Intercourse
Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Do Most Men Define “Sex”?

photo by Ad Meskens Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How do you define what constitutes sex? Ask the Wise GuysYour Own Question! Is it penetration (with anything or just a penis)? Oral attention? Mutual orgasms? Mutual naked pleasure? etc.“ Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos of The White Swallow):  After being single […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Really Think About Baseball to Last Longer?

photo via flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do men really think about baseball to make sex last longer? If they don’t know anything about baseball, what else do they think about?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Tom Miller): I […]

Research
Survey Debunks Some of Our Least Favorite Sex Myths

photo via flickr We’re always a little skeptical when sex research is sponsored by a commercial product — as opposed to, say, an academic institution. That said, the commercially-driven surveys tend to have a lot of money and resources behind them, and every now and then, interesting stuff comes out of them. Take the new […]

What's Up Doc?
KEGEL WEEK: Dear Dr. Vanessa, What’s Up with Kegels?

Every few weeks, Dr. Vanessa Cullins, a board-certified obstetrician/gynecologist and vice president for medical affairs at Planned Parenthood® Federation of America, will be answering your questions here. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Vanessa, I went to the gynecologist the other day and she said she could tell (during the internal […]

How To
KEGEL WEEK: How To Do Kegels (for HER)

  Yesterday we went over the anatomy of your genital muscles and introduced you to the man who invented Kegels. Today, we instruct you, ladies, on how to actually do the strengthening exercises. (Guys, you’re up next.) The following is excerpted from our first sex manual, The Big Bang: KEGELS FOR HER Not only do defined […]

Dear Em & Lo
5 Ways to Make Sex with the Well-Endowed More Comfortable

Dear Em and Lo, I have recently found that mythical man that every woman wants and movies portray. He’s financially stable, no ex drama, gorgeous (holy crap is he!), very sexy, and very tall (approx 6′ 3″-4″). The latter part of his good qualities is what’s the issue — he’s TALL. Meaning that everything else […]

How To
The Reverse Coital Alignment Technique (or Reverse C.A.T.)

Yesterday we reviewed the Coital Alignment Technique, a sexual position that involves lots of body contact, slow and steady shifting, and a philosophical readjustment toward intercourse — all designed to increase a woman’s chances of orgasm via penile penetration. (Trust us, it’s sexier than that sounds.) Today, we cover how to flip that C.A.T. upside […]

How To
The Coital Alignment Technique (C.A.T.) – A Refresher Course

You’ve all heard of the Coital Alignment Technique. It was all the rage a decade or so ago. But have you ever actually tried it? Have you tried it again recently? It takes patience. It takes practice. And it goes against everything you’ve seen in porn. But since when did porn cater to what women […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Really Care About Their Partner’s Flexibility?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do men really care about how flexible their partners are in bed?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Single Straight Guy (Scott Phrenetik): Sure, flexibility is great… but I don’t need you to be able to lock your legs behind […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: I Can’t Have Intercourse, Should I Let Him Sleep Around?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  Dear Em & Lo, My husband and I […]

Personal Essays
5 Reasons to Have Sex with the Lights On

photo via flickr EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz — you can read her blog here — has a confession to make: In the movie Manhattan, Diane Keaton says to Woody Allen that he’s the kind of man she could see herself have kids with […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Like Crazy Positions in Bed?

photo via flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Are most guys really into tackling crazy sexual positions (e.g. the wheelbarrow) or are most men completely happy with the standards (e.g. missionary, woman on top, etc)? If it’s the former, why?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Married […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Can a Relationship Work When the Sex Is Compromised?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. This week, we had two very similar inquiries from both a straight woman and a straight man. Make […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Orgasmless Sex Isn’t Just a Female Thing

photo via Flickr In keeping with this week’s “Did You Come?” theme, one of our recent college grad friends has a confession to make: The first time my boyfriend didn’t orgasm during sex I was completely shocked. This NEVER happened. Was I loosing my touch? Was I not sexy anymore? Was he bored or losing […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Why It’s Okay to Ask, Did You Come?

In response to our post “The Ten Worst Things You Can Say in Bed,” reader Walt Whitman wrote the following. And we have to say: he makes an excellent point! I take minor issue with #10. [“Did you come?”] I think it’s a bit romantic to presume that one’s partner will simply know whether the […]

How To
The Ten Worst Things You Can Say in Bed

photo via flickr If we had to distill our entire body of sex advice into one word, it would probably be this: communicate. Before sex, during sex, after sex — speak up, people! It’s the only way to get what you need and want, and to make sure that your partner is getting what they […]