Kissing
How To
5 Ways to Reconceptualize SEX

  We’ve said it before, we’ll say it again: Sex is not intercourse. So stop using the two words interchangeably! When we as a society do this over and over again, it gets into the collective unconscious and starts limiting how we imagine the possibilities of pleasure, especially for women. A majority of women (that’s […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: A Friend Kisses Me in My Sleep

photo via Flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: So I had a dream about sleeping: somehow a longtime classmate/friend kissed me on the lips and we both just […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Hates Kissing

Dear Em & Lo, My man, who I love and adore, blah blah blah, does not like to kiss. This is not to say we don’t peck: we do, as after bringing up the lack of kissing to him earlier in our relationship (around year one of three), he did up the level of G-rated […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate: When Should I Tell a Partner About Oral Herpes?

photo via Flickr Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here every two weeks. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, I am a woman with oral herpes. Is this something I should tell new partners […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: Kissing an Ex I Was Never Into

photo by rileyroxx Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: Before I went to sleep, I’d just had a disagreement with my boyfriend and we settled it. It was something […]

Pop Culture
The Science/Poetry of Kissing

We once heard an interview on NPR with Sheril Kirshenbaum, author of the new book “The Science of Kissing: What Our Lips Are Telling Us” (which was timed perfectly to come out about a month before Valentine’s Day). The question came up: Are we the only species that kisses? To which Kirshenbaum answered: …Well, scientists have […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: An Officer and a Gentlewoman

photo by maureen lunn Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: The man I have feelings for is an officer; I am enlisted in the military, so a relationship is […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week – Lips Don't Have a Monopoly on Kisses

photo by Ezyan Y. In response to Your Call: How Can They Maintain Intimacy If They Can’t Kiss, rhapsodyblue graciously proves that if you throw your problems into the community swap pile, you’ll most likely gladly take yours back. And the fact that rhapsodyblue gives such good, positive, supportive advice so gently, without telling the […]

Your Call
Your Call: How Can They Maintain Intimacy If They Can’t Kiss?

photo by Ezyan Y. We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Love Me, Love My Morning Breath

photo by kwimsnr Why is there no option for “Yes, morning breath is never a problem for me or my partner”? What’s wrong with this world that we have to sterilize everything about ourselves, even the idea that our breath might not be naturally minty fresh. My partner and I spend hours in bed in […]