Blurring the Line Between Sperm Donor and Father

We were fascinated by the article in the New York Times this past weekend about the custody battle between actor Jason Patric and his massage therapist ex (and not just because the notoriously publicity-shy Patric talkied to Katie Couric on national television to get his side of the dispute out there). Here’s the story, in […]

LAST CHANCE to Win a Tess & James Feel-Good Package for Mother’s Day!

sponsored post Your odds of winning this Mother’s Day Feel Good Package made especially for readers by Tess & James — a new, small batch production company specializing in feel good products made from ingredients that are gentle on the skin, nice to your nose, and free of artificial colors, artificial flavors and preservatives — are ridonkulous! But […]

The Three Make-or-Break Issues In Every Relationship

Reader Blah Blah Blacksheep (best username ever, by the way!) said the following in response to our post Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed? Money, sex, and kids are the three make-or-break things in every relationship. A spender will have a hard time being with a saver. Two dominants or […]

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Awesome New Book: “What Makes A Baby”

One of our favorite sex educators, Cory Silverberg, just came out with a new children’s book called “WHAT MAKES A BABY: A Book for Every Kind of Family and Every Kind of Kid.” It’s brightly illustrated, awesomely inclusive, and very, very sweet. Plus, it makes the perfect gift for families with little ones (or little […]

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Your Call: Why Can’t You Decide About Kids AFTER You Marry?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New […]

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Dear Em & Lo: I Used a Vibrator, Now I Can’t Climax with My Partner

photo via flickr Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I’m having trouble reaching an orgasm while intimate with my partner. I’m 20 years old, I had a kid 8 months ago, and then became a single parent, so started using a vibrator. I now have a […]

Comment of the Week: Mommas, Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up to Be Assholes

Johnny, in response to our post “Do Spoiled Children Grow Up to Be Bad Sex Partners?”: I remember when [my younger cousin] was little, he once knocked a rubber ball into a shallow ditch beside the yard. He let out an aggrieved wail, and his mom ran over saying, “Oh no, what’s the problem?” before […]

Do Spoiled Children Grow Up to Be Bad Sex Partners?

Is it possible that bad parenting could lead to bad sex? Could spoiled and selfish kids grow up to be spoiled and selfish bed partners? A recent article and book review in The New Yorker, “Why are American kids so spoiled?” got us thinking along these lines. The basic question that journalist Elizabeth Kolbert wants to answer […]

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Friends with Kids

photo via Note: This review is written by Em, who loved the movie Friends with Kids. It’s really hard to talk about the new movie Friends with Kids (written, directed, produced by, and starring Jennifer Westfeldt of Kissing Jessica Stein) without a massive plot spoiler, because the closing line is one of the dirtiest, […]

On Feminism, High School and Sex — and What Occupy Can Teach Us About All Three

“It’s not easy, in this world, to learn how to navigate our anger and attraction, to learn how to be strong, sexual women and kind, gentle men.” This is a quote from our friend Michelle Chihara’s essay, “Pieces of the Past,” published this week on her blog This Blue Angel. On the surface this essay […]