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50 Shades of Play: A Guide to the Toys in “Fifty Shades of Grey”

Say what you will about the literary merit of E.L. James’s Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy, but you can’t deny the sexual curiosity they’ve ignited, the sexual knowledge they’ve imparted and the sexual delight they’ve given, where most readers are concerned. The result has been a boon for the sex toy industry, thanks to all […]

Your Call: We Got Kinky Then She Dumped Me – Now What?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below. Dear Em & Lo, I had […]

5 Ways to Keep Sex Fresh and New — No, Seriously

photo by John Brawley If you want to feel like it’s the very first time, then it’s important to keep sex surprising and try new things regularly. You can’t get lazy. So give the following steps a try every now and then. You might feel silly being “experimental,” but the occasional awkward moment is a […]

The 10 Rules of Wrist Restraint

Lelo cuffs Today we are going to talk about “sensual bondage.” This is a kinder, gentler BDSM that just focuses on the simple wrist restraint of a partner who gives you their permission to do so first. Anything more complicated and you’ll need to school yourself thoroughly in the safety aspects of bondage, either with […]

Headphones: A New Twist on Sensory Deprivation

photo by SS.ma You know the basic idea of sensory deprivation, right? You limit one or more senses, and the others gets stronger. Limit everything but touch, and your orgasm will feel like the center of the universe. You may have done this without even knowing you were enjoying sensory deprivation — when you blindfold […]

Dear Em & Lo: My Wife Asked Me to Slap Her

photo by Mickey Sick Dear Em & Lo, My wife and I have been together just over five years. The other night while having sex, she asked me to slap her in the face. Repeatedly. I was raised not to lay a hand down on a woman, and now I am being asked to. We […]

Top 10 Items to Pack for Summer Vacation (We’re Not Talking Sunscreen)

Don’t waste precious suitcase space on sunscreen this summer vacation—you can buy that when you arrive. But here are 10 items that you probably won’t be able to find at the resort, so pack them for guaranteed high temperatures, no matter what the weather is like. You might want to put them in your checked […]

How NOT to Spice Up Your Relationship

photo by Jason Clapp The following Em & Lo article is also published in Sexis, EdenFantasys.com’s magazine: We’ve been in the magazine business for more than ten years, and we are still suckers for those stupid headlines like “537 Ways to Improve Your Sex Life TONIGHT!” We just can’t help flipping to that article while we’re stuck […]

Comments of the Week: Friendship vs. Sex in LTRs

photo by prakhar The following two comments were in response to “Your Call: He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla — Is the Relationship Doomed?” It’s Doomed, Says Amanda: I have a guy friend in this situation. He is kinky, she is not. His experience makes me think you are probably a bit doomed. I asked him as a […]

Your Call: He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?

Share your advice for this reader in the comments section below… Dear Em & Lo, I recently started dating a wonderful man. He’s smart, and interesting, and handsome and the sex has been delightful. But not outstanding. But we’ve been working a fairly brisk learning curve and we can’t seem to get enough of each […]