photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “If guys had to choose between only intercourse or only blowjobs for the rest of their life, which do you think most guys would choose?” Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): I think most guys would choose blowjobs, but they […]
Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “I really hate going down on guys. I’ve tried it, I don’t like it. In fact, I loathe it. I feel bad about it, but if I don’t expect oral in return (I don’t), then why should I feel compelled to do […]
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photo via flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: My husband, two nights in a row, has dreamed of oral […]
photo via Flickr Dear Em and Lo, When my boyfriend and I started seeing each other he made it clear he had a problem with performing oral sex and so I’ve never asked him to do it as, after all, I wouldn’t want to do something I wasn’t comfortable with or wouldn’t enjoy. However, after […]
In an articulate response to our post, “Dear Em & Lo: I Hate Receiving Blowjobs,” reader Yves compares blowjob peer pressure to ardent evangelism by born-again Christians: You know what makes it easier to like something? Being able to choose freely whether to do it (or have it done to you). That means being pressured is […]
While we were thrilled our latest book 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink won the silver medal in the sex & relationships category at the Independent Publishers Book Awards this year, we’ll admit we were a little disappointed it wasn’t the gold. That honor went to Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson for […]
Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studies Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz (read her blog here). She has this to say about the pros and cons of the 69 position… I will, with ease and without shame, say that 69 is a profoundly silly position. Sure, it sounds great upon first listen. We […]
photo via Flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had a dream I was having […]
This comment from Mactek in response to the post “Wise Guys: If He Asks About Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?” recalls our favorite comment from two weeks ago titled “Love a Woman As Is.” Hey, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander! I want a woman who loves, appreciates, adores, […]
We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below. I I truly enjoy sex with my boyfriend, but I don’t […]
photo via flickr Reader Female said the following in response to our oldie-but-goodie post, “Wise Guys: What Makes a Great BJ?” I never did blowjobs, I found them to be degrading to women, especially when referred to as “gobbies” — I suppose it’s that image of the town bikes handing them out at parties that […]
photo via flickr Hey readers, got your own question for us? Submit it here. We may not answer them all, but we read every one, and we care, we really do. Dear Em & Lo, I truly enjoy sex with my boyfriend, but I don’t orgasm through sex. We are a relatively new couple, and […]
photo by Public Domain Photos Dear Em & Lo, What is the average number of BJ’s a guy in a relationship receives? (FYI: I’m a straight guy.) — Joe Blow Dear Joe, The actual average, even the more accurate median number (if they were somehow knowable, which they’re not) would be totally misleading, because the […]
photo via flickr In response to the post “How Do I Tell My BF He Sucks at Oral?” reader Dr Mountbank wrote the following (to massive acclaim from his fellow posters): I’m an Old Guy, 70 to be exact. I have over 50 years of experience going down on women, and I can say without […]
