Kinky
Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Do My Kinky Fantasies Need Therapy?

photo by Dale Gillard Dear Em & Lo, I have this really awesome, sensitive, caring, sweet, good-in-bed, blah blah blah boyfriend — I wouldn’t leave him for the world. I also have wild fantasies about being tied up, demeaned, beaten . . . you get the idea. Is this a problem? Maybe fantasies are not […]

How To
Top 10 Spanking Tips

Hand-to-bum contact, if you can pull it off without cracking up (heh, we said crack), is a great way to add some kinky flavor to your next sesh. It’s intimate, it’s saucy, and — when compared to, say, a whip or a flogger — it’s safe for newbies to try out. Also, a recent study […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: The Popsicle Solution

DIY popsicle mold, $9.99 at Amazon Earlier this week we published a letter from a reader who loves playing with ice in bed…but hates the way it freezes her fingers. She asked for a solution, and you guys came through! “One word — popsicle. Put a few sticks in the ice cube tray. And prepare […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Can I Stop Ice from Numbing My Fingers in Bed?

photo by Kyle_May Dear Em & Lo, We’ve had exceptionally hot weather for the last few days and my boyfriend and I thought this was the perfect time to get some ice cubes from the freezer for a bit of kink. I absolutely adored the chilling touch of the melting ice, it was an absolute […]

Dear Em & Lo
Can a Marriage Survive a Consensual Third Party?

We know that a helpful answer to this question goes deeper than a multiple-choice poll, so we encourage you to cast your vote and then leave your advice/war stories/encouragement for Maybe Baby in the comments section below. Dear Em & Lo, I hope you can help me and my wife with our problem.We have been […]

Personal Essays
Confession: My BF and I Created a Fantasy Suggestion Box

photo by hashmil Our contributor, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: My boyfriend and I used to fuck like bunnies.  And I don’t mean we were cute and cuddly in bed — I mean, we did it like they do on the Discovery Channel.  We couldn’t keep our dirty little paws […]

Pop Culture
Books: The Other Side of Desire

The Other Side of Desire is in bookstores now We’ve read — or at least skimmed — hundreds of books about sex in our ten years in the biz, and our shelves are stacked with tomes on everything from gays in the military to the science of seduction. Some educate us, some make us laugh, […]

Confessions
Altoids as Sex Toy: Fact or Fiction?

photo by Mistral938 This “curiously strong mint” with sexy ad tag lines (“Pleasure in pain”; “These mints have not yet been rated”; “Shrinkage may occur”; “Dental Damn!”) was the subject of a widely circulated 1997 email extolling the mints’ powers as an oral sex aid. (Hmmmm, we wonder who originally sent that email? Could it […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! Embrace Your Inner Goth

photo by jswieringa Here’s a quick science lesson for you: Scented and colored candles often contain plasticizers, which make them burn much hotter, i.e., way too hot for your sweetie’s fleshy parts. Black candles and beeswax candles burn the hottest of all. (Besides, what are you doing with black candles anyway? That’s so Trenchcoat Brigade.) […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! Make Your One-Night Stand a Little Naughtier

photo by Aoife city womanchile Next time you take a beautiful stranger back to your place for a one-night stand, use the opportunity to experiment with acts that you consider out of character. (And no, we don’t mean letting them tie you up — remember, kids: don’t stare at the sun, don’t run with scissors, […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! Be Submissive…On Purpose

photo by Pato Garza If you want a little freedom from all your daily responsibilities, if you’re sick of having to make decisions, if you kinda like being held down and tickled….then why not spend an evening being submissive for a change? Let your partner call all the shots. By being (temporarily) submissive in the […]