Masturbation
Personal Essays
Confession: Top 10 Reasons I Diddle

photo by kait jarbeau A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: Woodly Allen famously quipped, “Don’t knock masturbation; It’s sex with someone I love.” True that, Woody. Whether alone or incorporated in partnered sex, masturbation is easily my favorite hobby. Below, my 10 favorite reasons to […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Joe: Can Masturbation Reduce My Prostate Cancer Risk?

photo by Anika Malone Once a month, Dr. Joe DeOrio, a urologist in Chicago, answers your questions on male sexual health. To ask him your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Joe, I’ve heard that regularly ejaculating (whether via masturbation or sex) can reduce a guy’s risk of prostate cancer –- is that true? — […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: You Don't Own My Balls!

photo by Philippe Put Of course you should compromise [about masturbation] with a reasonable partner — but you should never negotiate with a terrorist. A reasonable partner might say, “Please jerk off less because I’d like you to actually be horny when we’re together.” Or, “Please don’t cheat on me, because I don’t want syphilis.” A […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Why Do Men Deny Masturbating?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do some men — single, married, in relationships, straight, gay, bisexual, etc. — deny masturbating?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): Are you serious? I’ve never met a man who […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Save a Piece of the Sex Pie for Yourself

photo by smulligannn I reckon that as well as part of the sexuality pie we share with our partners, we all still have slices that belong to us as an individual. Perhaps if you feel his personal slice is way outweighing the slice you’re sharing as a couple, just have a good old wank yourself! […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, My Boyfriend Can't Give Me an Orgasm

photo by Brandon Baunach Dear Em & Lo, I have the opposite problem of last week’s advice seeker: My boyfriend is more than willing to go down on me, but I have a very hard time having an orgasm from it. I know it frustrates him that I don’t orgasm every time (or even most […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys – Should I Worry If He Masturbates More Than We Have Sex?

photo by Tavallai Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “If he masturbates more often than he has (or wants) sex with me, his wife, should I be worried?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Mark Luczak): I realize that some of my […]

Dear Em & Lo
10 Steps to Orgasming Without a Vibrator

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 22-year-old woman who has only become sexually active over the last six months or so. I’m enjoying myself and being safe, but it’s starting to annoy me that I can’t have an orgasm without a vibrator. This really bothered my last boyfriend, which of course made me stressed out, […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: The Sex Ed Teacher Blues

photo by our “wise guy” Figleaf I have the privilege of teaching sex ed to my sixth graders.  However, there are so many limitations to what I can tell my kids.  It can be SO frustrating.  I am deeply spiritual and a devout Christian but I have no intention of forcing my beliefs on my […]