Wise Guys: Do Men Imagine Sex with Every Woman?

photo by voxefx Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Does every guy see a woman and immediately assess whether or not he’d want to have sex with her? And if he would want to have sex with her, does that mean she automatically becomes a part of his […]

Happy Birthday, Betty Dodson!

There isn’t better proof that an active, healthy, happy sex life keeps you looking young and vibrant than Betty Dodson, the great American sex educator who basically invented sex-positive feminism and almost single-handedly made masturbation okay for women. She turns 80 today — and she doesn’t look a day over 60! She’s in the process […]

Dear Em & Lo: My Vibrator Doesn’t Kiss or Cuddle

photo by Ciaran_McGuiggan Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 24-year-old woman who hasn’t had sex in 4 years, 10 months, 15 days, 5 hours, 51 minutes…well, you get the idea. I had my first boyfriend when I was twenty and it lasted for four months. He was my first sexual partner, and as of today, […]

Wise Guys: Do Men Ever Choose Masturbation Over Sex?

photo by slushpup Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Do guys ever choose masturbation over sex? If so, why?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Sure. Plenty of times. Sometimes my wife isn’t around and I don’t really feel like waiting. Or sometimes she is around but really tired, or […]

15 Reasons Why Everyone Should Masturbate

Self-love won’t cure swine flu, but that’s pretty much the only shortcoming we can think of: Getting a grip on yourself helps teach you the pattern of your own sexual response: What you like, what you don’t like, and what you hate more than anything else in the whole wide world. Friggin’ your riggin’ helps […]

Dear Em & Lo: Can I Lead a Full Life Without Sex?

photo by Ingorr Dear Em & Lo, I’m 34 and I’ve never had a boyfriend. I was molested as a child and raped as an adult. I’ve never had consensual sex. Yet I have intensely sexual dreams. I’ve had years of counseling, but the fear of having a sexual relationship remains. I isolate myself from […]

Ladies Only: When Was Your First Solo O?

Ladies, how old were you when you had your first orgasm via masturbation? ( surveys) Ladies, if you can’t see the poll, click here to take it. Guys, to take the same poll for gentlemen only, click here.