Dear Em & Lo, Every time my boyfriend and I “engage,” he turns me on then asks me to give him a BJ. After I do, I’m not as interested anymore. It happens every time. I’m very uncomfortable when I perform a BJ, and it takes away from the pleasure. I want to know if […]
Dear Em & Lo, It’s recently come to my attention that women can have orgasms while asleep, similarly to how men can have wet dreams. I was wondering: is it possible to have them before you’ve had an orgasm? As a 19-year old, I sometimes get turned on, but don’t do anything about it for fear of […]
photo via flickr Reader grainne said the following in response to our post, “Comment of the Week: How to Get Past His Porn Habit”. We found this point really interesting — that many women are bothered by porn not because they find it offensive, per se, but because they think it misleads men regarding what […]
photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “If guys had to choose between only intercourse or only blowjobs for the rest of their life, which do you think most guys would choose?” Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): I think most guys would choose blowjobs, but they […]
photo via Flickr Dear Em and Lo, I was married for 20 years and now I am not. I’m not crying in my soup (is that the term?). I’ve learned a lot about what makes for a crappy relationship and bad sex. And I have gained a sense of humor, sexual confidence and a pretty […]
photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. Submit Your Own Question to […]
Antique map via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. You can leave your advice in the comments section below — for this question in particular, we thought that […]
photo via Flickr We love all our sage, eloquent commenters! Like Bryan responding to our recent Your Call post, “My Boyfriend Puts Too Much Pressure On My Orgasm“: My guess is that you are both putting entirely too much pressure on your sexual response. The same thing happens to men who suffer from psychological ED. […]
Our next installment of Bedroom Tips for each archetype on ArchetypeMe — the community site which tailors content and products to individual personalities — is out now! Part 1 of this series was on Seduction; this next part is on Satisfaction, wherein we give each of the 10 archetypes 3 tips on techniques and taboos specifically suggested […]
Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I am 24 years old and am recently engaged to my boyfriend of 2 years. We have been very open with our sexual problems but one I just can’t see to get him to understand is that I can’t have […]
photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. Submit Your Own Question to […]
We believe that the quickie is one of the most underrated sex acts out there. Perhaps this is because everyone from Sting to porn producers to teen boys reciting baseball statistics in bed are convinced that going long is always better. Here are five reasons why, sometimes, less is more. 1. You Need Your Beauty […]
We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. Help! I’ve been married to my husband 5 […]
photo via Flickr Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Hi Em & Lo, I’m with my husband thirteen years, only married for two. In all that time I’ve had maybe four orgasms. He can’t get me off, but he also told me before he doesn’t like me touching myself during […]
Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been sexually active on and off for about four years now. The problem is that throughout those four years I have never reached an orgasm. I’ve had sex with partners and even bought a vibrator, but I still don’t think I’m finishing. When I use a vibrator it’ll be really […]
The following is an excerpt from the introduction of the book “Healing Painful Sex: A Woman’s Guide to Confronting, Diagnosing, and Treating Sexual Pain” by Deborah Coady, MD, and Nancy Fish, MSW. If you have ever felt pain during or because of sex, you are not alone. It’s estimated that 16 to 20 percent of […]
