Oral Sex
How To
Tantric Oral Sex OR How to Become a Human Vibrator

While we were thrilled our latest book 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink won the silver medal in the sex & relationships category at the Independent Publishers Book Awards this year, we’ll admit we were a little disappointed it wasn’t the gold. That honor went to Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson for […]

Personal Essays
Confession: My Love-Hate Relationship with the 69 Position

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studies Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz (read her blog here). She has this to say about the pros and cons of the 69 position… I will, with ease and without shame, say that 69 is a profoundly silly position. Sure, it sounds great upon first listen. We […]

Top 10 Ways to Make Oral Sex More Fun for Both Partners

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studies Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz (read her blog here). She has some words of wisdom to share about oral sex… Going down on someone is no easy task. And letting someone go down on you can be quite nerve-racking. Despite these potential oral sex setbacks, the […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Husband Watches Me Go Down on a Woman

photo via Flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had a dream I was having […]

Comment of the Week: Love a Man As Is

This comment from Mactek in response to the post “Wise Guys: If He Asks About Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?” recalls our favorite comment from two weeks ago titled “Love a Woman As Is.” Hey, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander! I want a woman who loves, appreciates, adores, […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Do You Give Your Partner Advice About Oral?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  I  I truly enjoy sex with my boyfriend, but I don’t […]

Comment of the Week: How I Learned to Enjoy Giving Blowjobs

photo via flickr Reader Female said the following in response to our oldie-but-goodie post, “Wise Guys: What Makes a Great BJ?” I never did blowjobs, I found them to be degrading to women, especially when referred to as “gobbies” — I suppose it’s that image of the town bikes handing them out at parties that […]

Dear Em & Lo
What’s a Nice Way to Give Directions in Bed?

photo via flickr Hey readers, got your own question for us? Submit it here. We may not answer them all, but we read every one, and we care, we really do. Dear Em & Lo, I truly enjoy sex with my boyfriend, but I don’t orgasm through sex.  We are a relatively new couple, and […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: On Average, How Often Do BJs Occur in Relationships?

photo by Public Domain Photos Dear Em & Lo, What is the average number of BJ’s a guy in a relationship receives? (FYI: I’m a straight guy.) — Joe Blow Dear Joe, The actual average, even the more accurate median number (if they were somehow knowable, which they’re not) would be totally misleading, because the […]

Comment of the Week: What I’ve Learned in 50 Years of Oral Sex

photo via flickr In response to the post “How Do I Tell My BF He Sucks at Oral?” reader Dr Mountbank wrote the following (to massive acclaim from his fellow posters): I’m an Old Guy, 70 to be exact. I have over 50 years of experience going down on women, and I can say without […]