Politics
TV
Poll: Is Ben Affleck More or Less Attractive After His Appearance on “Real Time”?

Okay, we know this is a stretch for a sex & relationships website, but we just are having so much fun reading all the debates over last week’s episode of Real Time, in which host Bill Maher and guest Sam Harris, a “new atheist” author, clashed with actor Ben Affleck over whether it’s appropriate to […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from The Bachelorette (Andi, “The Journey So Far”)*

If you’re going to talk politics on a date, then the only appropriate response to the topic of Benghazi is “Bring it on!” It’s gauche to ask your date about the ancient indiscretions of their partner, especially if said date was the Secretary of God Damn State. If you’re going to tell your date how […]

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Highlights from #YesAllWomen

The Twitterstorm known as #YesAllWomen that’s blown up over the past week — in response to both the misogyny-fueled killing spree at UCSB last Friday and the misguided hashtag “NotAllMen” that took off shortly thereafter — has shined a bright light on how much more work needs to be done dismantling idealogical sexism. Here’s a […]

Dear Em & Lo
Does Enjoying Anal Play Mean You’re Gay?

Something we here an awful lot around these here parts is the concern many straight men have with receiving — and, heaven forbid, enjoying — a little backdoor attention. Just this week we got another comment on the topic: My boyfriend has recently discovered he likes me lubing him up and fingering his anus, rimming […]

News
Will Roe V. Wade See Another Anniversary?

Yesterday was the 41st anniversary of Roe V. Wade. Will there be a 42nd? Since abortion has been legal in this country for the entire lifespan of progressive women under 41 years old, they — we — have perhaps come to take Roe V. Wade for granted, to assume that this right is inalienable and […]

Pop Culture
Porn & Romance: An Odd Couple?

The following is a sub-chapter about “the age of hypersexualization” from the new book “THE NEW SOFT WAR ON WOMEN: How the Myth of Female Ascendance Is Hurting Women, Men — and Our Economy” by Caryl Rivers and Rosalind C. Barnett, Ph.D. It’s the perfect holiday gift for anyone who says we live in a […]

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The Things We Won by Re-Electing Obama

It’s a great day to be a progressive American! So happy to know we’re moving forward in the 21st century, not backward to the 1950s. Last night, the two of us gathered with friends, ate chili, drank beer, watched the results come in, and at 11:15pm poured the champagne and played “We Are the Champions” […]

Personal Essays
Open Letter: Here’s What Romney Thinks Of Your Gay Son

Our friend Nathaniel Frank is the author of the book Unfriendly Fire: How the Gay Ban Undermines the Military and Weakens America. He was an expert witness in two Constitutional challenges to “don’t ask, don’t tell,” whose success helped end the policy. Yesterday he spoke on the phone with the parents of his best friend about how […]

Pop Culture
Rosemary’s Baby Could Have Been Made in 2012, 2016…

You hear a lot these days about Republicans rolling back women’s rights all the way to the ’50s and ’60s: vowing to defund Planned Parenthood; to allow employers to decide whether or not their female employees can have their contraception covered; to put the rights of an embryo above those of a woman via the […]

News
Top 6 Reasons Your Heart & Genitals Want You to Vote for Obama

We know we may be preaching to the choir here, but just in case you need some more encouragement to register to vote (state-by-state deadlines start dropping in October!), to volunteer your time to the Obama campaign, and to actually vote on November 6th, 2012, here you go: 1. Romney represents the Republican Party, and the […]