Men vs. Women
Pop Culture
Are Women Even Less Naturally Monogamous Than Men?

Daniel Bergner is one of our favorite writers on the topic of sex. A few years back he wrote the awesome book The Other Side of Desire, which we raved about at the time, and then shortly after he wrote a cover story about female desire for the New York Times magazine, which we also […]

Vids
The Video We WISH We’d Made: “HBO Should Show Dongs”

College Humor’s original short this week “HBO Should Show Dongs” (below) was made for us: it’s got puns (“We’ve got a boner to pick”), it’s dominated by funny women (usually you get only one token funny chick in bits like this), and it’s all about equal opportunity objectification! The very nature of HBO practically requires […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: No Slut-Shaming, Please

It’s not the length of the comment, but it’s content. This week, we loved Nikki’s short and to-the-point comment on this week’s “Your Call”:  How Do I Get Over All the Sex She’s Had Before Me? Ugh. “Slutty?” What exactly makes her slutty? Having had sex before you came around? Enjoying sex too much? If you have […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Can a Man Be Talked into an Open Relationship?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “I want to have an open relationship, but my boyfriend doesn’t want to open up the relationship. I don’t want to break up, what should I do?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (Ben): Easy answer — if you don’t want […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Can a Woman Enjoy Lots of Sex Without Shame?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on this woman’s letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What’s a Good Present for a Crush / a Boyfriend / a Husband?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “What’s a good holiday present for 1) a guy you’ve just started dating (sleeping with), 2) a guy you’ve been exclusive with for a year or so, 3) a husband?” Ask the Wise Guys Your Own Question! […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Can Men Handle the Fact of Female Bodily Functions?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Can straight men really not handle the fact that women fart, poop, menstruate, etc? Are women really supposed to hide these things/not talk about them with their partner?” Ask the Wise Guys Your Own Question! Straight Single […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Can She Tell If a Guy Is Playing Games?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: When Is a Good Time to Meet the Parents?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “When is a good time to meet the parents and when is too soon?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Max): The only thing that I know is that meeting the parents has got to be planned and discussed ahead of […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What Makes Someone Approachable?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “If we’re talking about guys making a move on a stranger, what makes someone approachable?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Married Bisexual Guy (Bryan Sebeck): As somebody who’s spent a decent amount of time giving advice to guys who want […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Are Men Romantic Or Do They Just Fake It?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Are most men romantics, or is romance something guys simply do to keep their partner happy?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Single Straight Guy (Scott Phrenetik): I think the majority of men are not inherently romantic. But, is it […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Do Most Men Define “Sex”?

photo by Ad Meskens Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How do you define what constitutes sex? Ask the Wise GuysYour Own Question! Is it penetration (with anything or just a penis)? Oral attention? Mutual orgasms? Mutual naked pleasure? etc.“ Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos of The White Swallow):  After being single […]

Personal Essays
Comment of the Week: The Older Men Get, the Less They Talk Sex w/Friends

This week, in response to the post “Wise Guys: Do Men Know Whether Their Male Friends Are Circumcised?” reader Johnny said: The older men get, the less we discuss sex with each other. Whether it’s because we’re more mature, we’re pretending we’re more mature, or because we’re more experienced and there are fewer questions and […]

Research
Why Women Have Ravishment and Rape Fantasies

We wrote a post here a few weeks back about research into men’s and women’s fantasy lives — and in particular, how often this sort of research is willfully misinterpreted. That got us wondering what other new fantasy research might be out there… and we came across a fascinating study about why women have rape […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How to Make Fireworks in the Bedroom

Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Seeing as it was Independence Day yesterday, what’s your number 1 tip for making fireworks in the bedroom?” Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Pop champagne! Sex is all about letting go of inhibitions and nothing helps you tap into those deep, […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Do Men Feel About Their Girlfriends Kissing Other Women?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Would a guy feel cheated on if his girlfriend made out with another girl, or is that somehow different territory?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (Ben): I think it all depends on the spirit of the make out and whatever […]