Libido
Your Call
I Love My Fiance and Still Think He’s Hot. So Where Did My Libido Go?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  Dear Em & Lo, I am a 23 year old woman and […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Naming the Female Equivalent of Blue Balls

We’ve had some pretty creative additions to our poll calling for a name for the female equivalent of blue balls. Here are a few recent contenders… Purple Pussy Syndrome, or PPS for short — Christine Bummed beaver, not enough dam wood! — Jeri Wasted Wetness — Coral Cox Blue Cooch — Ricco Blue Box — […]

How To
Why Marriage Vows Should Include Sex

photo via flickr Traditional marriage vows cover better… and worse; sickness… and health; riches…. and poverty; forsaking all others… but not its opposite. What is the opposite of forsaking all others, anyway? Well, if forsaking all others is about the absence of sex (with other people), then its opposite, in our opinion, is the presence […]

Dear Em & Lo
What to Do When You Have Zero Sex Drive

photo via flickr Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 23-year old woman in a relationship with a wonderful guy — we’re celebrating two years together this month. We’re pretty serious about each other, but we have a serious hangup:  I have very little sex drive.  I’m not sure if he’s got an average drive or […]

How To
How to Make Masturbation Feel More Intimate

photo via flickr We often hear women complain that masturbation just doesn’t do it for them, simply because there’s no man or woman attached to the end of the sex toy. In other words, they want masturbation to provide not just sex, but also intimacy. So, how do you make masturbation feel more intimate? Okay, […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: My Wife Never Initiates Sex

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: The Relationship Is Great, the Sex Not So Much

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Help, My Husband Has ZERO Sex Drive!

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

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Dear Em & Lo: Where Did My Sex Drive Go?

photo via flickr Dear Em & Lo, When I was in my teens, I had a perfectly healthy (if not overzealous…) sex drive. Now, in my mid 20’s, I find myself totally disinterested 95% of the time. I am trying to figure out if perhaps it could be due to hormonal birth control, as I […]

Pop Culture
Are Women Even Less Naturally Monogamous Than Men?

Daniel Bergner is one of our favorite writers on the topic of sex. A few years back he wrote the awesome book The Other Side of Desire, which we raved about at the time, and then shortly after he wrote a cover story about female desire for the New York Times magazine, which we also […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Always Chooses Masturbation Over Me

photo via flickr Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I have been dating my man for over 6 years. For the past 4 yrs, our intercourse has gone from 2x/wk to once every 2 months. He explained to me it’s because he’s tired, he wants to […]

How To
5 Reasons to Give Quickies a Try

We believe that the quickie is one of the most underrated sex acts out there. Perhaps this is because everyone from Sting to porn producers to teen boys reciting baseball statistics in bed are convinced that going long is always better. Here are five reasons why, sometimes, less is more. 1. You Need Your Beauty […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Do I Get Over All the Sex She’s Had Before Me?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. We’re tempted to give this guy a piece […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: I Can’t Keep Up with My Girlfriend’s Libido

photo via flickr Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and we love each other very much, but she is way more into sex than I am. I try to match her libido but she is still too […]

How To
5 Ways to Rekindle the Flame

photo via flickr True love and deep intimacy aren’t a guarantee of hot sex. In fact, being in long-term love might be the reason your sex life is dull! After all, it’s hard to get excited when you know all your partner’s moves, when you know they’re not going anywhere, when you know every bad […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: How to Handle a Husband Who Doesn’t Want Sex

image via Wiki Media Reader K said the following in response to the post, “Your Call: My Husband Isn’t Interested in Sex with Me.” I am dealing with some of the same issues. My husband hardly ever wants to have sex. He used to blame it on my weight gain, the house is messy, he’s […]