Men vs. Women
Research
Men Don’t Skip Sex When Their Bodies Aren’t Perfect – Neither Should Women

by YourTango  |  photo via flickr The first time I saw Crazy, Stupid, Love and the completely unforgettable scene where Ryan Gosling‘s character takes off his shirt and Emma Stone’s character says, “It’s like you’re Photoshopped,” I cringed. It wasn’t just that, “OMG, are you effing kidding me,” that came with those abs, but because I just don’t get […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Is It Fine for a Grown, Non-Religious Man to Be Celibate?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Help, My Husband Has ZERO Sex Drive!

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

How To
Straight Guys: How to Respond to Being Hit On by a Woman

photo via Flickr A note to straight men: We’re constantly hearing you guys complain that you still have to do almost all of the pick-up leg-work. But then when a woman does attempt to hit on you in a bar, a lot of you turn around and call her “desperate” — even in 2014! (Er, […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Top 4 Reasons Why Guys Turn Down Casual Sex

Our MVP, reader & contributor Johnny, does it again — this time in response to our post “Wise Guys: Do Men Ever Turn Down Casual Sex?” What we really like is how the genders in this comment could be switched and the points would still be relevant (just switch “prove our manhood” to “prove our […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: Porn Is No Biggie

photo via Flickr Reader Jessica wrote the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: He Looks at Other Women But Gets Jealous If I Ogle Men“: I used to be one of those women, when I was younger, who would fly off the handle if I saw my boyfriend looking at another woman. After going through […]

Wise Guys
Why Do Men Masturbate When They’re Having Regular Sex?

photo via flickr Wise Guys is a regular column offering advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do men masturbate in relationships, even when the sex is good and regular?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Every guy has a regular masturbation frequency (RMF) that is more or less unchangeable […]

Toys
News: Men Buy More Sex Toys Before Big Sporting Events

This just in: men account for FOUR OF EVERY FIVE sex toy transactions at LELO.com in the week before a big sporting event. This is a fact that LELO can prove. On any typical day at LELO.com, 50% of transactions are made by men, and 50% by women. If you’re surprised by that figure, don’t […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: My Girlfriend Says Porn Is a Dealbreaker, Is She Right?

photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do you do if your girlfriend, whom you love very much, doesn’t understand why you like and watch porn occasionally: she’s intellectually and viscerally opposed to it, thinks it is a horrible industry that exploits people and perpetuates […]

Pop Culture
Losing It: How We Popped Our Cherry Over the Last 80 Years

Author Kate Monro has managed to make us jealous of her job: searching the world for first-time tales that don’t often get told. In her new book, “Losing It: How We Popped Our Cherry Over the Past 80 Years,” she picks up where Nancy Friday left off, letting a wide range of people — from a 90-year-old […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: The Only Thing You Can Control Is Yourself

photo via Flickr Reader Michael wrote a HUGE response to the post, “Your Call – Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater? It was a little meandering, and we weren’t sure we were quite down with all of his advice, so we took the liberty of gently editing it a bit with the Em & Lo red pen: There […]

Pop Culture
Are Women Even Less Naturally Monogamous Than Men?

Daniel Bergner is one of our favorite writers on the topic of sex. A few years back he wrote the awesome book The Other Side of Desire, which we raved about at the time, and then shortly after he wrote a cover story about female desire for the New York Times magazine, which we also […]

Vids
The Video We WISH We’d Made: “HBO Should Show Dongs”

College Humor’s original short this week “HBO Should Show Dongs” (below) was made for us: it’s got puns (“We’ve got a boner to pick”), it’s dominated by funny women (usually you get only one token funny chick in bits like this), and it’s all about equal opportunity objectification! The very nature of HBO practically requires […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: No Slut-Shaming, Please

It’s not the length of the comment, but it’s content. This week, we loved Nikki’s short and to-the-point comment on this week’s “Your Call”:  How Do I Get Over All the Sex She’s Had Before Me? Ugh. “Slutty?” What exactly makes her slutty? Having had sex before you came around? Enjoying sex too much? If you have […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Can a Man Be Talked into an Open Relationship?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “I want to have an open relationship, but my boyfriend doesn’t want to open up the relationship. I don’t want to break up, what should I do?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (Ben): Easy answer — if you don’t want […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Can a Woman Enjoy Lots of Sex Without Shame?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on this woman’s letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our […]