Oral Sex
Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Won’t Go Down on Me

photo via Flickr Dear Em and Lo, When my boyfriend and I started seeing each other he made it clear he had a problem with performing oral sex and so I’ve never asked him to do it as, after all, I wouldn’t want to do something I wasn’t comfortable with or wouldn’t enjoy. However, after […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Don’t Push Your Sexual Preferences On Me!

In an articulate response to our post, “Dear Em & Lo: I Hate Receiving Blowjobs,” reader Yves compares blowjob peer pressure to ardent evangelism by born-again Christians: You know what makes it easier to like something? Being able to choose freely whether to do it (or have it done to you). That means being pressured is […]

How To
Tantric Oral Sex OR How to Become a Human Vibrator

While we were thrilled our latest book 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink won the silver medal in the sex & relationships category at the Independent Publishers Book Awards this year, we’ll admit we were a little disappointed it wasn’t the gold. That honor went to Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson for […]

Personal Essays
Confession: My Love-Hate Relationship with the 69 Position

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studies Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz (read her blog here). She has this to say about the pros and cons of the 69 position… I will, with ease and without shame, say that 69 is a profoundly silly position. Sure, it sounds great upon first listen. We […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Husband Watches Me Go Down on a Woman

photo via Flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had a dream I was having […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Love a Man As Is

This comment from Mactek in response to the post “Wise Guys: If He Asks About Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?” recalls our favorite comment from two weeks ago titled “Love a Woman As Is.” Hey, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander! I want a woman who loves, appreciates, adores, […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Do You Give Your Partner Advice About Oral?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  I  I truly enjoy sex with my boyfriend, but I don’t […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: How I Learned to Enjoy Giving Blowjobs

photo via flickr Reader Female said the following in response to our oldie-but-goodie post, “Wise Guys: What Makes a Great BJ?” I never did blowjobs, I found them to be degrading to women, especially when referred to as “gobbies” — I suppose it’s that image of the town bikes handing them out at parties that […]

Dear Em & Lo
What’s a Nice Way to Give Directions in Bed?

photo via flickr Hey readers, got your own question for us? Submit it here. We may not answer them all, but we read every one, and we care, we really do. Dear Em & Lo, I truly enjoy sex with my boyfriend, but I don’t orgasm through sex.  We are a relatively new couple, and […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: On Average, How Often Do BJs Occur in Relationships?

photo by Public Domain Photos Dear Em & Lo, What is the average number of BJ’s a guy in a relationship receives? (FYI: I’m a straight guy.) — Joe Blow Dear Joe, The actual average, even the more accurate median number (if they were somehow knowable, which they’re not) would be totally misleading, because the […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: What I’ve Learned in 50 Years of Oral Sex

photo via flickr In response to the post “How Do I Tell My BF He Sucks at Oral?” reader Dr Mountbank wrote the following (to massive acclaim from his fellow posters): I’m an Old Guy, 70 to be exact. I have over 50 years of experience going down on women, and I can say without […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: How Do I Tell My BF He Sucks at Oral?

photo via flickr Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I’m 21, he’s 28. He’s the only person to ever perform oral sex on me, so while I have no one to compare him too, I know that he is bad at oral sex. He pushes his entire face on […]

How To
5 Ways to Reconceptualize SEX

  We’ve said it before, we’ll say it again: Sex is not intercourse. So stop using the two words interchangeably! When we as a society do this over and over again, it gets into the collective unconscious and starts limiting how we imagine the possibilities of pleasure, especially for women. A majority of women (that’s […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate: Is a Post-Toothpaste Tingly Oral Session Safe?

photo by sahxic Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here every two weeks. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, Lately my manpanion has been going down on me at night following teethbrushing. Needless to […]

How To
Oral Sex Tips to Use on Her

photo via Flickr Yesterday we reviewed the blow job basics. Today, it’s time for your cunnilingus refresher course. Like getting in shape or getting rich, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to going downtown on her. What worked on your last girlfriend may not work on your current one; what worked on your current […]

How To
Oral Sex Tips to Use on Him

photo by Public Domain Photos Sometimes it’s good to review the basics — you know, take a refresher course on a sexual staple like fellatio, especially if it’s been a while or you’ve gotten into a rut or you’re simply not as confident as you’d like to be in the oral skills department. If you […]