Dear Em & Lo
10 Steps to Orgasming Without a Vibrator

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 22-year-old woman who has only become sexually active over the last six months or so. I’m enjoying myself and being safe, but it’s starting to annoy me that I can’t have an orgasm without a vibrator. This really bothered my last boyfriend, which of course made me stressed out, […]

Comment of the Week: The Sex Ed Teacher Blues

photo by our “wise guy” Figleaf I have the privilege of teaching sex ed to my sixth graders.  However, there are so many limitations to what I can tell my kids.  It can be SO frustrating.  I am deeply spiritual and a devout Christian but I have no intention of forcing my beliefs on my […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Imagine Sex with Every Woman?

photo by voxefx Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Does every guy see a woman and immediately assess whether or not he’d want to have sex with her? And if he would want to have sex with her, does that mean she automatically becomes a part of his […]

Pop Culture
Happy Birthday, Betty Dodson!

There isn’t better proof that an active, healthy, happy sex life keeps you looking young and vibrant than Betty Dodson, the great American sex educator who basically invented sex-positive feminism and almost single-handedly made masturbation okay for women. She turns 80 today — and she doesn’t look a day over 60! She’s in the process […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Vibrator Doesn’t Kiss or Cuddle

photo by Ciaran_McGuiggan Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 24-year-old woman who hasn’t had sex in 4 years, 10 months, 15 days, 5 hours, 51 minutes…well, you get the idea. I had my first boyfriend when I was twenty and it lasted for four months. He was my first sexual partner, and as of today, […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Ever Choose Masturbation Over Sex?

photo by slushpup Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Do guys ever choose masturbation over sex? If so, why?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Sure. Plenty of times. Sometimes my wife isn’t around and I don’t really feel like waiting. Or sometimes she is around but really tired, or […]

15 Reasons Why Everyone Should Masturbate

Self-love won’t cure swine flu, but that’s pretty much the only shortcoming we can think of: Getting a grip on yourself helps teach you the pattern of your own sexual response: What you like, what you don’t like, and what you hate more than anything else in the whole wide world. Friggin’ your riggin’ helps […]