Relationships
How To
5 Sensual Massage No-No’s

Denis and Emma Merkas are the founding couple of Melt: Massage for Couples. As a massage therapist since 2000, Denis has taught more than 15,000 couples the art of a great back rub: 1. Don’t Heat the oil in a microwave. I’ve heard stories of people warming up their massage oil in the microwave. *facepalm* Don’t ever be one of […]

Your Call
Your Call: How Can She Get Her Boyfriend to Appreciate Her More?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I feel unappreciated by my boyfriend: he doesn’t […]

How To
6 Ways to KILL Your Relationship

by Rebecca Jane Stokes for YourTango So you’re in a relationship. You’ve met the guy or gal of your choice, and now you’re together … but now what? We take it as a given that once we’ve found the person we want to be with that everything will just fall into place. That’s not always the case. Even the […]

How To
5 Ways to Get More “Us Time”

Emma Merkas is the co-founder of Melt: Massage for Couples along with her husband Denis, a massage therapist who’s taught more than 15,000 couples over the past 15 years the art of a great back rub: “US TIME” often falls by the wayside in long term relationships. It’s very easy to let all our other responsibilities creep in. We push our marriages […]

Confessions
“DON’T Marry Someone for Their Potential”

Embed from Getty Images   Ciris had a particularly thoughtful response to our recent Your Call, “How Can He Get His Boyfriend to Fight Fair?” which broached the topic of trying to change a partner before you get married: A lot of the discussion seems to be “what I would do” or pseudo-psychoanalysis of the […]

Your Call
How Do I Convince My Husband to Get a Vasectomy?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make YOUR CALL on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  How do I convince my husband to get a […]

Your Call
How Can He Get His Boyfriend to Fight Fair?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make YOUR CALL on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 […]

Dream Interpretation
My Boyfriend and I BOTH Dreamed I Cheated on Him

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Me and my boyfriend had the same type of dream. In mine, I cheated on […]

Research
Who Knew? Couples Who DO THIS Together Apparently Stay Together!

by Lindsay Tigar for YourTango Bad news slim couples… What is an indicator of a happy and successful relationship? Couple rings? Countless couple photos on Facebook? Family and friends who get along swimmingly? According to science, the best way to tell if a couple is happily in love is by looking at their waistlines.   giphy Research on the National Center […]

Your Call
Should She Dump Her Boyfriend Over Trump?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I’m a staunch democrat, my boyfriend is a […]

How To
One Straight Man’s Strong Case for the MFM Threeway

Doctor SexyThing for YourTango There are two kinds of threesomes, and don’t you dare get them confused. There’s “the good kind,” an FMF threesome, and there’s a “Devil’s Threesome” AKA a MFM threesome. MFM is the one guys are worried their girl really means when she says, “Sure, I’d be up for a threesome sometime.” (Please note: I’m not […]

Confessions
Like Rare White Antelopes, There ARE Men Who Don’t Watch Porn

Reader Corrinne recently responded to a comment by Madamoiselle L on the post “I’m Put Out About His Porn.” First L’s comment, followed by Corrinne’s:  Plehay said: “I’ve had very serious conversations with my boyfriend about why I am against the use of porn in lieu of human contact or communication, and the content that is […]

Dear Em & Lo
I Like My Coworker Better Than My Boyfriend — Should I Break Up?

Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we live together. In the beginning we were madly in love but then, as with most couples, things changed. We argue all the time. He runs off to Florida for the weekend to visit his friend and only tells me 12 hours before […]

Advice
An Escort’s 4 Well-Researched Reasons For Why Good Men Cheat

by Jessica Brighton for YourTango   HINT: It’s not because he doesn’t love you. Before launching my relationship coaching business, I spent five years working in Washington DC as an escort. This was a lucrative profession and I was fortunate to have met many wonderful clients and to have accompanied them around the world. Still, […]

How To
“Unbundling” — A Great Example of How to Divorce Amicably

A friend of ours on Facebook, whom we’ll call E, recently announced in a status update that he and his wife are divorcing. We were so impressed with the tone and spirit of the message and the approach to uncoupling they seem to be taking, we asked if we could reprint his posts here. They graciously agreed. […]

Dear Em & Lo
What Are the Rules of the Rebound?

Dear Em & Lo, I just got out of a long-term relationship. I’m just wondering how long one should wait before dating or hooking up or whatever it’s called these days again…? Is there a “right” amount of time? How can you tell if you’re rebounding? Is that a bad thing or is a rebound relationship something […]