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Wise Guys: My Girlfriend Says Porn Is a Dealbreaker, Is She Right?

photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do you do if your girlfriend, whom you love very much, doesn’t understand why you like and watch porn occasionally: she’s intellectually and viscerally opposed to it, thinks it is a horrible industry that exploits people and perpetuates […]

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Wise Guys: What If Her Libido Is Bigger Than His?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What would most guys think about dating a woman whose sex drive was higher than his? Would it be awesome? Annoying? Lead to insecurities? Make you think less (or more) of her? All of the above?” To ask the […]

Pop Culture
Losing It: How We Popped Our Cherry Over the Last 80 Years

Author Kate Monro has managed to make us jealous of her job: searching the world for first-time tales that don’t often get told. In her new book, “Losing It: How We Popped Our Cherry Over the Past 80 Years,” she picks up where Nancy Friday left off, letting a wide range of people — from a 90-year-old […]

Comment of the Week: The Only Thing You Can Control Is Yourself

photo via Flickr Reader Michael wrote a HUGE response to the post, “Your Call – Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater? It was a little meandering, and we weren’t sure we were quite down with all of his advice, so we took the liberty of gently editing it a bit with the Em & Lo red pen: There […]

Pop Culture
Are Women Even Less Naturally Monogamous Than Men?

Daniel Bergner is one of our favorite writers on the topic of sex. A few years back he wrote the awesome book The Other Side of Desire, which we raved about at the time, and then shortly after he wrote a cover story about female desire for the New York Times magazine, which we also […]

The Video We WISH We’d Made: “HBO Should Show Dongs”

College Humor’s original short this week “HBO Should Show Dongs” (below) was made for us: it’s got puns (“We’ve got a boner to pick”), it’s dominated by funny women (usually you get only one token funny chick in bits like this), and it’s all about equal opportunity objectification! The very nature of HBO practically requires […]

Comment of the Week: No Slut-Shaming, Please

It’s not the length of the comment, but it’s content. This week, we loved Nikki’s short and to-the-point comment on this week’s “Your Call”:  How Do I Get Over All the Sex She’s Had Before Me? Ugh. “Slutty?” What exactly makes her slutty? Having had sex before you came around? Enjoying sex too much? If you […]

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Wise Guys: Can a Man Be Talked into an Open Relationship?

Advice from three of’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “I want to have an open relationship, but my boyfriend doesn’t want to open up the relationship. I don’t want to break up, what should I do?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (Ben): Easy answer — if you don’t want […]

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Your Call: How Can a Woman Enjoy Lots of Sex Without Shame?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on this woman’s letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our […]

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Wise Guys: What’s a Good Present for a Crush / a Boyfriend / a Husband?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “What’s a good holiday present for 1) a guy you’ve just started dating (sleeping with), 2) a guy you’ve been exclusive with for a year or so, 3) a husband?” Ask the Wise Guys Your Own Question! […]