Kink
Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Do I Set Limits in a New BDSM Relationship?

photo via Entertainment Weekly We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. You can leave your advice in the comments section below (for a reader who appears to be dating a […]

Pop Culture
Last Week for FREE Shipping of 150 SHADES OF PLAY!

Kimono Robe by LELO Your holiday shopping days are dwindling, so don’t miss out on the chance to give your lover a naughty stocking stuffer, your best friend a companion piece to her dog-eared copy of Fifty Shades, or your coworkers something to blush over during the Secret Santa exchange at your holiday office party! […]

Pop Culture
The Best Holiday Gift EVER Is Now Under 10 Bucks!

Okay, we may be overstating things just a tad. But just check out the Amazon reviews and you’ll see that 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink — winner of a 2013 IPPY Award! — is the most perfect, affordable, and easily purchased gift for: Your friend who can’t wait for the Fifty Shades of Grey movies […]

Dream Interpretation
My Fiance Bit Me Like a Vampire in His Sleep

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I am big into pain while having sex, and I am also into vampires. My fiance and I live together and he knows about […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: BDSM Is More About Trust Than Ropes & Chains

Sutra Chainlink Cuffs by LELO Reader sex_is_weird_thats_all said the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies, Too?” Despite the people who end up in the news, there is usually in any metropolitan area a very legit BDSM community. I have a group of friends that includes a sizable chunk […]

Books
How to Tell a Vanilla Partner About Your Kink

We frequently hear from readers who are struggling with an imbalance of kink in their relationship — one partner is vanilla while the other is decidedly chocolate-swirl-fudge. So we asked Richard Wagner, a.k.a. Dr. Dick (seriously), the author of the new book The Gospel of Kink: A Modern Guide To Asking For What You Want And […]

Books
Top 10 Things the “Fifty Shades” Movie Could Do Better Than the Book

Since the casting was finally announced this past Monday for the adaptation of the first Fifty Shades of Grey book — with Charlie Hunnam (Sons of Anarchy) as Christian Grey and Dakota Johnson (The Social Network) as Anastasia Steele — the general consensus has been “They got it wrong!” We’re not sure any casting would have […]

How To
How to Introduce Kink Into Your Relationship (Esp If You’re a Dude)

Lelo’s Etherea Silk Cuffs Our friend, previous Nerve coworker, and fellow writer Grant Stoddard recently hit us up for some insight for his Men’s Health article “Does She Deserve a Spanking?” This is how these things go: article writer asks you (the author of a book on the subject in question) a bunch of questions, you […]

How To
How to Enjoy Sensation Play

photo via Flickr The following is the kind of fun advice you’ll find in our new book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink: Sensation play might as well be called sensational play. After all, sex shouldn’t always be rub, climax, rinse, repeat. Add a little subtlety to your sexuality and you get sensuality, […]

Books
How to Make Your Sexual Fantasy Come True

photo via flickr Last week we published two excerpts from Tracey Cox’s new book Dare: What Happens When Fantasies Come True, which is available now on Amazon for your Kindle. (Tracey’s Dare product range is also available at LoveHoney.) The first excerpt explained how fantasizing can improve your relationship, and the second was the hilarious/cringe-inducing/enlightening/still kind of hot […]

How To
Top 5 Tips for Taking Saucy Pics Together

photo via She Hit Pause Studios Shooting naked photos together can be embarrassing and even terrifying, but it can also be an incredibly sexy and intimate experience. Plus, no matter how you feel about your shape, we’re pretty sure that in thirty years you’ll wish you had that body — and you’ll be glad you […]

Pop Culture
Kinky Poem of the Week: The World’s Guide to Beginning

You may recall that a month or so back, we were in New York City to receive an IPPY Award for our latest book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. While there, we met  Marty McConnell, silver medalist in the poetry category for her collection Wine for a Shotgun. When the poetry winners were each […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How to Make Fireworks in the Bedroom

Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Seeing as it’s Independence Day this week, what’s your number 1 tip for making fireworks in the bedroom?” Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Pop champagne! Sex is all about letting go of inhibitions and nothing helps you tap into those deep, […]

Pop Culture
“150 Shades of Play” at the IPPY Awards!

Last night, we attended the IPPY Awards ceremony in NYC to receive our silver medals for all-around awesomeness in an independently-published sex & relationship book.150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink is now an award-winner! While sipping our complimentary cocktails (yay, open bar!), nibbling the mediocre passed apps (free food, eh), listening to all the award announcements (there […]

Dream Interpretation
My BDSM Relationship Is Giving Me Nightmares

“Em & Lo’s Shades of Play Kit” at GoodVibes Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I have, for lack of […]

Books
C Is for Cuffs

Lelo’s Etherea Silk Cuffs (a black version is part of their Dare Me Pleasure Set) The following is from our very own naughty, award-winning dictionary, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Bolded words signify individual entries that appear elsewhere in the A-to-Z section of the book. Anything with a tie icon indicates an activity or […]