Masturbation
Wise Guys
Wise Guys – Should I Worry If He Masturbates More Than We Have Sex?

photo by Tavallai Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “If he masturbates more often than he has (or wants) sex with me, his wife, should I be worried?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Mark Luczak): I realize that some of my […]

Dear Em & Lo
10 Steps to Orgasming Without a Vibrator

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 22-year-old woman who has only become sexually active over the last six months or so. I’m enjoying myself and being safe, but it’s starting to annoy me that I can’t have an orgasm without a vibrator. This really bothered my last boyfriend, which of course made me stressed out, […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: The Sex Ed Teacher Blues

photo by our “wise guy” Figleaf I have the privilege of teaching sex ed to my sixth graders.  However, there are so many limitations to what I can tell my kids.  It can be SO frustrating.  I am deeply spiritual and a devout Christian but I have no intention of forcing my beliefs on my […]

Pop Culture
Happy Birthday, Betty Dodson!

There isn’t better proof that an active, healthy, happy sex life keeps you looking young and vibrant than Betty Dodson, the great American sex educator who basically invented sex-positive feminism and almost single-handedly made masturbation okay for women. She turns 80 today — and she doesn’t look a day over 60! She’s in the process […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Vibrator Doesn’t Kiss or Cuddle

photo by Ciaran_McGuiggan Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 24-year-old woman who hasn’t had sex in 4 years, 10 months, 15 days, 5 hours, 51 minutes…well, you get the idea. I had my first boyfriend when I was twenty and it lasted for four months. He was my first sexual partner, and as of today, […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Ever Choose Masturbation Over Sex?

photo by slushpup Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Do guys ever choose masturbation over sex? If so, why?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Sure. Plenty of times. Sometimes my wife isn’t around and I don’t really feel like waiting. Or sometimes she is around but really tired, or […]

Advice
15 Reasons Why Everyone Should Masturbate

Self-love won’t cure swine flu, but that’s pretty much the only shortcoming we can think of: Getting a grip on yourself helps teach you the pattern of your own sexual response: What you like, what you don’t like, and what you hate more than anything else in the whole wide world. Friggin’ your riggin’ helps […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Can I Lead a Full Life Without Sex?

photo by Ingorr Dear Em & Lo, I’m 34 and I’ve never had a boyfriend. I was molested as a child and raped as an adult. I’ve never had consensual sex. Yet I have intensely sexual dreams. I’ve had years of counseling, but the fear of having a sexual relationship remains. I isolate myself from […]

Polls
Ladies Only: When Was Your First Solo O?

Ladies, how old were you when you had your first orgasm via masturbation? ( surveys) Ladies, if you can’t see the poll, click here to take it. Guys, to take the same poll for gentlemen only, click here.

Polls
Guys Only: When Was Your First Solo O?

<a href =”http://answers.polldaddy.com/poll/1442339/” >Gentlemen, how old were you when you had your first orgasm via masturbation?</a> <br/> <span style=”font-size:9px;” mce_style=”font-size:9px;”> (<a href =”http://www.polldaddy.com”> surveys</a>)</span> Guys, if you can’t see the poll, click here to take it. Ladies, to take the same poll for gals only, click here.

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: I Miss My Army Husband. So Does My Libido.

Dear Em & Lo, I am a new army wife having a very difficult time. The lack of intimacy and sex is much harder than I had thought it would be. My usual sex drive had gone from very high to pretty low over the last year, so I didn’t think the lack of sex […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What Do Men Think About When They Fantasize?

Advice from three of our guy friends. A few weeks ago, one woman wanted to know “Why do men masturbate in relationships, even when the sex is good and regular?” In his response, Max (one of our Single Straight Guys) said, “Trust me: You don’t want to do the things that we’re thinking about when […]

Wise Guys
Why Do Men Masturbate When They’re in a Relationship?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do men masturbate in relationships, even when the sex is good and regular?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Every guy has a regular masturbation frequency (RMF) that is more or less unchangeable (though over the long-term, factors which usually have nothing to […]