photo by prakhar The following two comments were in response to “Your Call: He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla — Is the Relationship Doomed?” It’s Doomed, Says Amanda: I have a guy friend in this situation. He is kinky, she is not. His experience makes me think you are probably a bit doomed. I asked him as a [...]
Continue reading...Tuesday, June 8, 2010
photo by Darth Fett Share your advice for this reader in the comments section below… Dear Em & Lo, I recently started dating a wonderful man. He’s smart, and interesting, and handsome and the sex has been delightful. But not outstanding. But we’ve been working a fairly brisk learning curve and we can’t seem to [...]
Continue reading...Wednesday, May 5, 2010
photo by Janine You’re away on business, you don’t know a soul in this town, you’re holed up in your hotel room, alone and lonely (read: horny) and because you are a not a cheating scumbag and this isn’t Up in the Air, you pick up the phone to call your honey at home in the hopes of [...]
Continue reading...Wednesday, March 24, 2010
photo by sskennel Thinking of playing a little very candid camera with your other half? Engaging in your own sexual shoot, whether as the star or the director or both, can automatically make things more dramatic and theatrical, even if you end up keeping most of your clothes on or refuse to make any cliched “orgasm faces.” But, [...]
Continue reading...Thursday, February 25, 2010
What’s your opinion on using battery-operated sex toys with a partner?online surveys Can’t see the poll? Click here to take it.
Continue reading...Wednesday, February 24, 2010
photo by carolyn.will You know the basic idea of sensory deprivation, right? You limit one or more senses, and the others get stronger. Limit everything but touch, and your orgasm will feel like the center of the universe. You may have done this without even knowing you were practicing sensory deprivation — with a blindfold, [...]
Continue reading...Tuesday, January 5, 2010
photo via Rachel_Kramer_Bussel “Spank Tuesday” continues with this question from a reader: Dear Em & Lo, How do I ask my husband to spank me? It is many years since I was spanked. Do I just ask him or buy a paddle as a Valentine’s gift or what? – Red-Cheeked Wannabe What should Red-Cheeked Wannabe [...]
Continue reading...Wednesday, December 16, 2009
photo by smell_of_colours Sharing a fantasy with a partner can be a cheap and easy way to foster intimacy, build trust, and kink things up. But it takes a lot of courage to do. What if you think yours is too mundane to put into words (remember Meg Ryan’s faceless stranger fantasy in When Harry [...]
Continue reading...Wednesday, October 28, 2009
photo by tsuacctnt If you hate karaoke and public speaking is one of your greatest fears, then the whole idea of acting out your fantasies probably sounds about as appealing as, well, karaoke and public speaking. If that’s you, then you can use Halloween to gently test the sexual benefits of role-playing. It’s the perfect [...]
Continue reading...Friday, October 9, 2009
photo by Dale Gillard Dear Em & Lo, I have this really awesome, sensitive, caring, sweet, good-in-bed, blah blah blah boyfriend — I wouldn’t leave him for the world. I also have wild fantasies about being tied up, demeaned, beaten . . . you get the idea. Is this a problem? Maybe fantasies are not [...]
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Wednesday, June 9, 2010
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