Monogamy
Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Doesn’t Want to Go On Dates Anymore

If only all couch potatoes looked like this Dear Em & Lo, I have been married and divorced and only just started to date again. Been with this guy for 8 months now. No problems with him lying, cheating, etc. Started off great. Going out, spending time with each other. But of recent months the […]

Pop Culture
Book Excerpt: Bedded Bliss – A Couple’s Guide to Lust Ever After

Bedded Bliss: A Couple’s Guide to Lust Ever After does something novel: it intersperses marital advice for keeping long-term monogamy hot with a collection of erotica. Author Kristina Wright — the editor of a over dozen Cleis Press anthologies, including Fairy Tale Lust, Dream Lover, Lustfully Ever After, Duty and Desire and the Best Erotic Romance series — begins each chapter of […]

Research
2014: Year of the Vanilla Revolution?

Image via Flickr | Sponsored Post The Fifty Shades of Grey movie may not be scheduled for release until February 13, 2015, but according to LELO, the kinky sex revolution is already waning. According to sales figures of LELO toys, tracked across their top 20 leading markets, sales of BDSM accessories such as whips and teasers reached […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: I Cheated on My Boyfriend And Don’t Regret It

Dear Em & Lo, So I am currently in a relationship with my boyfriend of 8 years, going on 9. We have been together since high school and are now in our mid twenties. I love him very much and used to see myself spending the rest of my life with him up until just a […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Monogamish Is the Future

Franklin Veaux’s Map of Non-Monogamy This week’s Comment of the Week by AlanK is a response to last week’s Comment of the Week called “9 Reasons Why Women Cheat” by  Johnny, which was a response to the post “Why Women Cheat — A Married Man Goes Undercover”: Things wear out; the tires on your car wear […]

Pop Culture
Are Women Even Less Naturally Monogamous Than Men?

Daniel Bergner is one of our favorite writers on the topic of sex. A few years back he wrote the awesome book The Other Side of Desire, which we raved about at the time, and then shortly after he wrote a cover story about female desire for the New York Times magazine, which we also […]

Pop Culture
Can You Beat the Urge to Stray with One Freebie a Year?

photo via flickr “If I tell my child, ‘No pizza, no pizza, no pizza,’ what does he want more than anything Pizza!” And so it is with her husband and sex, claims Russian pop star Masha Lopatova. She is married to Andrei Kirilenko, a basketball player for the Brooklyn Nets — and she has told […]

How To
5 Things You Probably Didn’t Know About Orgasms

At least half the advice questions we receive from readers are about orgasms, and we’ve been dishing about orgasms for almost fifteen years, but even we are constantly learning new things about how orgasms work. Here are five orgasm tidbits you probably don’t know… 1. Men Fake, Too Sure, women fake orgasms sometimes — we […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: How You Know He’s “The One”

Reader MarcieT said the following in response to our post “Your Call: How Do I Know If He’s ‘The One’?” What would you add to this list? (Um, sexual compatibility, anyone?) What would you not include? (Maybe you like watching TV on your own…) You know he’s “The One” when: You miss having him beside you […]

Toys
Say “I Do” to Hot Monogamy with LELO’s Bridal Pleasure Set

sponsored post Something old, something new, something borrowed, and something… really blue. LELO’s Bridal Pleasure Set — gorgeously packaged in wedding white, naturally — is here to spice up this year’s wedding season. It’s a saucy and unique gift idea for a bridal shower, bachelorette party, or even a surprise wedding gift — trust us, […]

How To
Why Public Proposals Are a Bad Idea

If you’re thinking about proposing to your partner in public, you might want to browse the stories on Quora.com first. If you haven’t been sucked into Quora.com yet, it’s an addictive awesome time-suck (okay, so maybe you shouldn’t check it out then!), where real people answer questions about everything from “What is the nicest thing […]

Personal Essays
How One Couple Gets Closer to Go Further… In Bed (Part 1 of 2)

sponsored post ***Originally Posted on May 2nd, 2013*** Introducing Our “Get Closer Go Further” Project We’re thrilled to team up with Durex for this “Get Closer to Go Further” project, which encourages committed couples to do just that: build intimacy in order to explore more sexual territories together. And when we say “go further,” we’re not just talking […]

How To
5 Ways to Rekindle the Flame

photo via flickr True love and deep intimacy aren’t a guarantee of hot sex. In fact, being in long-term love might be the reason your sex life is dull! After all, it’s hard to get excited when you know all your partner’s moves, when you know they’re not going anywhere, when you know every bad […]

How To
Should Marriage Vows Expire Every Seven Years?

photo via flickr Driver’s licenses expire. Professional licenses expire. Even dog licenses expire. But marriage licenses are for life! On the one hand, this is kind of the whole point of marriage, right? That you can’t just walk away from each other, that you are committed, even when things get tough, even when your kids are […]

Your Call
Your Call: Can a Relationship Work If One Person Is More Into It?

Question of the week: Can a relationship survive if one person loves their partner more than the other loves them back? Women have been told for generations — usually by their mothers or aunts or grandmothers — that they should “marry a man who loves you just a little more than you love him.” It’s […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: If He’s Being Secretive, He’s a Spy or a Player

Reader Jenna said the following in response to the post “Your Call: How Can She Tell If a Guy Is Playing Games?” Men who are serious about relationships usually have a certain amount of transparency. They let you meet friends or family without it being a big production. They share details of their day or […]