How to Take the Pressure Off Your Orgasm

Reader Matt said the following in response to our post, “How to Round the Final Bend When Sex Feels Amazing But You Don’t Orgasm”: Are you on any anti-despressants? I once dated someone who was able to have orgasms readily, but after going on Prozac, was suddenly unable to. It’s worth considering if any medications […]

Dear Em & Lo
How Do You Round the Final Bend When Sex Feels Amazing But You Don’t Orgasm?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I am afraid that […]

Dear Em & Lo
I’m a Woman Who Climaxes Quickly and Easily, Is that Normal?!

Dear Em & Lo, I’ve never been a girl who has difficulty reaching an orgasm.  I started masturbating in college and learned pretty quickly what I like and what I do.  Now when I’m with a guy, I find that I get off — really quickly and really hard.  With my most recent hook-up, we […]

Wise Guys
Yes, Guys Fake Orgasms Too — Here’s How to Tell

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer, quite diversely, the following: Do guys fake orgasms? Straight Single Guy (Colin): Of course! We probably don’t faux the Big O as much as women do, but every now and then the circumstances might call for us to fake. If our endurance is flagging […]

How To
How to Orgasm Without a Sex Toy

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 22-year-old woman who has only become sexually active over the last six months or so. I’m enjoying myself and being safe, but it’s starting to annoy me that I can’t have an orgasm without a vibrator. This really bothered my last boyfriend, which of course made me stressed out, […]

Comment: Why Size Matters…Until It Doesn’t

Reader MrAverage said the following in response to our post “Your Call: Do Bigger Penises Lead to Different Orgasms for Women?” Size matters and it doesn’t. Let me explain that apparent contradiction. My wife’s ex was an acquaintance of mine – we played on the same soccer team. He was hung, everybody joked about it, although not huge […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: Who Causes Wet Dreams? Could It Be….Satan?!

In response to a letter from a woman who orgasms in her sleep, we got a very interesting and creative analysis of what is actually going on from Amandah. It’s not sexual tension or the subconscious playing around with one of our strongest primal urges. Nope! Amandah schools us in the facts. (Ed. note: grammatical […]

How To
5 Good Reasons Not to Fake Your Orgasm

by Amanda Chatel for YourTango You’re really not as good at it as you may think you are. It has long been one of those discussions that comes up both in and out of the bedroom: are you faking it or not? Faking an orgasm, that is. Sadly there are actually those out there who end […]

Personal Essays
What Does a Male Orgasm Feels Like? 4 Guys Explain.

by Melissa Noble for YourTango | photo via Flickr Ever wondered what a male orgasm is like? Four men tell us ladies what it feels like to get off. So what does a male orgasm feel like? Do orgasms differ drastically between the sexes? On our search to find out what exactly goes on in a man’s head […]

Oh Come Let Us Adore Her G-Spot

The phrase “come hither motion” should be familiar to anyone who’s ever read anything about G-spot orgasms in women. It’s a very specific, very human touch (one or two fingers, usually), and it’s the key to stimulating a woman’s G-spot. And, as you might have discovered to your frustration, it’s not something a woman can […]