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Pop Culture
Moms Are Kinky People Too!

Lelo’s Etherea Silk Cuffs Mother’s Day is just around the corner! Sure, you could get her some nice flowers…again. Or you could get her something she’ll really enjoy: our new book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink! Hear us out: Moms loved the Twilight series, but secretly wished there was more sex […]

Confessions
The Three Make-or-Break Issues In Every Relationship

Reader Blah Blah Blacksheep (best username ever, by the way!) said the following in response to our post Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed? Money, sex, and kids are the three make-or-break things in every relationship. A spender will have a hard time being with a saver. Two dominants or […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: BDSM Destroyed My Marriage

Reader Nancy told the following heartbreaking story in response to our post, “Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?” Sometimes, it turns out, love just isn’t enough… I have been married for 17 years and recently discovered my husband’s infidelity. He started with a porn addiction which affected our sex life […]

Research
Fifty Shades of… Vanilla?

photo via flickr | sponsored post Back in January we wrote about new research from LELO showing that the kinky sex revolution is waning: Sales of toys such as whips and teasers reached a plateau in the last quarter of 2013, compared with a 50% increase over the same period in 2012. Meanwhile, sales of premium couples massagers and vibrating couples’ rings worn […]

Pop Culture
The Best (Most Affordable) Valentine’s Day Present You Can Give

Here are the top 10 reasons why our award-winning book 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink — now also available in a discreet Kindle edition! — makes the best Valentine’s Day present: It gives you the great excuse to try something new in the bedroom — perfect for longterm couples on Valentine’s Day. It […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: TOO Equal in a Relationship = No Spark

Reader AndySea wrote the following in response to the post, “Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?” What do the rest of you think: Is it true that in a relationship of equals, “the sexual spark is never as strong”? (For the record, AndySea is speaking of any kind of power dynamic in […]

Research
2014: Year of the Vanilla Revolution?

Image via Flickr | Sponsored Post The Fifty Shades of Grey movie may not be scheduled for release until February 13, 2015, but according to LELO, the kinky sex revolution is already waning. According to sales figures of LELO toys, tracked across their top 20 leading markets, sales of BDSM accessories such as whips and teasers reached […]

News
We Wish You a Merry Kinkmas!

We hope you’ll get to spend at least part of this week eating too much, drinking too much, and maybe even having post-t(of)urkey comfort sex (assuming you’re not sharing a bedroom with your nerdy eight-year-old cousin at an over-stuffed family reunion). We’ll be taking the week off — except for your weekly horoscopes, which will […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Do I Set Limits in a New BDSM Relationship?

photo via Entertainment Weekly We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. You can leave your advice in the comments section below (for a reader who appears to be dating a […]

Pop Culture
The 12 Days of Kinkmas

In honor of the special holiday sale price of our book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink (now under ten bucks for the first time ever!), we’re presenting own special sexy sacrilegious spin on a Xmas classic. Enjoy: On the 12th Day of Kinkmas my true sub gave to me… 12 Crops a […]