Porn
Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: What Porn Will Get the Girlfriend Seal of Approval?

For two women who make their living writing about sex, we know surprisingly little about porn. We certainly have a lot of opinions about it — about compromising on it in a relationship, for example. But when it comes to the specifics — names of directors, recommended titles, decent actors and storylines, etc. — we […]

How To
Why You Should Let Your Boyfriend or Husband Watch Porn

Porn is an evergreen issue in our mailbox — we frequently get letters about it from both men and women. The men tend to say, why is my girlfriend/wife so bothered by porn? And the women tend to say, why does my boyfriend/husband watch porn when he has me? Or, why does he continue to […]

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The Real Reasons Why Men Send Pics of their Penises

by Amanda Chatel for YourTango  |  Justin Bieber selfie via Instagram Finally, ladies: the answer you’ve long been waiting for. It was just a matter of time before we took  the technology we have at our fingertips and made it all about sex. I mean, we’re horny, sexual beings, so why wouldn’t we? But while sending […]

Pop Culture
LELO’s First Movie Explores Modern Intimacy… Without Sex Toys

You may know LELO as the creator of some of your favorite pleasure objects, but now they would also like you to think of them as movie people… though it’s all still in the interest of intimacy. Sex toy skeptics like to claim that bedside accessories reduce intimacy, inserting a piece of high-end silicone where […]

Pop Culture
The Original “Fifty Shades of Grey”

Earlier covers of The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty trilogy In my senior year of high school, I (Lo) read The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty, the first in a three-book series by vampire-genre goddess Anne Rice (who was a fave of mine at the time) writing under the pen name “A. N. Roquelaure.” Except instead of vampires, […]

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What Romance Novels Taught Me About Love (and Lust)

by Aly Walanksy for YourTango | photo via WeHeartIt Some people criticize the romance drama, but there are things you can learn from it. Boys get their first taste of sexy times through Internet porn and nudie magazines—but ladies, we have erotica. Or, as the publishers like to call them, romance novels. Now, I’m not knocking romance […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: What Porn Gets Wrong About Female Pleasure

photo via flickr Reader grainne said the following in response to our post, “Comment of the Week: How to Get Past His Porn Habit”. We found this point really interesting — that many women are bothered by porn not because they find it offensive, per se, but because they think it misleads men regarding what […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: How to Know If Porn Is a Deal Breaker

Reader misspiggy said the following in response to our post, Wise Guys: My Girlfriend Says Porn Is a Dealbreaker, Is She Right? I think the guy should talk it through with his girlfriend and find out if her issue is with the ethics of porn production, or the whole concept of porn itself. If it’s […]

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Comment of the Week: Porn Is No Biggie

photo via Flickr Reader Jessica wrote the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: He Looks at Other Women But Gets Jealous If I Ogle Men“: I used to be one of those women, when I was younger, who would fly off the handle if I saw my boyfriend looking at another woman. After going through […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: My Girlfriend Says Porn Is a Dealbreaker, Is She Right?

photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do you do if your girlfriend, whom you love very much, doesn’t understand why you like and watch porn occasionally: she’s intellectually and viscerally opposed to it, thinks it is a horrible industry that exploits people and perpetuates […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Top 10 Naughty Pic Tips

photo via flickr Reader Gerald Massey wrote the following in response to our oldie-but-goodie post, “Top 10 Tips for Taking Naughty Pics” (we couldn’t resist annotating a handful of them!): I am a hobbyist photographer of basic themes — landscapes, architecture, events — but I have been studying naughty photography, as I have come to know […]

Pop Culture
New Poetry: “No Girls in the Porn Store”

Did you even know there were poets any more? Well, there are. We know one, and he is awesome. He is Mark Bibbins. And he will make you believe in poets again. He will convince you that they are sexy and dreamy and powerful and relevant. His knew book, just out, is called “They Don’t […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Kinds of “Porn” That Should Exist (If They Don’t Already)

Real estate porn, food porn, weather porn, disaster porn, gastro-porn, travel porn… doesn’t anyone watch plain ol’ porn anymore? According to the Oxford English Dictionary, this use of the term porn denotes “written or visual material that emphasizes the sensuous or sensational aspects of a non-sexual subject, appealing to its audience in a manner likened […]

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Do Naked Images Always Lead to Objectification?

The stars and director of Blue Is the Warmest Color; photo via IMDB.com A lot of the commentary about the new film Blue Is the Warmest Color — in particular, its steamy lesbian sex scenes — has focused on the issue of objectification. The director of the movie is male, and many reviewers — both […]

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Erika Lust Wants to Turn Your Fantasy Into an Erotic Film

We frequently hear from couples who disagree on the subject of porn, and one of the first things we advise them is to be ethical and responsible when it comes to porn consumption, and to try out porn made by women and with a feminist perspective. Like Erika Lust, for example, an author and erotic […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Why Does My BF Look at Naked Pics of Celebs?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New […]