Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: My Husband Isn’t Interested in Sex with Me

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Help! I’ve been married to my husband 5 […]

Dear Em & Lo
I Love My Husband But Not Our Sex Life – Should I Leave?

photo via Flickr Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Hi Em & Lo, I’m with my husband thirteen years, only married for two. In all that time I’ve had maybe four orgasms. He can’t get me off, but he also told me before he doesn’t like me touching myself during […]

Dear Em & Lo
6 Steps for Teaching Yourself to Orgasm

Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been sexually active on and off for about four years now. The problem is that throughout those four years I have never reached an orgasm. I’ve had sex with partners and even bought a vibrator, but I still don’t think I’m finishing. When I use a vibrator it’ll be really […]

You Are Not Alone: Healing Painful Sex

The following is an excerpt from the introduction of the book “Healing Painful Sex: A Woman’s Guide to Confronting, Diagnosing, and Treating Sexual Pain” by Deborah Coady, MD, and Nancy Fish, MSW. If you have ever felt pain during or because of sex, you are not alone. It’s estimated that 16 to 20 percent of […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Am Drowning in Man Juice!

photo via Flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri: There is no eloquent way to put […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: How to Get the Sex You Want

photo via Flickr For the second week in a row, our favorite comment has been in response to the post, “Your Call: My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm” —  this week reader Tess has some similarly spot on advice: …if this pattern [of unsatisfying sex] is all that [your husband] knows, then you can’t expect him […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Do Most Men Define “Sex”?

photo by Ad Meskens Advice from three of’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How do you define what constitutes sex? Ask the Wise GuysYour Own Question! Is it penetration (with anything or just a penis)? Oral attention? Mutual orgasms? Mutual naked pleasure? etc.“ Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos of The White Swallow):  After being single […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Really Think About Baseball to Last Longer?

photo via flickr Advice from three of’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do men really think about baseball to make sex last longer? If they don’t know anything about baseball, what else do they think about?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Tom Miller): I […]

Survey Debunks Some of Our Least Favorite Sex Myths

photo via flickr We’re always a little skeptical when sex research is sponsored by a commercial product — as opposed to, say, an academic institution. That said, the commercially-driven surveys tend to have a lot of money and resources behind them, and every now and then, interesting stuff comes out of them. Take the new […]

What's Up Doc?
KEGEL WEEK: Dear Dr. Vanessa, What’s Up with Kegels?

Every few weeks, Dr. Vanessa Cullins, a board-certified obstetrician/gynecologist and vice president for medical affairs at Planned Parenthood® Federation of America, will be answering your questions here. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Vanessa, I went to the gynecologist the other day and she said she could tell (during the internal […]

How To
KEGEL WEEK: How To Do Kegels (for HER)

  Yesterday we went over the anatomy of your genital muscles and introduced you to the man who invented Kegels. Today, we instruct you, ladies, on how to actually do the strengthening exercises. (Guys, you’re up next.) The following is excerpted from our first sex manual, The Big Bang: KEGELS FOR HER Not only do defined […]

Dear Em & Lo
5 Ways to Make Sex with the Well-Endowed More Comfortable

Dear Em and Lo, I have recently found that mythical man that every woman wants and movies portray. He’s financially stable, no ex drama, gorgeous (holy crap is he!), very sexy, and very tall (approx 6′ 3″-4″). The latter part of his good qualities is what’s the issue — he’s TALL. Meaning that everything else […]

How To
The Reverse Coital Alignment Technique (or Reverse C.A.T.)

Yesterday we reviewed the Coital Alignment Technique, a sexual position that involves lots of body contact, slow and steady shifting, and a philosophical readjustment toward intercourse — all designed to increase a woman’s chances of orgasm via penile penetration. (Trust us, it’s sexier than that sounds.) Today, we cover how to flip that C.A.T. upside […]

How To
The Coital Alignment Technique (C.A.T.) – A Refresher Course

You’ve all heard of the Coital Alignment Technique. It was all the rage a decade or so ago. But have you ever actually tried it? Have you tried it again recently? It takes patience. It takes practice. And it goes against everything you’ve seen in porn. But since when did porn cater to what women […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Really Care About Their Partner’s Flexibility?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do men really care about how flexible their partners are in bed?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Single Straight Guy (Scott Phrenetik): Sure, flexibility is great… but I don’t need you to be able to lock your legs behind […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: I Can’t Have Intercourse, Should I Let Him Sleep Around?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  Dear Em & Lo, My husband and I […]