Libido
Wise Guys: What If Her Libido Is Bigger Than His?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What would most guys think about dating a woman whose sex drive was higher than his? Would it be awesome? Annoying? Lead to insecurities? Make you think less (or more) of her? All of the above?” To ask the […]

Dear Em & Lo: Where Did My Sex Drive Go?

photo via flickr Dear Em & Lo, When I was in my teens, I had a perfectly healthy (if not overzealous…) sex drive. Now, in my mid 20’s, I find myself totally disinterested 95% of the time. I am trying to figure out if perhaps it could be due to hormonal birth control, as I […]

Are Women Even Less Naturally Monogamous Than Men?

Daniel Bergner is one of our favorite writers on the topic of sex. A few years back he wrote the awesome book The Other Side of Desire, which we raved about at the time, and then shortly after he wrote a cover story about female desire for the New York Times magazine, which we also […]

Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Always Chooses Masturbation Over Me

photo via flickr Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I have been dating my man for over 6 years. For the past 4 yrs, our intercourse has gone from 2x/wk to once every 2 months. He explained to me it’s because he’s tired, he wants to […]

5 Reasons to Give Quickies a Try

photo from Got a Minute? 60 Second Erotica We believe that the quickie is one of the most underrated sex acts out there. Perhaps this is because everyone from Sting to porn producers to teen boys reciting baseball statistics in bed are convinced that going long is always better. Here are five reasons why, sometimes, less […]

Your Call: How Do I Get Over All the Sex She’s Had Before Me?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. We’re tempted to give this guy a piece […]

Dear Em & Lo: I Can’t Keep Up with My Girlfriend’s Libido

photo via flickr Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and we love each other very much, but she is way more into sex than I am. I try to match her libido but she is still too […]

5 Ways to Rekindle the Flame

photo via flickr True love and deep intimacy aren’t a guarantee of hot sex. In fact, being in long-term love might be the reason your sex life is dull! After all, it’s hard to get excited when you know all your partner’s moves, when you know they’re not going anywhere, when you know every bad […]

Comment of the Week: How to Handle a Husband Who Doesn’t Want Sex

image via Wiki Media Reader K said the following in response to the post, “Your Call: My Husband Isn’t Interested in Sex with Me.” I am dealing with some of the same issues. My husband hardly ever wants to have sex. He used to blame it on my weight gain, the house is messy, he’s […]

Your Call: My Husband Isn’t Interested in Sex with Me

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Help! I’ve been married to my husband 5 […]