Oral Sex
Comment of the Week: How I Learned to Enjoy Giving Blowjobs

photo via flickr Reader Female said the following in response to our oldie-but-goodie post, “Wise Guys: What Makes a Great BJ?” I never did blowjobs, I found them to be degrading to women, especially when referred to as “gobbies” — I suppose it’s that image of the town bikes handing them out at parties that […]

What’s a Nice Way to Give Directions in Bed?

photo via flickr Hey readers, got your own question for us? Submit it here. We may not answer them all, but we read every one, and we care, we really do. Dear Em & Lo, I truly enjoy sex with my boyfriend, but I don’t orgasm through sex.  We are a relatively new couple, and […]

Dear Em & Lo: On Average, How Often Do BJs Occur in Relationships?

photo by Public Domain Photos Dear Em & Lo, What is the average number of BJ’s a guy in a relationship receives? (FYI: I’m a straight guy.) — Joe Blow Dear Joe, The actual average, even the more accurate median number (if they were somehow knowable, which they’re not) would be totally misleading, because the […]

Comment of the Week: What I’ve Learned in 50 Years of Oral Sex

photo via flickr In response to the post “How Do I Tell My BF He Sucks at Oral?” reader Dr Mountbank wrote the following (to massive acclaim from his fellow posters): I’m an Old Guy, 70 to be exact. I have over 50 years of experience going down on women, and I can say without […]

Dear Em & Lo: How Do I Tell My BF He Sucks at Oral?

photo via flickr Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I’m 21, he’s 28. He’s the only person to ever perform oral sex on me, so while I have no one to compare him too, I know that he is bad at oral sex. He pushes his entire face on […]

5 Ways to Reconceptualize SEX

  We’ve said it before, we’ll say it again: Sex is not intercourse. So stop using the two words interchangeably! When we as a society do this over and over again, it gets into the collective unconscious and starts limiting how we imagine the possibilities of pleasure, especially for women. A majority of women (that’s […]

Dear Dr. Kate: Is a Post-Toothpaste Tingly Oral Session Safe?

photo by sahxic Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here every two weeks. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, Lately my manpanion has been going down on me at night following teethbrushing. Needless to […]

Oral Sex Tips to Use on Her

photo via Flickr Yesterday we reviewed the blow job basics. Today, it’s time for your cunnilingus refresher course. Like getting in shape or getting rich, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to going downtown on her. What worked on your last girlfriend may not work on your current one; what worked on your current […]

Oral Sex Tips to Use on Him

photo by Public Domain Photos Sometimes it’s good to review the basics — you know, take a refresher course on a sexual staple like fellatio, especially if it’s been a while or you’ve gotten into a rut or you’re simply not as confident as you’d like to be in the oral skills department. If you […]

Confession: A Taste of One’s Own

Max, one of our Wise Guys, has a confession to make: Ladies, face it: After a blow job, your average man would like you to swallow his seed, plain and simple. Whether that’s because of pride, practicality or a penchant for raunchiness may vary from guy to guy, but a lover’s choice of spitting over […]