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Tag Archive | "Non-monogamy"

The Map of Non-Monogamy

Friday, November 12, 2010


According to Franklin Veaux’s personal website, he is an atheist/transhumanist/computer hacker/BDSM switch who owns a small graphic design and training firm and is into Apple computers, World of Warcraft, tattoos, piercing, photography and polyamory. He’s the guy who did that awesome Map of Human Sexuality a while back. And now he’s done the official Map [...]

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Top 10 Reasons for Being – and Staying – Non-Monogamous

Wednesday, October 20, 2010


The other week, we ran a lighthearted post called “Top 10 Reasons for Being – and Staying – Monogamous” (which we reposted this morning) as encouragement for those people who choose to be in exclusive, long-term relationships. Some of you took it as an indictment of non-monogamy, which wasn’t our intention at all. (See the [...]

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Your Call – Should You Have Extracurricular Sex If Given Permission?

Tuesday, August 24, 2010


photo by batega Dear Em & Lo, First off, I will say that I love my boyfriend. We are extremely compatible in almost every way. Except sex, and here’s why. About two years ago my boyfriend ruptured a testicle. Sex is now extremely painful for him and he has difficulty reaching orgasm. As a result [...]

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Poll: Would You Consider an Open Marriage?

Thursday, June 24, 2010


Would you ever entertain the idea of an open marriage?online survey Can’t see the poll? Click here to take it.

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Dear Em & Lo: Should I Break Up with My College Boyfriend?

Friday, November 6, 2009


photo by jeroen_bennink Dear Em & Lo, Some may call us v-card clingers, but my boyfriend and I have been together for three years now. Giving our virginity to each other was not our first first–we were incredibly inexperienced before meeting. Although the relationship began out of lust it has blossomed into much more. He’s [...]

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Wise Guys: Are Men Hardwired to Cheat?

Tuesday, October 20, 2009


photo by pasukaru76 Advice from three of our guy friends. This week we ask, “Are men hardwired to cheat? More than women?“ Straight Married Guy (Ben): When it comes to sex, sexuality and attraction, men ARE hardwired for many things. We are hardwired to notice — men, women, whatever your sexual preference. We are hardwired [...]

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Writer Defends Adulterers, Calls the Rest of Us “Holier Than Thou”

Monday, August 31, 2009


photo via venetia_joubert_sarah_oosterveld If you’ve listened to Howard Stern even once over the past decade (that’d be Em, not Lo), then you know that one of his most loyal advertisers is the Ashley Madison Agency — the online dating site that caters to married people with the tagline “Life is short. Have an affair.” Charming. [...]

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Dear Em & Lo: Should I Cheat on My Husband Who’s Abroad?

Wednesday, August 26, 2009


Dear Em & Lo, I read your articles, and you give great advice to other readers, so maybe you can help me! My husband lives in another country; he’s in the process of coming over here, but we aren’t even sure when! We have been apart for a year already, and we’ve been married for [...]

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Advice: Conquering Jealousy in an Open Relationship

Friday, August 7, 2009


photo by rileyroxx This past Wednesday we published a thank you letter from a reader who [patting ourselves firmly on the back] benefited from our advice concerning his open relationship. Well, we know that we’re not solely responsible for the success story, so we asked Zac to elaborate on how he was able to banish [...]

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Dear Em & Lo: A Very Contemporary Love Story

Wednesday, August 5, 2009


About 18 months ago we answered a reader’s plea for advice about her open relationship (on our dearly departed blog, DailyBedpost). And then just this week we heard from the reader’s boyfriend, Zac, who told us that the advice totally worked! We’re suckers for a success story, especially when it’s one of our own, so [...]

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