Marriage
Pop Culture
13 Ways of Looking at a “Wife Bonus”

In case you’ve been living under a rock the past few days, it turns out that some Upper East Side stay-at-home moms, married to hedge fund managers (etc.), apparently get end of year “wife bonuses” for good housekeeping. Yeah. We know. What these women receive bonuses for: domestic budgeting, getting the kids into the right […]

How To
How Cheating May Actually Improve Your Relationship

by Sarah Harrison for YourTango We didn’t believe it at first either … Unless you’re inclined toward polyamory, extramarital relations are generally frowned upon. Marriages accept and expect monogamy; infidelity is harmful! Right? Not so fast, says Michael J. Formica, a Psychology Today blogger. In a post on the “Enlightened Living” blog, Formica makes the case that thinking about cheating—and even stepping […]

Pop Culture
Wedding Gift Idea: Intimate Art Kit

This has been around for a few years, but the unique product launching site The Grommet just re-featured it in a recent newsletter: The Love Is Art Kit — a way for couples to make abstract art with their naked bodies while they get it on. Jeremy Brown, the South African-born artist who’s created the kit, has been […]

How To
Why Marriage Vows Should Include Sex

photo via flickr Traditional marriage vows cover better… and worse; sickness… and health; riches…. and poverty; forsaking all others… but not its opposite. What is the opposite of forsaking all others, anyway? Well, if forsaking all others is about the absence of sex (with other people), then its opposite, in our opinion, is the presence […]

How To
6 Fun Ways to Seduce Your Husband

photo via Flickr Let’s face it: seducing straight guys ain’t that hard. A little cleavage and some footsie is pretty much all it takes. The challenge comes after 10 years of marriage, when a lot of the mystery is gone and Internet porn never has a headache. What follows are six classic approaches to seduction […]

Pop Culture
An Open Marriage Can’t Fix Something That’s Already Broken

A new memoir called The Wild Oats Project: One Woman’s Midlife Quest for Passion At Any Cost is giving a lot of committed monogamists the chance to say “I told you so!” about open marriage. Here’s the book in a nutshell: San Francisco-based magazine editor Robin Rinaldi felt like her marriage was in a rut, […]

How To
10 Questions to Ask Each Other Before Getting Married

We’re not talking here about the kinds of questions everyone should ask each other before deciding to get married — things that could be actual deal-breakers, like, Do you want kids? And, Are you a member of the Republican party? No, these ten questions are things you should ask each other in order to have […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: My Husband and I Don’t Care That We Don’t Have Much Sex. Should We?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Do You Know If It’s Settling or Being Smart

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Leave your suggestions in the comments section below.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, […]

TV
Making a Bad Show Worse: Turning “The Bachelorette” Into “Highlander”

Well, we’ve made it through another season of The Bachelor. The editors cut the footage with a heavy hand to make us think Chris would ultimately think with his dick and pick the distant, unamused, hot virgin, Becca, instead of the much more sensible choice, Iowa-loving, family-embracing, 100% gung-ho, baby-talking (in ALL senses of the word) […]

Confessions
How to Have Kinky Sex with Your Vanilla Husband

photo via Wikimedia Commons Reader subgirl said the following in response to our post, “He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?”  Heads up, everyone in a mixed-cone, chocolate-swirl-slash-vanilla relationship, there is hope! I am a submissive woman and I have a wonderful vanill-ish husband who plays along with me. We communicate our needs to one […]

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Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelor,” for Bachelors (Bali)

via ABC.com Wow, what happened to the all the world travel the contestants on (and viewers of) The Bachelor/ette have come to know and love?  They really kept it real (and cheap) this season, by limiting the majority of the shooting to the continental United States. Santa Fe, the Badlands, Arlington, Iowa? Pretty much the least […]

Pop Culture
Top 8 Love Lessons from “The Bachelor” (New Mexico Is a State)

from “The Bachelor’s” hysterical Twitter feed Okay, it wasn’t the most dramatic rose ceremony ever (because there wasn’t one), but it was the most dramatic episode of this season so far, for sure.  The Emmy for Best Actress in a Reality Show should go to either Britt (“I want 100 kids! I’m an Angelina-Jolie-hot waitress […]

Pop Culture
What the Song “Honey, I’m Good” Song Gets Right About Marriage

On first listen, the country-ish pop hit “Honey, I’m Good” by Andy Grammar shouldn’t appeal to us in the slightest: Some douchey pop star with a pompadour calling the waitress “Honey” and commenting on her amazing ass and how much he’d love to go home with her, while, in the same breath, telling her he’s […]

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Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelor” (Camping, Not Glamping)

photo via @BachelorABC (the caption read: “One of these virginities will be taken tonight.” Brilliant.) The fourth episode of ABC’s “The Bachelor” featured more Emmy-worthy editing, from the tiny violins playing over Ashley “Kardashian’s”s tragic princess soliloquy to the close-up shots of her weave to the sad, foreboding music behind Jillian’s tasteless “Who Would You Rather” […]

Pop Culture
Dick of the Week: William Giraldi

photo via flickr William Giraldi wrote a personal essay for The Baffler called “This Brat’s for You.” Have you encountered this polished turd being bandied about the internet yet? In the piece, Giraldi bemoans the fact that he got paternity leave from his employer for the birth of his first child, became so utterly bored by […]