Orgasms
How To
Oral Sex Etiquette: 12 Golden Rules for Going Down

The following list of tips is intended for both women and men: The golden rule of manners as it pertains to dining downtown is this: consider it the equivalent of a free meal at a Gordon Ramsay restaurant. It’s a sheer delight simply to be there! So act like it. When the best chefs in […]

Sexual Health
Everything You Need to Know About the New Female Viagra

by Professor Kimberly Resnick Anderson for YourTango Would YOU take the little pink pill? The FDA recently approved Flibanserin, also known as Female Viagra. This is the first-ever FDA drug to treat low libido in women, officially called Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD). Flibanserin has a checkered past and provokes intense debate around equality, sexism, female sexual […]

Comment of the Week
8 Ways to Get Him to Focus on YOUR Orgasm for a Change

The following excellent advice from “CaspianC” came in response to the post “My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm.” We’ve taken the liberty of editing it ever-so slightly into an easy-to-read list (our additions are in brackets).  I was in the same situation. Well, it’s an ongoing issue, but it’s getting better. […]

Toys
Happy Orgasm Day! Here Are 8 Reasons to Have More

Not that we need any encouragement, but to celebrate National Orgasm Day today (July 31st), our friends at LELO, the world’s leading experts in pleasure, have compiled their top 8 reasons why we should all have more orgasms:   1. People who orgasm 4 or more times a week look up to 7 years younger […]

Confessions
The Pill May Be Killing Your Orgasms

The following comment by reader “Maddy” came in response to the post “How Do You Round the Final Bend When Sex Feels Amazing But You Don’t Orgasm?“ This was true for me for years — and I was afraid too. I was experiencing pleasure and feeling a build but right when I felt close to […]

Dear Em & Lo
Is My G-Spot Normal?

Dear Em & Lo, I think my G-spot is further out than a lot of women. It feels like it’s right inside the vaginal opening. Is that possible? Please help: I’ve only had 4 G-spot orgasms in my life. G-Wiz Dear G.W., Anything is possible when it comes to bodies. Everyone’s is different. If you […]

Dream Interpretation
What Does It Mean When a Woman Has a Wet Dream?

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I’m turning 30 this month. I’ve never […]

Confessions
How Meditation Can Help You Achieve an Orgasm

Reader Alex said the following in response to our post, “How Do You Round the Final Bend When Sex Feels Amazing But You Don’t Orgasm?” I also have this problem. I believe that it has to do with how well you can “release” your mind. I have a really hard time just mentally letting go, […]

Confessions
How to Take the Pressure Off Your Orgasm

Reader Matt said the following in response to our post, “How to Round the Final Bend When Sex Feels Amazing But You Don’t Orgasm”: Are you on any anti-despressants? I once dated someone who was able to have orgasms readily, but after going on Prozac, was suddenly unable to. It’s worth considering if any medications […]

Dear Em & Lo
How Do You Round the Final Bend When Sex Feels Amazing But You Don’t Orgasm?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I am afraid that […]

Dear Em & Lo
I’m a Woman Who Climaxes Quickly and Easily, Is that Normal?!

Dear Em & Lo, I’ve never been a girl who has difficulty reaching an orgasm.  I started masturbating in college and learned pretty quickly what I like and what I do.  Now when I’m with a guy, I find that I get off — really quickly and really hard.  With my most recent hook-up, we […]

Wise Guys
Yes, Guys Fake Orgasms Too — Here’s How to Tell

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer, quite diversely, the following: Do guys fake orgasms? Straight Single Guy (Colin): Of course! We probably don’t faux the Big O as much as women do, but every now and then the circumstances might call for us to fake. If our endurance is flagging […]

How To
How to Orgasm Without a Sex Toy

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 22-year-old woman who has only become sexually active over the last six months or so. I’m enjoying myself and being safe, but it’s starting to annoy me that I can’t have an orgasm without a vibrator. This really bothered my last boyfriend, which of course made me stressed out, […]

Confessions
Comment: Why Size Matters…Until It Doesn’t

Reader MrAverage said the following in response to our post “Your Call: Do Bigger Penises Lead to Different Orgasms for Women?” Size matters and it doesn’t. Let me explain that apparent contradiction. My wife’s ex was an acquaintance of mine – we played on the same soccer team. He was hung, everybody joked about it, although not huge […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: Who Causes Wet Dreams? Could It Be….Satan?!

In response to a letter from a woman who orgasms in her sleep, we got a very interesting and creative analysis of what is actually going on from Amandah. It’s not sexual tension or the subconscious playing around with one of our strongest primal urges. Nope! Amandah schools us in the facts. (Ed. note: grammatical […]

How To
5 Good Reasons Not to Fake Your Orgasm

by Amanda Chatel for YourTango You’re really not as good at it as you may think you are. It has long been one of those discussions that comes up both in and out of the bedroom: are you faking it or not? Faking an orgasm, that is. Sadly there are actually those out there who end […]