & Lo: I Got My Period During Sex and Am Mortified

photo by greenchartreuse Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear Em & Lo, I recently hooked up with a guy from work, but unfortunately things did not end up well. While we were having sex I got my period and it was brutal. I was so embarrassed that I […]

Your Call: Can I Expect Pleasure If My Wife Is in Pain?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. Submit Your Own Question to […]

Your Call: My Route to Orgasm Is Too Complicated for Husband

Antique map via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. You can leave your advice in the comments section below — for this question in particular, we thought that […]

Turkey Cooking Tips For Better Sex

photo via Flickr However distasteful it may sound, there are a lot of similarities between cooking turkey and having sex: prepping naked skin, heating things up, getting stuffed, being done — and when you really think about it, they’re both kind of gross. So in honor of the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday, we’ve retrofitted the Food […]

Comment of the Week: Don’t Make Sex So Goal-Oriented

photo via Flickr We love all our sage, eloquent commenters! Like Bryan responding to our recent Your Call post, “My Boyfriend Puts Too Much Pressure On My Orgasm“: My guess is that you are both putting entirely too much pressure on your sexual response. The same thing happens to men who suffer from psychological ED. […]

Tips on Technique & Taboos for Your Archetype

Our next installment of Bedroom Tips for each archetype on ArchetypeMe — the community site which tailors content and products to individual personalities — is out now! Part 1 of this series was on Seduction; this next part is on Satisfaction, wherein we give each of the 10 archetypes 3 tips on techniques and taboos specifically suggested […]