One-Night Stands
Oops! I Slept with a Co-Worker at the Office Holiday Party

Dear Em & Lo, I slept with a co-worker after our holiday office party. We were both very drunk, and while I don’t regret it, I don’t want anything further with him. Unfortunately, he’s giving me all the signals that he’d like for us to continue what was, for me, just a one-night thing. To […]

How to Close the Orgasm Gap

image from nDevilTV It’s not exactly rocket science to say that men orgasm more often than women when they have sex with each other. Now, if you had to guess, what do you think happens to this orgasm gap as a relationship progresses from casual hookup to repeated hookup to serious commitment? Yep, the orgasm […]

Your Call: Is Casual Sex Really That Great?

photo by e.esders We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & […]

Wise Guys: What Makes for a Memorable One-Night Stand?

photo by Helga Weber Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What makes for a memorable (in a good way) one night stand?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Colin Adamo): Often the fun part of a one-night stand is in the spontaneity, […]

Wise Guys – Would You Accept a Free Pass for a One-Night Stand?

photo by balinto Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “If a guy’s partner told him that he could have a one-night stand with a stranger, no questions asked, and it was guaranteed that his partner wouldn’t freak out about it later — would most guys take their partner […]

Dear Em & Lo, Did I Put Out Prematurely?

photo by Frank H Dear Em and Lo, OK, here’s a complicated question, but I’m not fond of roadside psychics, so you guys are my best bet. I’ve been carrying on a flirtation with a local bartender for about a month now. The other night, the flirtation led to drinks at a neighboring bar, and […]

One-Night Stands Can So Lead to Beautiful Relationships

photo by e.esders Before we started writing about sex, we had no idea that so many scientists and researchers spent time so much time studying our sexual proclivities. These days we have trouble thinking of anything sexual that hasn’t been qualified and quantified and written up in a science journal. Take the age-old issue of […]

How to Negotiate a Night of Casual Sex

photo by Helga Weber We have nothing against casual sex so long as everyone is being safe and the casual nature of the sex is completely mutual. And “mutual” is where things get tricky. May we introduce you to the concept of a prenook? This is the casual-sex equivalent of the prenup. The pre-nook is […]

Overnight Handbag: How to Prepare for a Casual Sleepover

photo by dunikowski Ladies, if there’s any chance your evening will end up in a sleepover, transform your purse into a make-shift washbag. Even if there isn’t a snowball’s chance in hell you’ll be getting nooky tonight, carry these items with you anyway — because the best hook-ups happen when you least expect them. Compact […]

Wise Guys – What Do You Think After a One-Night Stand?

photo by foxtongue Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What are most guys thinking when they wake up after a one-night stand?” Gay Single Guy (Daniel): Seriously, it depends if a guy is sober and/or can remember how he got into bed with so-and-so. The alcohol factor is […]