Non-Monogamy
How To
How to Conquer Your Jealousy for Good

by Moushumi Ghose for YourTango Don’t sweat it. Does your boyfriend or girlfriend still have a relationship of a platonic nature with his or her ex? Does this relationship with the ex keep popping up in your relationship to the point where you feel threatened by the relationship? Do you worry about their past, and their history together? Do […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: A Cautionary Tale About Cuckolding

Reader Simon offered this cautionary tale in response to our post, “Your Call: I Want My Wife to Have an Affair; She Thinks I’m Nuts“: Been there, done that; don’t try. I did this 8-9 years back with my wife, and I insisted, although she was more than reluctant. She was totally opposed in the […]

Pop Culture
5 Reasons Why You Should Read “I Take You” by Eliza Kennedy

Have you met Lily Wilder? You should. She’s the seriously funny, seriously sex-driven, and seriously flawed protagonist of the novel I Take You by Eliza Kennedy, which is on sale starting today. Here are five reasons why you should pick up a copy right now… 1. I Take You is a straightforward look at female […]

How To
Why Marriage Vows Should Include Sex

photo via flickr Traditional marriage vows cover better… and worse; sickness… and health; riches…. and poverty; forsaking all others… but not its opposite. What is the opposite of forsaking all others, anyway? Well, if forsaking all others is about the absence of sex (with other people), then its opposite, in our opinion, is the presence […]

Pop Culture
An Open Marriage Can’t Fix Something That’s Already Broken

A new memoir called The Wild Oats Project: One Woman’s Midlife Quest for Passion At Any Cost is giving a lot of committed monogamists the chance to say “I told you so!” about open marriage. Here’s the book in a nutshell: San Francisco-based magazine editor Robin Rinaldi felt like her marriage was in a rut, […]

Wise Guys
Can You Talk a Guy Into Having an Open Relationship?

photo of open marriage fan Anais Nin via Wikimedia Commons Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “I want to have an open relationship, but my boyfriend doesn’t want to open up the relationship. I don’t want to break up, what should I do?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. […]

Confessions
How to Become a Cuckold (If That’s Your Thing)

Every now and then (okay, so it’s not exactly rare!) a reader gives better advice than we ever could. Especially when it’s a very specific situation that we have zero experience in… and the reader has experience in spades. This week is just such a case: Reader Ken shares very smart advice on how to […]

Confessions
Why No Blowjobs Can Be a Dealbreaker for Men

photo via flickr Last week we published reader Sara’s impassioned comment about blowjobs, and how they are not an inalienable right. This week, we are publishing two responses to her by two of our equally thoughtful, passionate, intelligent male readers, Derek and Steve. Can we just say how much we love that a debate like […]

TV
The Bachelorette: What Happens in the Fantasy Suite Stays in the Fantasy Suite?

screen shot of ABC’s “After the Final Rose” Last night’s “After the Final Rose” was the most dramatic ever! Not because the Bachelorette (Andi Dorfman) got engaged to a guy (Josh “I Can’t Put My Arms Down” Murray) after only knowing him for two and a half months and only going on, like, three dates […]

Polls
What Makes YOUR Marriage Work?

Are you happily married? If so, we want to hear from you! We’re working on a new project celebrating happy-ever-afters, and we want to interview you over email to find out what makes your marriage a happy one. You can stay completely anonymous, we promise! (Unless you’d care to brag.) If you’re interested in sharing […]

Dear Em & Lo
When Do I Tell a New Partner I Want an Open Relationship?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. You can leave your advice in the comments section below.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: I Cheated on My Boyfriend And Don’t Regret It

Dear Em & Lo, So I am currently in a relationship with my boyfriend of 8 years, going on 9. We have been together since high school and are now in our mid twenties. I love him very much and used to see myself spending the rest of my life with him up until just a […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Monogamish Is the Future

Franklin Veaux’s Map of Non-Monogamy This week’s Comment of the Week by AlanK is a response to last week’s Comment of the Week called “9 Reasons Why Women Cheat” by  Johnny, which was a response to the post “Why Women Cheat — A Married Man Goes Undercover”: Things wear out; the tires on your car wear […]

Dear Em & Lo
Is Cuckolding a Real Trend, Or Just Another Internet Meme?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your thoughts in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, A lot of erotica […]

Pop Culture
Can You Beat the Urge to Stray with One Freebie a Year?

photo via flickr “If I tell my child, ‘No pizza, no pizza, no pizza,’ what does he want more than anything Pizza!” And so it is with her husband and sex, claims Russian pop star Masha Lopatova. She is married to Andrei Kirilenko, a basketball player for the Brooklyn Nets — and she has told […]

Confessions
8 Rules for the Third Wheel in a Threeway

Our contributor is a college student who wishes to remain anonymous. She has some sage advice to impart on the topic of three ways… When people give warnings about threeways, it’s usually directed at couples who are bringing in a third party. Threeways are not a relationship-building exercise, they tell you. Are you sure your relationship can handle […]