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“150 Shades of Play” Is Now Available on Kindle!

Our latest book, now available in a discreet Kindle edition We get it: 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink is not necessarily the book you want to be caught reading on the bus, or during your lunch break, and it’s definitely not the book you want sitting on your nightstand when your […]

Pop Culture
New “Fifty Shades of Grey” Trailer

  It’s like the tingly excitement you felt in your stomach as a kid as Christmas approached with the promise of your most wished-for present, except now that tingling is lower, the holiday is Valentine’s Day, and the present is the film adaptation of Fifty Shades of Grey. The second trailer was released yesterday and […]

Confessions
How to Become a Cuckold (If That’s Your Thing)

Every now and then (okay, so it’s not exactly rare!) a reader gives better advice than we ever could. Especially when it’s a very specific situation that we have zero experience in… and the reader has experience in spades. This week is just such a case: Reader Ken shares very smart advice on how to […]

How To
How to Make Your Ravishment Fantasy Come True

There is perhaps no sexual fantasy that disturbs people more than the rape fantasy.  Even people in committed, loving relationships who have successfully navigated such a fantasy with massive amounts of communication and trust can feel weird about it. Readers often ask us, “What’s wrong with me that I’m into this?” Well, as we have […]

News
How “Fifty Shades” Has Changed Sex Over the Past 3 Years

sponsored post As if the whole Internet going gaga over the first trailer for the movie adaptation of E.L. James’ erotic novel “Fifty Shades of Grey” wasn’t evidence enough, our friends over at LELO have actually quantified just how influential the story of Ana, Christian and his woven tie have been on the world’s sexual habits. […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: How to Really Talk About Sex with Your Spouse

photo via Wikimedia Reader Nikki dropped some serious wisdom this week in response to our post, “BDSM Saved My Life, But Is Ruining My Near Perfect Marriage” (we’re thinking we may have to start a Kinksters Anonymous support group to help out all these kink-stressed marriages): Oh, damn. This is a tough situation. It sounds […]

Dear Em & Lo
BDSM Saved My Life, But Is Ruining My Near Perfect Marriage

Okay, so this letter below from one of our readers is super long, and it’s not nearly as memerific as Kickstarter potato salad or photos of celebrities without makeup. But trust us, it’s worth the read. It’s from a man who is married to the woman of his dreams — they love each other’s company, […]

Toys
How “Fifty Shades” Has Changed Sex Over the Past 3 Years

sponsored post As if the whole Internet going gaga over the first trailer for the movie adaptation of E.L. James’ erotic novel “Fifty Shades of Grey” wasn’t evidence enough, our friends over at LELO have actually quantified just how influential the story of Ana, Christian and his woven tie have been on the world’s sexual habits. […]

Confessions
Extra-Marital Sex: Ask for Permission, Not Forgiveness

Reader Vixen told the following cautionary tale in response to our post, “Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?” Remember, dear readers: Most people find it easier to get over infidelity than dishonesty in their spouse. The sooner you say something — preferably before you actually cheat — the better. My […]

Pop Culture
The Weirdest “Sex” Photos from Getty Images, Part 1

  When you do a search for “sex” on Getty Images, you get a lot of interesting results — so many, in fact, that we were compelled to launch a superlative series of Getty “sex” search images today. This inaugural installment highlights the weirdest — actually, there are so many we have to present them in […]

Toys
Last Chance to Get a Great $10 “Gag” Gift for Mom!

Lelo’s Etherea Silk Cuffs Mother’s Day is THIS Sunday, so you only have a couple days left to get Mom the gift that’ll tide her over until the Fifty Shades movie comes out next year: our book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink! Hear us out: Moms loved the Twilight series, but secretly […]

Pop Culture
Moms Are Kinky People Too!

Lelo’s Etherea Silk Cuffs Mother’s Day is just around the corner! Sure, you could get her some nice flowers…again. Or you could get her something she’ll really enjoy: our new book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink! Hear us out: Moms loved the Twilight series, but secretly wished there was more sex […]

Confessions
The Three Make-or-Break Issues In Every Relationship

Reader Blah Blah Blacksheep (best username ever, by the way!) said the following in response to our post Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed? Money, sex, and kids are the three make-or-break things in every relationship. A spender will have a hard time being with a saver. Two dominants or […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: BDSM Destroyed My Marriage

Reader Nancy told the following heartbreaking story in response to our post, “Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?” Sometimes, it turns out, love just isn’t enough… I have been married for 17 years and recently discovered my husband’s infidelity. He started with a porn addiction which affected our sex life […]

Research
Fifty Shades of… Vanilla?

photo via flickr | sponsored post Back in January we wrote about new research from LELO showing that the kinky sex revolution is waning: Sales of toys such as whips and teasers reached a plateau in the last quarter of 2013, compared with a 50% increase over the same period in 2012. Meanwhile, sales of premium couples massagers and vibrating couples’ rings worn […]

Pop Culture
The Best (Most Affordable) Valentine’s Day Present You Can Give

Here are the top 10 reasons why our award-winning book 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink — now also available in a discreet Kindle edition! — makes the best Valentine’s Day present: It gives you the great excuse to try something new in the bedroom — perfect for longterm couples on Valentine’s Day. It […]