Rape
Dear Em & Lo, Are Rape Fantasies Normal…If I’m a Rape Survivor?

Close up of the 17th century painting “The Rape of the Sabine Women” by Cortona  Dear Em & Lo, I’m not sure if I’m going to word this correctly, but here it goes. I’m 20 years old and am engaged to a wonderful man who has blessed me with a son. Before I met him […]

Top 5 Kinds of Illegitimate Rape

photo by DonkeyHotey on Flickr A big thank you to Missouri Republican Senate candidate and House Committee Member on “Science, Space and Technology,” Todd Akin (pictured above), for finally saying what no one else has had courage to say publicly: that there’s legitimate rape (you know the type: big, scary, minority stranger breaks into your house in the […]

Why Women Have Ravishment and Rape Fantasies

photo via Parlez-Moi We wrote a post wrote here a few weeks back about research into men’s and women’s fantasy lives — and in particular, how often this sort of research is willfully misinterpreted. That got us wondering what other new fantasy research might be out there… and we came across a fascinating study about […]

Comment of the Week: “Ravishment Fantasy” NOT “Rape Fantasy”

From Claire, in response to the post “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies Too?” I just want to say that I am very very offended by the term “rape fantasy.” The word rape implies something being done to you (completely against your will) that you do not want. It should not be used in […]

Dream Interpretation: I’m Date-Raped By My Boyfriend

photo by mlvn.snmgl Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I woke up at 3AM and had a little trouble falling back asleep. When I finally fell asleep, I woke […]

Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies Too?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “You often hear how the rape fantasy is common in the minds of many women. Do men have this fantasy, too?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Tom Miller): I’m sure lots of men have rape […]

Love & Sex in YA Lit: THE COMPLICATED

Our friends, Em & Nora (who we like to call “Em & No”), recently launched a site for grown-ups about young adult literature called LoveYALit.com*, since (according to the New York Times) more and more people 18-and-over are enjoying books originally intended for the 18-and-under set. Of course, books about teens, the most hormonal among […]

Love & Sex in YA Lit: THE BAD

Our friends, Em & Nora (who we like to call “Em & No”), recently launched a site for grown-ups about young adult literature called LoveYALit.com*, since (according to the New York Times) more and more people 18-and-over are enjoying books originally intended for the 18-and-under set. Of course, books about teens, the most hormonal among […]

Help These Non-Profits with a Simple Online Vote!

Instead of pumping 20 million into Super Bowl advertising, Pepsi spent just one million and are putting the other 19 toward community grants in their Pepsi Refresh Challenge Grant. Here are two that are near and dear to our hearts that we think are worth your votes. You can vote every day until April 30 […]