Masturbation
Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: I Can’t Keep Up with My Girlfriend’s Libido

photo via flickr Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and we love each other very much, but she is way more into sex than I am. I try to match her libido but she is still too […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Buy a Vibe, Hide It, and Then Don’t Use It

Siri by Lelo Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: Last night I had a dream I was at work, talking […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, Are Rape Fantasies Normal…If I’m a Rape Survivor?

Dear Em & Lo, I’m not sure if I’m going to word this correctly, but here it goes. I’m 20 years old and am engaged to a wonderful man who has blessed me with a son. Before I met him I had a bad life and I had been raped 3 times. Lately during sex […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: I Finally Made My Vibrator Obsolete!

photo via Flickr We love a success story. Here’s Anne, in response to “10 Steps to Orgasming Without a Vibrator”: I have been going electric since I discovered any sort of sex in my teens. You would be surprised how many household items vibrate. My first orgasm was with vibration and I had never had […]

Toys
And the LELO for the Best Self-Love Haiku Goes To…

Thank you for all your inspired entries in our Self Love Haiku Contest. Rabbit imagery seemed to be a big theme, which makes sense considering the prize up for grabs is a Rabbit-style vibe (one that’s waterproof, body-safe, powerful and quiet). And there were a lot of hilarious haikus that tickled our funny bones (which […]

Toys
Top 10 Haikus About Self-Love (A Contest!)

***THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED*** We guess we should really title this post “Top 10 Haikus About Self Love That Em and Lo Just Came Up With.” We figured it’s a Friday, so what better time to celebrate the wonders of onanism!  In honor of this joyous occasion, we’d like to give away one INA 2 […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Much Is Too Much Self Love?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  Dear Em & Lo, I’m worried about how […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Is He an Average Joe or a Masturbation Megastar?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below. Dear Em & Lo, Is it common for […]

Personal Essays
9 TV Shows Whose Sex Scenes Will Light Your Fire

EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz — you can read her blog here — has a confession to make: Back in high school I used make-out scenes from the O.C. as self-loving material. Yes, fine, I’m a little ashamed. I’d like to think my current […]

Dear Em & Lo
How to Understand His Porn Habit

photo via flickr Is masturbating to porn cheating? Readers are always asking us this question, and the masturbator in question is pretty much always a man. Sometimes his female partner writes to us, asking if she’s right to feel cheated on. Other times the man himself writes to us, asking why his partner can’t understand […]

Personal Essays
5 Ways to Make Masturbation Even Better

EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz — you can read her blog here — has a confession to make: I think we can all agree now that plenty of women enjoy masturbation at least as much as men. But the way women enjoy masturbation can vary […]

Research
Masturbation Study Provides Material for the Lovers AND the Haters

photo via flickr A recent study published in the journal Archives of Pediatrics & Adolescent Medicine looked at the masturbation habits of American teenagers (age 14-17) — and the results are likely to please both the self-lovers and those who think that adolescent boys and girls should be forced to sleep in mittens to keep […]

Personal Essays
Top 10 Date Activities I Enjoy Solo

Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, confesses her love for the table for one: People are impressed if you travel to Africa on your own, but if your solo adventuring is a tad less exotic, they tend to look down on it. It is considered “bizarre” to enjoy […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, Am I Addicted to Sex?

photo via Gustty Dear Em & Lo, I am a 26-year-old lady and I love sex. I feel like I am addicted to it. If it were up to me, I’d do it five times a day just over and over and over. Also, my boyfriend lives far away; we only see each other once […]

How To
6 Sexual Habits Everyone Should Keep

photo via CollegeCandy.com We constantly hear how we should avoid getting into a sexual rut and keep trying new things. But just as important is to develop some good sexual habits — things that you should be engaging in on a regular basis with your partner (whatever regular means to you) — now and always. […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Making Masturbation a Sensation

photo by sebilden Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: I remember the day well. I was twelve and had stayed home from school. “I feel sick,” I told my parents. I was skilled at feigning illness, especially on days when there were math […]