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Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Kaitlyn’s Finale)

We always get a little case of the post-Bachelor/ette blues when a season comes to an end. Over the course of 3 months, we’ve learned so much about love and lust, what to do, what not to do, who to do, who not to do… At least we have less than a week until “Bachelor […]

TV
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (The Men Tell All Episode)

1. Male Feminists Are Sexy Within minutes of the show’s opening, host Chris Harrison said “sexist double standard” and we swooned. Later on in the episode, he even referred to “gender roles” when discussing, euphemistically of course, the fact that Kaitlyn slept with Nick before the Fantasy Suites. Every season has its theme, and we […]

Your Call
I Love My Fiance and Still Think He’s Hot. So Where Did My Libido Go?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  Dear Em & Lo, I am a 23 year old woman and […]

TV
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Fantasy Suites!)

In the world of “The Bachelorette,” euphemisms for sex are a dime a dozen — contestants talk about “really being together” and “being alone” and being able to “focus on each other,” when what they really mean is, having sex like bunnies once the cameras are turned off. In that spirit, we will refer to […]

Your Call
Should You Throw Away Old Love Letters?

Recently, Em sang the praises of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, the New York Times bestseller by Japanese decluttering goddess, Marie Kondo. I didn’t think Em’s house could be any tidier, but after adopting the KonMari Method of domestic organization, it’s even more annoyingly impressive! So now I’m reading it, hoping some of this joy for […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Killarney)

1. Get your hands out of your face. When you’re talking about your romantic feelings to the object of your affection, don’t constantly touch your face and cover your mouth and slur — it makes it seem like you’re hiding something…like you’re a liar and this is your tell (Nick).   2. Have some dignity when […]

TV
Top 10 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Ireland)

1. Cheating on your wife won’t just mess up your marriage — it could seriously impact your future relationships, too. Because at some point, your new girlfriend is going to ask, “So, er, hey, what happened with your marriage?” Then you’re going to have to admit that you cheated on the mother of your child. And the chances […]

How To
10 Things to Say to Your Partner Instead of “I Love You”

Saying “I love you” can become a form of punctuation in a long-term relationship. People say it at the end of a phone call, or on their way out the door, or as they’re falling asleep at night. And there’s nothing wrong with this. Expressing love often is a good thing! And it’s a nice way to check […]

Advice
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Dublin)

  If you constantly have to talk about how smart/cool/deep you are to your date, then you are none of those things. As your 9th grade English teacher at Deerfield should have taught you: show, don’t tell.   PDA should have some limits. Yes, you’re out and about on an amazing date in a cool […]

Dream Interpretation
I’m Straight, But Have Recurring Dreams About Loving My Lesbian Friend

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I’ve been having this recurring dream where […]